After Sunny’s, Siri’s, and Kate’s bios all had themes of emotional over giving, we decided to devote episode seven solely to unpacking what over giving is, why we do it, and how to heal. A long overdue spotlight is shone on how our patriarchal culture fiercely gas lights over givers, who are predominately women, and why. The over giver/over taker relationship dynamic in the U.S. is rampant in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships. The reasons for it are not just psychological, but most definitely cultural as well. And it’s as American as guns and porn. Note: The term over-giver is used instead of co-dependent, because many people do not identify with everything that is associated with co-dependency. Overgiving can be defined as emotionally over-extending yourself and sacrificing your own boundaries to please the over-taker in your life. So please join us for another episode of Open Deeply as we dive into hearts and minds of over givers and culture that shapes them.

Episode Links:

Information on EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/

Information on Borderline Personality Disorder: https://www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.org/what-is-bpd/bpd-overview/

Eve Rickert's referenced blog entry: https://brighterthansunflowers.com/

The websites referenced regarding Franklin Veaux:

https://polyamory-metoo.com/ and https://www.itrippedonthepolystair.com/

Where to find co-host Sunny Megatron:

Website: http://sunnymegatron.com

Facebook http://facebook.com/sunnymegatron

Twitter http://twitter.com/sunnymegatron

Instagram http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron

Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron

YouTube https://www.youtube.com/sunnymegatron

American Sex Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/2HroMhWJnyZbMSsOBKwBnk

TV Show, Sex with Sunny Megatron https://www.sho.com/sex-with-sunny-megatron/season/1

Where to find co-host Kate Loree:

Website: http://kateloree.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KateLoreeLMFT/

Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft

Instagram http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree

YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSTFAqGYKW3sIUa0tKivbqQ

Open Deeply podcast is not a replacement for therapy or therapy. Please know this episode has themes of sexual and emotional abuse and neglect. If you catch yourself becoming emotionally overwhelmed by this episode’s content, please get support. Call a friend, therapist, or an emotional support hotline, such as, 800-273-talk (8255).