Perfectionism Rewired

Do you thrive under pressure? Find it hard to chill even while on vacation? Chronic stress is a silent affliction many perfectionists experience daily without realizing it. Discover sneaky symptoms of burnout, the subtle yet profound ways chronic stress manifests and how to recognize it in your daily life. Understand the science on why stress addiction = same impact on your neurobiology as drug addition and how to de-stress as a perfectionist. 

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:

• How to identify the chronic stress in your life
• Sneaky symptoms of burnout for perfectionists
• The impact of stress addiction on your mind, body and performance
• Practical strategies to build resilience and de-stress effectively

EPSISODE 180 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-I'm So Stressed Out

01:51-Take The Chronic Stress Quiz

03:31-What Cocaine + Stress Have in Common

04:50-Why Your Stress Isn't Relieved Yet

06:06-Stress Cocktail + Why Perfectionists Are addicted to stress

08:05-How Your Stress Tolerance Puts Your Health At Risk

09:12-The Missing Ingredient in Your Stress Management 

10:34-Impact of Burnout for perfectionists

11:15-The Perfect Strategy For Staying Stressed Out

13:20-Training Yourself for Patterns of Joy + Success

1. Burton, G. J., & Jauniaux, E. (2011). Oxidative stress. Baillière’s Best Practice & Research. Clinical Obstetrics & Gynaecology/Baillière’s Best Practice and Research in Clinical Obstetrics and Gynaecology, 25(3), 287–299. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bpobgyn.2010.10.016
2. Chu, B., Marwaha, K., Sanvictores, T., Awosika, A. O., & Ayers, D. (2024, May 7). Physiology, Stress Reaction. Retrieved June 14, 2024, from Nih.gov website: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541120/
3. Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98
4. Larijani, Roja, and Mohammad Ali Besharat. “Perfectionism and Coping Styles with Stress.” Procedia—Social and Behavioral Sciences 5 (2010): 623–27. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sbspro.2010.07.154
5. Sirois, F. M., J. Monforton, and M. Simpson. “If Only I Had Done Better: Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 36, no. 12 (2010): 1675–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you tired of getting by? Ready to move beyond burn out? Discover the *real reason* you're burning out (it has nothing to do with meditation or caffeine intake) and how to stop settling for a life running on 20% battery. Hear from Perfectionism Optimized client Kevin bravely shares his story of being the all-star perfectionist parent addicted to stress, on the verge of divorce living in a pressure-cooker of his own making and resentful AF. Discover how he moved beyond band-aid solutions for being burnt out, let go of the need for control and rewired to become a playful parent, partner and person.

If you want to make sure Burn Out NEVER HAPPENS TO YOU AGAIN and want proven, science-backed tools to INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently holding you hostage, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching.  Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

Listen to the Full  Episode To Learn:

• Why you want to alter how you perceive and react to your signs of burnout
• How adverse childhood experiences contribute to.over functioning
• What Kevin did step-by-step to go from from over-functioning stress addiction to rewire and redefine success on his own terms

• Perfectionism Optimized: empowers perfectionists and high-achieving, Type A individuals to take charge, leverage their perfectionistic tendencies and quit fighting against their perfectionism forever using proven neuroscience so you can feel as amazing as your life looks and become the powerhouse you’re designed to be.
• The Body Keeps Score: A book that delves into how the body stores stress and trauma, emphasizing the importance of treating both mind and body.

EPSISODE 179 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:23-Understanding the real root of why Perfectionists are Burned Out

02:41-Kevin's Story: From Stress Addict to Playful Parent

04:05-Exploring the Roots of Over functioning

06:17-If I do it all perfect and stay in control then I AM SAFE

07:11-Diving Deep into the Psychology of Perfectionism

09:16-Olivia Benson, Special Victims Unit + Owning Your Over Functioning

10:20-How Shooting Up Heroin is just like Using Perfectionism To Manage Stress

12:15-Assessing the Impact of Burnout + Doing Life at 20%

13:42-Holistic Approach to Healing Perfectionism

16:10-Why Band-Aid Solutions Like Therapy Make Burnout Worse

17:18-Developing Customized Proven Pathways that Integrate your Somatic

18:32-The Simple Science Of Tracking Detailed Data for Progress

21:55-How to Recognize Early Signs of Burnout

22:47-Celebrating Kevin's Transformation and Triumph

25:19-Who Will You Choose to Be? Warning Label or Shining Example?

1. Burton, G. J., & Jauniaux, E. (2011). Oxidative stress. Baillière’s Best Practice & Research. Clinical Obstetrics & Gynaecology/Baillière’s Best Practice and Research in Clinical Obstetrics and Gynaecology, 25(3), 287–299. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bpobgyn.2010.10.016
2. Chu, B., Marwaha, K., Sanvictores, T., Awosika, A. O., & Ayers, D. (2024, May 7). Physiology, Stress Reaction. Retrieved June 14, 2024, from Nih.gov website: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541120/
3. Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98
4. Larijani, Roja, and Mohammad Ali Besharat. “Perfectionism and Coping Styles with Stress.” Procedia—Social and Behavioral Sciences 5 (2010): 623–27. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sbspro.2010.07.154
5. Sirois, F. M., J. Monforton, and M. Simpson. “If Only I Had Done Better: Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 36, no. 12 (2010): 1675–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

From Rigidity to Flexibility: hear CLG’s personal journey of how she went from judging the crap out of herself at age 5 with raging rigid self-criticism to a flexible, curious, elevated perspective. And how she put into a process to make you turn decades into days. Take the hard work and guess work out of battling perfectionism by rewiring your autopilot responses through neurosculpting. This simple scientific method changes your neural pathways to permanently transform your most annoying perfectionistic habits from a weakness to a strength. 

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want proven, science-backed tools to INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently holding you hostage, you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the Full  Episode To Hear:

• How neurosculpting is unrivaled compared to traditional methods in helping rewire perfectionistic habits
• Why harsh self-criticism is solved permanently through neuroplasticity
• How to tell if your curiosity muscle is under-developed
• What works best for rapid change small changes daily over time vs sweeping changes at a Tony Robbins event

EPSISODE 178 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:24-Where Perfectionism Recovery Will Take You (spoiler alert it SUCKS, not worth it)

02:01-CLG's Turning Point with Perfectionism

03:14-The Ineffectiveness of Conventional "Solutions" for Perfectionists

04:56-Going from Helpless Victim of Perfectionism to Victorious Perfectionist

06:28-Introduction to Neurosculpting: The Revolutionary Approach for Perfectionists

07:42-Perks of Neurosculpting + Incrementalism

09:05-Fast Track Your Change Inside The Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Do your mistakes make you cringe? Say goodbye to the burnout of excellence and learn how to rewire your perfectionism for success without the stress. Discover the four transformative phases of permanent change, the role of your reticular activating system in changing perfectionistic habits, importance of novelty and playfulness in rewiring the brain and action steps to start correcting your perfectionist tendencies today!

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits so you can be joyfully ambitious, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the Full  Episode To Hear:

• Why novelty is your ally and how to create it on command
• The Four Phases of Rewiring Perfectionism Simplified
• How neuroplasticity is essential for rewiring perfectionist habits
• Activate your brain's Reticular Activating System (RAS) to notice change and accelerate your progress

1 Waking Up Phase: Recognize new insights and apply them, accepting it's a gradual process.
2 Momentum Phase: Build intentionality and observe the impact of your actions.
3 Make or Break Phase: Experiment, analyze + learn from experiences to solve and evolve.
4 Habit Phase: Solidify new behaviors, knowing some old habits may persist but won't dominate or be your default
5 Seek Guidance: Consider expert coaching like Perfectionism Optimized to gain solidified  atomic habits

"You're not just reprogramming a habit, you're reprogramming your response to life." - Courtney Love Gavin, Perfectionism Rewired Episode 177

EPSISODE 177 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:23-The Perfectionism Dilemma for High Achievers

02:41-Misconceptions around permanent change and mistakes

03:18-Role of science in developing solid self-compassion

04:19-Four phases of permanent change

06:39-Going from feeling victimized by mistakes to seeing them as learning opportunities

07:26-Your Reticular Activating System's role in manhandling mistakes

08:22-Why Sustainable change is a process, not a one-time event.

09:58-Creating Novelty So You're Brain Doesn't Get Bored

11:06-How to Analyze Your Mistakes without Judgment

11:59-Actionable steps to start understanding your own perfectionistic tendencies

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Think perfectionism is a dream killer? Discover the underlying reasons why we allow perfectionism to control our lives and how perfectionism can be both a shield and a sword. Commitment versus compliance and practical step to use your perfectionism as an asset.  

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the Full  Episode To Hear:

• Difference between being committed and being compliant.
• Unconscious Payoffs we get by being held hostage by our perfectionism
• How to figure out what's actually holding you back and use your perfectionistic habits to accelerate
• Practical steps to use perfectionism as an asset.

1. Acknowledge the Choice: Recognize that being held back by perfectionism is a choice.
2. Identify the Payoff: Understand the benefits you derive from your perfectionistic habits.
3. Commitment Over Compliance: Commit to small, achievable daily goals and track your progress.
4. Challenge Your Excuses: Recognize and challenge the changing excuses your brain offers.
5. Seek Guidance: Consider joining programs like Perfectionism Optimized to gain structured support.

EPSISODE 176 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:32-The Paradox of Choice of Perfectionism

02:19-Reasons vs. Results: Psychological Gains of Blaming

03:18-Understanding Why We ALLOW Perfectionism to Control Our Lives

03:52-Payoff of Perfectionistic Habits

04:37-Writers Block and Crippling Perfectionism

05:00-Breaking Free from External Control 

06:24-How Your Brain Distracts From Your True Goals

08:22-Taking Charge, Staying Committed + Not Letting Excuses Drive Your Actions

08:56-Building Commitment Incrementally with Perfectionism Playbook

09:37-Actionable Steps for Aspiring Writers

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

 Find out exactly how you can use your Health Insurance, HSA and/or FSA to pay for coaching and how having ADHD, depression, anxiety etc can actually help you, with this step-by-step guide, Including a fill-in-the-blank packet you can take to your provider to get a prescription and letter of medical necessity for perfectionism coaching. My clients have used this packet and it's been approved 100% of the time. 

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 6-Week Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Resources Inside This Episode:

• Introductory Coaching Session (cost can be applied to all future coaching) here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/perfectionism-coaching-perfect-start
• Complete guide + FAQ about using your health insurance + HSA for coaching here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/insurance-cover-coaching
• Doctor Ready Template: fill-in-the-blank  designed to simplify the process of gaining medical approvals. Download your Letter of Medical Necessity to use with your physician here: https://bit.ly/coaching-prescription

Step-by-Step Process to Utilize Health Benefits for Coaching:

Understanding Medical Coverage: If you have a Flexible Spending Account (FSA), Health Savings Account (HSA), or Health Reimbursement Account (HRA), you might be eligible to use these funds for qualified medical expenses.

Eligibility Check: All services by Perfectionist Solutions including health and wellness coaching and assessments, fall under the category of "qualified medical expenses."

Seeking Reimbursement: Health insurance often operates with CPT codes, approved by the American Medical Association (AMA). Check if your health insurance provides reimbursement.

Leverage Resources: Utilize the resources here to navigate the medical jargon and get the required approvals.

EPSISODE 175 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

00:58-Health Insurance & Perfectionism Coaching  

02:44-Traditional vs. Rooted Approaches to Perfectionism 

03:16-FSA, HSA & HRA for Perfectionism Coaching 

03:49-Health & Wellness Coaching: A Qualified Medical Expense 

04:13-Reimbursement through Health Insurance 

05:03-Navigating Health Insurance for Wellness Coaching 

05:28-CLG's Mission: Helping Every Perfectionist 

06:15-Medical Conditions & Perfectionism Coaching Benefits 

06:55-Overlooked Medical Diagnoses & Their Impact

08:19-Speaking the 'Medical Language' for Approvals 

09:25-How To Feel Way Better Before Christmas

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Why do you want to take control of your perfectionism? The key is identifying your most important reasons. Then you can use them as your secret  weapon to become failproof. How? With this simple tool. Master this tool and overcoming perfectionism becomes a no-brainer.

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 6-Week Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• Why "Whys" are pivotal in rewiring your perfectionist tendencies
• Reasons why we as perfectionists often get stuck, avoid or quit when things get hard
• How to start fail-proofing your perfectionism today!

"When you make Perfectionism a villain, you put yourself in victim mentality. Perfectionism is not a villain. People only make it a villain when they are unable to educate you on how to own your perfectionism." - CLG, Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 174

EPSISODE 174 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction + Recovering Perfectionist Battle Cry

01:18-The Misunderstanding of Perfectionism

02:22-Why Being A Recovering Perfectionist is a LIE

03:09-The Mental Traps of Perfectionism

04:15-The Pitfalls of Old Outdated Overcome Perfectionism Methods

05:24-The Brain Behind Perfectionism

06:55-The Power of 'Why' in Rewiring

09:22-Practical Steps: Keeping Your 'Why' Front and Center

10:59-Moments of Impact: Making Conscious Choices

12:50-Real-life 'Whys' from Perfectionists Who've Taken Control

14:04-How You Can Fail-Proof Your Perfectionism

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Ever wish you could just turn your feelings off? For years I wanted to be a robot bc I sucked at expressing emotions. Now I know what to do with feelings and can easily make space for emotions without drowning in them. Emotions can either propel or paralyze you, here's how to understand and navigate them as a perfectionist.

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• Discover the two main ways society has miseducated us about expressing emotions and the pivotal techniques to unlearn them.
• Two essential questions to ask to get out of the emotional swap + get clear
• The difference between self-compassion, emotional petting, reflection, rumination and more.
• Perfectionist tendencies and how they become unhealthy coping mechanisms
• How Jamal + Veronica took control of their emotions and perfectionism so they co-exist in harmony

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habitsI, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching program Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services

EPSISODE 173 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction + Sneak Peak of Topic

01:43-Two Major Misconceptions About Expressing Emotions 

02:22-Dismissing Emotions vs Taking Charge of Your Emotions 

03:28-Dangers of Black and White Thinking About Emotions 

03:42-The Role of Capitalism in Controlling of Emotions

04:06-Differentiating Self Compassion, Reflection, Discipline and Expressing Feelings 

04:58-When Perfectionism Becomes An Unhealthy Coping Mechanism 

07:04-Why Focusing On Present Rather Than Past Is Where You Find Answers 

07:37-Differentiating Between Expressing and Explaining Feelings 

08:06-The Pitfalls of Overexpressing and Underexplaining Feelings

09:57-How Providing Context for Emotional Experiences is Key

10:47-The Challenge of Underexpressing and Overexplaining Emotions

12:45-How A Healthy Perfectionist Handles Emotions in a Better Way 

13:30-Two Key Questions to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence + Feel Better Faster

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

The new science of perfectionism: revealed. Discover the profound impact of neuroplasticity on reshaping perfectionist tendencies, neuroplasticity defined (so simply a 5 year old gets it), what this looks like IRL and how your age influences your brain's ability to change + adapt. 

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• How your age influences your brain's ability to change and adapt
• Why this works freaky fast to shift rigid perfectionist mindsets
• Importance of curiosity + dangers of letting your inner critic continue to rampage

If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habitsI, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching program Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services

EPSISODE 172 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction To Episode 172

01:17-The Speed of Overcoming Perfectionism

02:36-Visualization of Your Brain & Nervous Systems as a Power Grid

04:15-Impact of Rigid Neural Pathways & Your Inner Critic

05:47-Gaining Flexibility in Your Own Perceptions

06:39-Creating Safe Environments for Brain Plasticity

07:34-Increasing Your Brain Span, Preventing Dementia and Alzheimer's 

08:55-Real-life Example of Client's Experience with Neuroplastic Change

10:06-Neuro-Sculpting & its Benefits

11:19-Bridge Between Neuroplasticity & Perfectionism

13:03-Neuroplasticity: Age, Leverage & Your Tipping Point

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Ever felt you've achieved so much but still aren't satisfied? Too many driven perfectionists are never feeling good enough and struggling to maintain high-achievements without burning out. That stops now. Discover their root causes and the surprising reason why over-achieving lowers satisfaction levels for perfectionistic . Plus the only two questions you need to ask to determine if your striving is healthy or unhealthy.

Listen to the ull episode to Learn:

• The most overlooked stage of change and growth (that even top performers miss!)
• Inefficiency of constantly overcoming perfectionist thoughts + what to do instead
• When IS enough enough (how to tell)

EPSISODE 171 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Unhealthy vs Healthy Striving

01:39-Two Fatal Flaws of Perfectionism

02:15-The Deception of Achievement

02:55-Surprising Research Findings on Perfectionists' Satisfaction

03:27-First Fatal Flaw of Achievement 

04:02-Why Emotional Agility & Self-Esteem Are Required

04:50-Power of Rewiring Your Perfectionist Mindset 

07:06-Moving the goalposts 

08:03-Energy Management in Perfectionism

09:27-Two Questions Every Perfectionist Must Ask 

10:58-Unhealthy patterns perfectionists often fall into + how to break free

13:11-Honoring Your Intentions vs. Achieving Goals 

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.