"The problem is to believe that the assumptions we make are the truth."

- Ana Melikian

In this episode, the host, Ana Melikian, dives into the intricacies of the third agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz's renowned book, "The Four Agreements"—Don't Make Assumptions. Ana illustrates the detrimental effects of holding assumptions as truth and how this mindset limits our potential.

Ana emphasizes the importance of finding the courage to ask questions and clearly communicate with others to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and unnecessary drama. She skillfully parallels this agreement with the previous one, “Don't Take Anything Personally,” highlighting how both are rooted in the projection of our internal realities.

Using relatable scenarios—like sending an important email and awaiting a response or interpreting social interactions at a conference—Ana demonstrates how easy it is for assumptions to take over and lead to negative mental chatter. She encourages listeners to adopt mindfulness to let go of these assumptions and underscores the value of clear communication as a way to prevent false beliefs from clouding our interactions.

For those looking to expand their self-awareness and master the skills of better communication and present-mindedness, this episode is a must-listen.

Let's dive in!

This week on The Mindset Zone:

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:53 Brief Recap of Previous Agreement

01:21 Introduction to the Third Agreement: Don't Make Assumptions

02:33 The Natural Tendency to Make Assumptions

04:01 Real-Life Scenario: The Unanswered Email

06:18 Real-Life Scenario: Conference Interaction and Assumptions

08:35 Understanding Assumptions as Thoughts

09:42 The Mindfulness Approach to Letting Go of Assumptions

10:58 Clear Communication: Making Lives Easier

11:57 Preview of Next Episode: Always Do Your Best

12:15 Conclusion and Call to Action

Meet Your Host:

Ana Melikian, Ph.D., advises leaders on how to amplify impact while avoiding burnout. She is passionate about teaching others how to unlock their human potential using simple and powerful approaches such as her P.I.E. method.

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Set a time to speak with Ana HERE and learn about your (or your team's) burnout risk and how to enhance well-being, effectiveness, and teamwork!

Connect with:

Ana on LinkedIn

Resources:

Book: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz

Related episodes:

Internal Vs. External: How Attribution Theory Helps Us Apply The Four Agreements

Transforming Self-Talk: The Impact of Words on Mindset and Growth

How the Four Agreements Can Help Uncover Your Mindset Blind Spots

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