We've all heard about "putting yourself first," but for Black women, that concept often feels foreign or even forbidden. This week, I'm diving deep into what it truly means for Black women to prioritize themselves in a world that constantly demands our energy, care, and emotional labor.

Drawing from the current season of Love Island, I explore how the relationship between Nic and Olandria beautifully demonstrates what happens when a Black woman is genuinely cared for rather than being the constant caretaker. As a self-proclaimed president of "Nicolandria Nation," I break down why I'm so invested in their story – it's about witnessing a Black woman who has clearly spent her life being strong for others finally experiencing tenderness and having someone prioritize her needs.

Let's talk about what "being selfish" actually means for Black women. The truth? It's not selfishness at all – it's simply giving ourselves the same basic care and respect we've been conditioned to give everyone else. I understand the pressure to always be the provider, the strong one. But what if we flipped the script?

From unpacking cultural expectations around "Black love" to examining how Black women are often villainized regardless of how they express their needs, this episode challenges us to rethink relationship dynamics. The message is simple but revolutionary: find someone who genuinely likes you, not just loves what you do for them. And remember, when it comes to Black women's well-being, we can't wait for the world to give us permission to rest – we must claim it for ourselves.

Ready to challenge your thinking about relationships, self-worth, and what it means to truly put yourself first? This conversation is long overdue. Subscribe now, share with a friend who needs to hear this message, and let's continue building a world where Black women's care for themselves is celebrated, not condemned.