Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist Trap

In this episode, Dr Craig Malkin, Psychology lecturer at Harvard Medical School and narcissism expert, discusses with us how ageing can affect narcissists. We talk about narcissistic collapses, and how  in older narcissists whose relationships have broken down they use projection (blaming others of what they themselves are thinking, feeling or doing) as a defence. Dr Malkin talks about the concept of the psychotic spiral, and how during a narcissistic collapse narcissists may even become delusional in their thinking. We also discuss therapy for narcissists, and what Dr Malkin's experience of this has been.

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders.  

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STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In the final episode of this mini series with Dr Elinor Greenburg, we ask Elinor whether it is possible to 'cure' a narcissist. Elinor explains how previously therapy would take 5-10 years to have an effect on a minority of narcissists, but how she has recently been working on a new therapy, which has much faster effects. She explains which specific type of narcissist is able to respond to this type of therapy, and the strict boundaries and rules she enforces when working with them.  They discuss the concept of neuroplasticity and how treating narcissist involves breaking old autopilots and creating new ones. Elinor explains what drew to her working in this field, and they discuss depression in narcissists, and how the "Nobel Prize narcissists' rarely fall into depressions ('or narcissistic collapses').

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders.  

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker continue their conversation with  world renowned psychotherapist and educator Dr Elinor Greenberg.  Elinor explains how to manage a narcissist using her 'narcissistic sandwich' technique. Karin describes how she uses this technique herself in her role as a family lawyer and a mediator, and highlights why it is so important for family law practitioners to understand that they are dealing with a narcissist, so that they can facilitate negotiations effectively.  They discuss the concept of  'hoovering' and give tips for preparing to leave the narcissist, and how to prepare for narcissistic rage.

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders. 

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker talk to internationally renowned Narcissism expert and psychotherapist Dr Elinor Greenberg. They delve into what 'healthy narcissism' is, how people become narcissists, and what determines whether a child will become a narcissist. Elinor differentiates narcissists from psychopaths and gives her view on the idea that narcissists are 'evil' - and she recommends her psychology.com article "Narcissistic Judo" for those who wish to try to keep things smooth with a narcissist.

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders. 

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this fascinating episode , the first of a small series, Dr Supriya and Karin are joined by internationally recognised NPD expert and psychologist Dr Elinor Greenberg, who is famed for her work in explaining NPD to the general public and working directly with narcissists and those who have been affected by them. Elinor discusses the essential concept of 'whole object relations' to explain why the narcissist sees people as only 'all good' or 'all bad'. She describes the 3 types of narcissist - as first identified by James F Masterson, with whom she studied,  and explains her concept of the 'GOD defense' as demonstrated by exhibitionist narcissists.

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders.  

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

Barrister Nicholas Wilkinson, from leading London chambers One Hare Court, shares his thoughts in part two of this episode. Nick has a wealth of experience in dealing with cases involving narcissists, and has been the instructed barrister in a number of high profile cases. He recently successfully represented Princess Haya of Jordan in the High Court during her divorce from the Ruler of Dubai. In this episode Nick runs through the specific considerations that are necessary when  cross examining a narcissist on the witness stand, and gives his tips for how to do so. They also discuss the use of terms such as 'gaslighting' in court and why a narcissist's bad behaviour will not usually be relevant in determining a financial settlement. 

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism. Her most up-to-date books are: 

• Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving 
• Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth and 
• The Narcissist Trap: The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders  

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this episode narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and solicitor Karin Walker speak with acclaimed barrister Nicholas Wilkinson, from One Hare Court Chambers. Nick has a deep understanding of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and has been involved in many high conflict cases. He even successfully represented Princess Haya of Jordan in her recent high profile divorce from the Ruler of Dubai. They discuss how common it is, in Nick's experience, for solicitors to be unaware that narcissism is at play in their cases. They also talk about how difficult it is to spot a covert (closet) narcissist in court proceedings and why it is so dangerous to miss this type. They discuss how the true narcissist has an overriding sense of entitlement in the divorce, which they cannot be talked out of and which doesn't subside at all over time. Nick makes the point that it is particularly hard to spot covert narcissists on the 'other side' because what might look like a sense of entitlement could actually be an aggressive stance taken by their lawyers, rather than by the client themselves.

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders.  

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Supriya's new book, the second in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is here.

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In this episode highly acclaimed barrister Nicholas Wilkinson explains the specifics of why it is so important for family law barristers to understand narcissism, and the potential pitfalls of not recognising it in their clients. Nick is most recently known for successfully representing Princess Haya of Jordan (the former wife of the ruler of Dubai)  in the High Court. 

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books

• Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving 
• Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth and 
• The Narcissist Trap: The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders  

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this episode, narcissism expert and bestselling author,  Dr Supriya McKenna, explains the many difficulties faced by anyone who is trying to extricate themselves from a narcissistic relationship.  She deconstructs the psychological issues that have resulted from narcissistic abuse and explains how it is these very things themselves that make leaving so hard - and she busts the myth that the abuse can't have been real or serious, because if it had been then the victim would have left sooner. She also explains why it is so common for victims to return to the narcissist after many repeated attempts at leaving, and talks about addiction to the narcissist, gaslighting, isolation, hoovering, guilt, complex PTSD , anxiety and fear - and how all of these have a part to play in making leaving so very difficult.

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders.

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...

In this episode, Dr Caroline Logan, and narcissism expert and bestselling author Dr Supriya McKenna, discuss violence in narcissistic relationships, and the part played by gender. They also discuss the realities of getting a personality disorder diagnosis for the purposes of Court, what the purpose of doing so could be, and what you need to consider when looking for a suitably qualified diagnostic professional to act as an expert witness.   

Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders.  

Support the show

STOP PRESS: Dr Supriya's in-person conference "How to Divorce a Narcissist - a Conference for Survivors" will be taking place on 27th February 2027, at the IET, Austin Court, Birmingham, UK. Tickets are priced at just £45, thanks to a large philanthropic donation, and are available from EventBrite. For more information, please head to narcissistsindivorce.co.uk. Please book early to avoid disappointment, as delegate places are strictly limited to a total of 150. 

Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book.

The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in depth, comprehensive, holistic guide, it exposes the inadequacies of worldwide family justice systems, and shows you how to stay afloat, how to take control of the narrative, how to protect your mental health and much, much more.

The first book of the series, Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving helps you determine whether you are dealing with a true narcissist, and if so, what you need to consider regarding leaving. The audiobook sample is  h...