Perfectionism Rewired

Discover how the perfectionist sunk cost fallacy could be holding you back and learn how to break free from its grip. From wearing clothes you hate, to staying in relationships or careers way past their expiration date, Sunk Cost fallacy is a lethal landmine for perfectionistic people. Find out if you’re making decisions aligned with your values or loss aversion, sunk cost definition for perfectionists, tricks sunk cost effect plays on you, why its challenging to see your own sunk costs, IRL sunk cost fallacy examples and how perfectionists can stop falling prey to sunk cost suck-i-ness forever.

Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Leveraged you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from sunk cost fallacy + lethal perfectionism landmines. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services

1. Identify Sunk Cost Fallacy: Recognize where you're holding onto investments, relationships, or decisions you would not re-choose for yourself today BC you’ve “already spent so much time, energy, money or effort”
2. If You Want Your Future, Forget Your Past: Stop living in the prison of your past choices and exit to the playground of possibility. Dropping the black and white thinking that persevering = productive
3. Make intentional decisions that empower you for the rest of your life: Check your choices with your values and pivot away from unfulfilling situations or relationships.
4. Practice Makes Permanent: To progress 100x faster, make the journey funner and strengthen your interoceptive awareness consider working with a perfectionism coach

00:00-Perfectionists + Sunk Costs

01:51-What is sunk cost fallacy

03:26-Shedding the Weight of Sunk Costs

04:56-Being Resourceful instead of limiting your resources

05:36-Sunk Cost Effect in Unfulfilling Careers + Unhappy Relationships

07:12-Why FEELS Smart To Continue Pouring Money, time, effort when you've already sunk

09:18-Putting yourself in the victim drama triangle

11:10-Sunk Cost With Example Baby Gucci Loafers

12:03-Quick Correct Choices with Embodied Presence Interoceptive Connection

13:32-when to persevere and when to pivot

14:36-Prioritizing your values over sunk costs

15:50-No longer a victim to chronic overachieving

18:17-Proud of yourself regardless of how much you accomplish

Rich Resources Mentioned In This Sunk Cost Episode:

• How I Lost 50 pounds by Being The Worst (Leveraging Perfectionism video)
• Perfectionist's Guide to Uncovering Victim Mentality  (Part 1)
• Mamba Mentality vs Victim Mentality (Part 2)
• Are You Living In The Victim Triangle? (Perfectionism Rewired ep. 181)
• Starter Perfectionism Rewiring 1-1 Coaching  Pack (steal of a deal)

HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES ON SUNK COST REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:  

1. Dijkstra, K. A., & Hong, Y. Y. (2019). The feeling of throwing good money after bad: The role of affective reaction in the sunk-cost fallacy. PloS one, 14(1), e0209900. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0209900
2. Jarmolowicz, D. P., Bickel, W. K., Sofis, M. J., Hatz, L. E., & Mueller, E. T. (2016). Sunk costs, psychological symptomology, and help seeking. SpringerPlus, 5(1), 1699. https://doi.org/10.1186/s40064-016-3402-z
3. Schmitzer-Torbert N. (2020). Mindfulness and decision making: sunk costs or escalation of commitment?. Cognitive processing, 21(3), 391–402. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10339-020-00978-4
4. Schulreich, S., Dandolo, L. C., & Schwabe, L. (2022). Sunk costs under stress: Acute stress reduces the impact of past expenses on risky decisions. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 137, 105632. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2021.105632
5. Tait, V., & Miller, H. L., Jr (2019). Loss Aversion as a Potential Factor in the Sunk-Cost Fallacy. International journal of psychological research, 12(2), 8–16. https://doi.org/10.21500/20112084.3951
6. Zeng, J., Zhang, Q., Chen, C., Yu, R., & Gong, Q. (2013). An fMRI study on sunk cost effect. Brain research, 1519, 63–70. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.brainres.2013.05.001

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Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Sometimes, support sucks. As a perfectionist this gets especially tricky when you're also wobbly on advocating for yourself. If you've ever felt trapped by your own high expectations this episode breaks down the barriers that perfectionists often face when it comes to asking for and receiving support, illuminating the internal struggles and external pressures that's enormously misunderstood by non-perfectionistic people. 

Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Leveraged you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from panic + controlling everything  all the time. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services

00:00-Self-Advocacy When Support Falls Short

02:22-Feel like a weirdo when your internal experience is icky and you're still doing phenomenally on the outside 

04:00-A Fvck Down vs A Fvck Up

06:10-Going Where Your Perfectionism Growth Area IS

07:22-Empowered Responsibilty + Perfectionist Self-Advocacy IRL

07:40-Perfectionism Leveraged Client Feedback

08:11-Being a perfectionist in public

09:29-What really matters when support fails you

10:35-Two Questions All Perfectionists Need After They Encounter A Mistake

11:05- Why endure perfectionism when you can enjoy it instead?

HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:  

1. Farmer, J. R., Mackinnon, S. P., & Cowie, M. (2017). Perfectionism and Life Narratives: A Qualitative Study. SAGE Open, 7(3). https://doi.org/10.1177/2158244017721733
2. ‌Johnson, K. M., Slavin, S., & Takahashi, T. A. (2023). Excellent vs Excessive: Helping Trainees Balance Performance and Perfectionism. Journal of Graduate Medical Education, 15(4), 424–427. https://doi.org/10.4300/jgme-d-23-00003.1
3. ‌Steinert, C., Heim, N., & Leichsenring, F. (2021). Procrastination, Perfectionism, and Other Work-Related Mental Problems: Prevalence, Types, Assessment, and Treatment—A Scoping Review. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2021.736776

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Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

 Imagine steering a tiny dinghy in stormy seas. That's control. Now, picture yourself commanding a majestic yacht, gliding effortlessly over the waves. That's power. That’s this episode. In this episode CLG lays out the shortest, simplest pathway to the results you actually want: power, peace and presence with a special focus on parenting and daily life.  

Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) inside Perfectionism Optimized you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from panic + controlling everything  all the time. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

• Parenting Insights: Essential tips for perfectionist parents on presence and power dynamics with children
• Recognizing the REAL reasons underneath your need for control and getting to the root of feeling safe
• Understanding the distinction between living in the present moment and being fixated on being happy the future
• E.P.I.C. Framework: Introducing the Embodied Presence Interoceptive Connection framework for perfectionists ready to live a calm, empowered and deliciously rich life.

01:52-Understanding the impact of controlling perfectionistic tendencies on daily life
03:11-Felt Safety: Why your environment doesn't determine your safety and what does
05:53-Hidden motivations secretly fueling perfectionism anxiety
09:00-Mindfulness Strategies for ending Control Loops
10:42-Distinction between needing and wanting to do something
13:14-Perks of living in Present Time + enhancing perfectionist productivity
15:04-Being responsive instead of reactive
20:20-Your EPIC Framework: Practical tools for perfectionists to tune in + build permanent resilience

Truth + Accuracy in this Episode Provided By: 

1. Barrett, L. F., Mesquita, B., & Gendron, M. (2011). Context in Emotion Perception. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 20(5), 286–290. https://doi.org/10.1177/0963721411422522
2. Frankl, V. E. (1992). *Man's search for meaning: An introduction to logotherapy* (4th ed.) (I. Lasch, Trans.). Beacon Press.‌
3. Hinton, A., McReynolds, M. R., Martinez, D., Shuler, H., & Termini, C. M. (2020). The power of saying no. EMBO Reports, 21(7). https://doi.org/10.15252/embr.202050918
4. Lisa Feldman Barrett, Mesquita, B., Ochsner, K. N., & Gross, J. J. (2007). The Experience of Emotion. Annual Review of Psychology, 58(1), 373–403. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev.psych.58.110405.085709
5. Mahler, K., McLaughlin, E., & Anson, D. (2020). Interoception across varying degrees of mental wellness. American Journal of Occupational Therapy, 74(4.1, Suppl.). https://doi.org/10.5014/ajot.2020.74S1-PO9513
6. Mahler, K., (2019). The Interoception Curriculum, Kelly Mahler
7. Mary Durand Thomas, & Bigatti, S. M. (2020). Perfectionism, impostor phenomenon, and mental health in medicine: a literature review. International Journal of Medical Education, 11, 201–213. https://doi.org/10.5116/ijme.5f54.c8f8

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Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

When you stop trying to get people to like you or validate you (or listen to your podcast) this wild phenomenon occurs: You become popular! Plot twist that makes you pause as to why for sooooo long you tried soooo hard and cared soooo much about being well received it never happened. Happy surprises + insights inside. 

In a world of quick fixes, you deserve lasting change. Experience the embodied Presence of rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Leveraged, the only neuroscience-backed 1-1 coaching that gives you the abilities to control YOUR emotions and feel as put together as your life looks. To see if Perfectionism Leveraged might be the answer you’ve been looking for, go to https://courtneylovegavin.com

• How CLG's tiny and mighty changes add up to big impacts for Perfectionism Rewired
• Most shared Perfectionism Rewired episode in 2023 on Spotify
• Countries to find other perfectionistic people with exquisite taste like yourself

What's Inside This Episode:

00:00-Love Language of Gift Giving

02:28-Special Holiday Gift Announcement For Perfectionism Rewired community

02:43-Perfectionism Is The New ADHD

03:17-Global Reach: Top NEW Listener Countries

04:37-Most Shared Episode on Spotify "Why Am I Self Sabotaging?"

06:04-The Significance of 99 Spotify Fans

07:09-CLG Punitive Perfectionism IRL

08:11-Looking at your own data without the drama

09:15-Perfectionism Impacts 92% of Global Population

11:09-What Happens When You're Present
 

Highly Credible Sources Referenced in This Episode:

• Curran, T., & Hill, A. P. (2019). Perfectionism is increasing over time: A meta-analysis of birth cohort differences from 1989 to 2016. Psychological Bulletin, 145(4), 410–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000138
• Spotify for Podcasters, Unwrapped Report 2023 for Perfectionism Rewired

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Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

 Can’t seem to calm down despite taking deep breaths, memorizing ALL the coping skills + “knowing” what to do? Forget about those dusty generic strategies. Discover the HIDDEN self-regulation skill that no one's told you about until now! Get the relief, control and answers you’ve been longing for with tailored, effective emotional resilience methods that work for YOU.

You’ll learn to recognize those subtle, personal cues that tell you stress is creeping in so you can take control. And the coolest part? You’ll learn how to combat it on the spot – whether you’re dealing with an annoying colleague who’s blowing you up on Slack, a last minute snafu in your rigorously relaxed vacation itinerary, or even a cranky mother-in-law (we all have one, don’t we?). Join CLG in making emotional poise and resilience your new normal.

PS. If you're like WTF is Interoception listen to Perfectionism Rewired podcast Ep. 193  to listen go to: https://bit.ly/interoception411

In a world of quick fixes, you deserve lasting change. Experience the embodied Presence of rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies and whole self-regulation, inside Perfectionism Leveraged, the only neuroscience-backed 1-1 coaching that gives you the abilities to control YOUR emotions, not just situations and finally feel as put together as your life looks.

You ready to quit fighting against yourself and start enjoying the life you’ve worked so hard to create.? To see if Perfectionism Leveraged might be the sustainable solution you’ve been searching for, go to https://courtneylovegavin.com

• Why in the heat of crucial moments your meticulously learned coping strategies vanish when you need them most
• MAJOR CLUES most doctors, therapists and coaches miss that are stifling your emotional regulation
• Biggest misconceptions about perfectionist learning self regulation
• The simple way to strengthen your emotional resilience as intuitive, empowering responses in the face of dumpster fires

Here's A Glance At Episode 194:

00:00-Introduction

01:23-What is self regulation

02:09-Coping Strategies for Perfectionists

03:17-Building resilience in stressful situations

04:48-Why Anxiety Coping Skills don’t help with intense emotions

06:11-What doctors, therapists and clinicians miss that stunt your emotional intelligence

07:29-The Root of Effective Self Regulation Skills

08:48-Why traditional self regulation approaches fall short for perfectionists

10:23-How to build emotional resilience

12:31-More effective approach to emotional self regulation for perfectionists

1. Goerlich K. S. (2018). The Multifaceted Nature of Alexithymia - A Neuroscientific Perspective. Frontiers in psychology, 9, 1614. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01614
2. Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3
3. Martini, M., Marzola, E., Brustolin, A., & Abbate-Daga, G. (2021). Feeling imperfect and imperfectly feeling: A network analysis on perfectionism, interoceptive sensibility, and eating symptomatology in anorexia nervosa. European Eating Disorders Review, 29(6), 893–909. https://doi.org/10.1002/erv.2863
4. Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2023). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality neuroscience, 5, e12. https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3
5. Ventura-Bort C, Wendt J and Weymar M (2021) The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Front. Psychol. 12:712418. doi: 10.3389/fpsyg.2021.712418

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Your Perfectionism does NOT work the way you think it does. Your brain predicts *almost* everything you feel, think, do, and when it gets it wrong, it's called a prediction error. Get up to speed on prediction errors and how learning a new language – interoception – to effectively interpret and understand your own emotions, thoughts and physiological responses will save your sanity and might just change your life.

9.5 out of 10 Perfectionists need control in order to feel calm.  Are you one of them? Upgrade control for embodied presence  and get fluent in the only language that makes you FEEL EVEN BETTER than your life looks inside  Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching + in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism. Get our stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

00:00-Understanding perfectionism for less anxiety and controlling

01:33-Clearing Up The Myths + Misinformation About Perfectionism

03:06-IRL Perfectionist Client Testimonial: Kelly Perfectionist Parent 

05:27-Perfectionist Feeling Embarrassed At Work

06:18-Misunderstood Perfectionist Fears

07:21-Examining Sensory Data's Influence on Perfectionism

09:28-Trippy Example of Brain's Prediction In Action

10:07-This Is Poison to your progress 

11:53-Why Interoception Is Pivotal Perfectionists

13:01-Perfectionist Difficulties in Implementing Interoceptive Skills

13:55-Importance of Perfectionist Interoception

14:27-Are you Interoceptive Illiterate?

15:52-Where Do Brain Predictions Come From?

16:27-Who Profits from you believing in flaws, empower change

19:06-Living according to YOUR values, harmonizing career-family-you

1. Alexandria Meyer, Karl Wissemann, Controlling parenting and perfectionism is associated with an increased error-related negativity (ERN) in young adults, Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, Volume 15, Issue 1, January 2020, Pages 87–95, https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsaa018
2. Attwell D, Laughlin SB. An Energy Budget for Signaling in the Grey Matter of the Brain. Journal of Cerebral Blood Flow & Metabolism doi:10.1097/00004647-200110000-00001
3. Barrett, L., Simmons, W. Interoceptive Predictions in the Brain National Review Neuroscience
   https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950
4. Jutta Stahl, Manuela Acharki, Miriam Kresimon, Frederike Völler, Henning Gibbons, Perfect error processing: Perfectionism-related variations in action monitoring and error processing mechanisms, International Journal of Psychophysiology https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ijpsycho.2015.06.002
5. Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3
6. Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2023). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality neuroscience, 5, e12. https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3
7. Ventura-Bort C, Wendt J and Weymar M (2021) The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Front. Psychol. 12:712418. doi: 10.3389/fpsyg.2021.712418

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

If you've ever felt misunderstood or frustrated bc what you're trying (psychotherapy, meditation, pushing through etc.) isn't working as fast or as well as you thought it would, this episode will make it all make sense. PS- Don't take my word for it. Hear real-life stories from perfectionists who had just about given up before finding Perfectionist Solutions.

Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Optimized you get 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that save you from living anxiously all the time. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

"Your inner experience is always correct and valid. It's crucial to find support that acknowledges and works with your unique inner world as a perfectionist."-CLG  episode 192 Perfectionism Rewired

EPSISODE 192 TIMESTAMPS:

01:13-Struggling with perfectionism? It’s not You. It’s…

02:18-Playing the wait and see strategy out until a crisis

03:27-How the Perfectionist Playbooks come in clutch

05:00-When You Have Nobody To Turn To or Who Understands

06:15-Inner Experience of Being A Perfectionist

07:30-How complying with the rules to earn the reward, screws over perfectionists

08:16-When Talk Therapy Makes Perfectionism Worse (IRL client example)

09:54-Why Compliance Driven Support DOES NOT work for perfectionists

10:26-When Deep Breathing Just Isn’t Cutting It. This.is.WHY

11:12-Dangers of hierarchical support like doctor + patient

12:54-Confused bc taking deep breaths is supposed to be relaxing

13:18-What lies beneath the surface of perfectionism is what’s controlling it

13:30-Why it feels like you're playing a game of whack a mole

14:00-How Perfectionistic Habits are like the Golden Gate Bridge

15:02-Love Researching, learning  or self-diagnose? LISTEN UP

15:44-If deep breathing is not enough, what is?

16:30-The one thing that makes changes easy to do

17:21-Surprising changes for Carly + her young kids with Interoceptive Awareness

18:14-Practical Interoception tools so you can stay regulated even during hectic days

19:23-Why Interoception Works for Perfectionism

20:00-Secret Way Human Bodies decide how anxious or calm to be

21:05-Sneak Preview of next episode

HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES CITED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Adrián Yoris, Esteves, S., Couto, B., Melloni, M., Kichic, R., Cetkovich, M., … Sedeño, L. (2015). The roles of interoceptive sensitivity and metacognitive interoception in panic. Behavioral and Brain Functions, 11(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/s12993-015-0058-8
• Asena Boyadzhieva, & Ezgi Kayhan. (2021). Keeping the Breath in Mind: Respiration, Neural Oscillations, and the Free Energy Principle. Frontiers in Neuroscience, 15. https://doi.org/10.3389/fnins.2021.647579
• ‌Duquette, P., & Ainley, V. (2019). Working With the Predictable Life of Patients: The Importance of “Mentalizing Interoception” to Meaningful Change in Psychotherapy. Frontiers in Psychology, 10. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02173
• Price, C., & Hooven, C. (2018). Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT). Frontiers in Psychology, 9. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00798
• Zoellner, L. A., & Craske, M. G. (1999). Interoceptive Accuracy and Panic. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 37(12), 1141–1158. https://doi.org/10.1016/s0005-7967(98)00202-2

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Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

If you're juggling deadlines, hectic schedules and family responsibilities and feel like you don't have any time for yourself right now, this episode will help you YOU actually enjoy your holidays (and life!). Whether it's standing up to your in-laws with newfound confidence, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family, When you know you’ve GOT this, holiday stress has no hold over you and your life goes from lackluster to joyful real fast. 

Want to stop waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? If you're DONE being burned out by NYE, you’ve GOT to take advantage of the holiday special I'm offering inside my 1-1 coaching Perfectionism Optimized where you’ll discover how to stop stressy anxiety from creeping into your body + hijacking your mind so you're calm, present and JoyFULL.  Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

If you find yourself dwelling on a *mistake* you made for weeks, months (years!) or can’t stop feeling embarrassed/disappointed in yourself for “messing up” THIS episode will help you move forward and playfully break free from your own 'mistake prisons' 

Take a rare real-time journey inside the mind of a perfectionist (CLG) who JUST made a very public (very careless) mistake and explore the intricacies of dealing with rejection sensitivity, taking decisive uncomfy action and what all-or-nothing thinking has to do with it. 

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Make your life YOURS and actually ENJOY it along the way inside  Perfectionism Optimized where you'll get  cutting-edge neuroscience tools to stop stress from pulling you out of the present moment and  we'll retrain the way your brain responds to mistakes so they can no longer f#ck with your Joy.

 Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

EPSISODE 191 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired

01:49-When you make gorgeous plans, but you don't follow through on them

03:03-Exploring Rejection Sensitivity in Perfectionists

03:17-CLG's mistake very publicly on the podcast

04:19-Inside the all or nothing thinking going on in CLG's head

05:00-Understanding how to navigate the complexities of your perfectionism

06:17-Have self-awareness around perfectionistic tendencies but stuck in indecision

06:38-Paper thinking = flushing the toilet in your head

07:15-You think there's this one right decision out there 

07:49-Constructing alibis for your "failures" instead of moving through mistakes

08:15-What Perfectionism Comes Down To

09:15-When you're mortified you made such a careless mistake

10:01-Only when you  hear how you talk to yourself do you actually know where YOUR best decision is

11:08-Making a mistake is an opportunity to throat punch yourself

11:25-How building up your capacity to make mistakes is like running stairs

12:43-I made mistakes and I had a lot of really crappy thoughts about myself 

13:30-Mindlessly going from task to task instead of gaining the skills to make a mistake + level up

14:33-You stop giving power to the past it loses its power over you and you become the one in charge

15:12-Calmly and confidently making mistakes is a skill

15:58-The fastest way to figure out what's really underneath your perfectionistic patterns

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Mistakes are the scabs perfectionists love to pick, even if they make us bleed + leave a heinous scar that only we can see. Find out the top 5 reasons perfectionists are conditioned to be like moths drawn to the flame of mistakes, why overthinking mistakes feels like an addiction to your brain,  the RIGHT way to handle mistakes so you don't keep making the same ones on repeat, even if you're in a high-stakes career where precision is a MUST. 

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Make your life YOURS and actually ENJOY it along the way inside  Perfectionism Optimized where you'll get  cutting-edge neuroscience tools to stop stress from pulling you out of the present moment and  we'll retrain the way your brain responds to mistakes so they can no longer f#ck with your Joy.

 Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• How Perfectionistic patterns skew your ability to accurately see your mistakes
• Why your brain is OBSESSED with overthinking every small mistake (hint, it involves dopamine)
• Getting more upset over a random TikTok comment than celebrating your big wins begins to make sense

"Dopamine is not the feel good neurotransmitter. It's the predictor hormone. What makes us feel good is the certainty it brings. Obsessing over your mistakes. You know how you're going to feel. Yes, you're going to feel crappy, but it's the crappy that you can count on." - CLG, On Why Perfectionists Continue To Obsess Over Their Mistakes

EPSISODE 190 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired

01:43-Cringeworthy Moment When My Obsession Over Small Mistakes Injured My Career

02:26-When You Get 100 Gold Stars But All You Can Think About Is the 1 Nastygram

03:05-Top Five Reasons Perfectionists Are Conditioned To Handle Mistakes Wrong

04:48-How Mistakes Are Like The Weather 

05:50-Penalized For Mistakes As A Kid + Stuff Taken Away

06:25-The Correct Way To Obsess Over Mistakes 

07:00-WHY am I obsessed with this every small mistake? I should be happy

07:12-You believe the mistakes mean something deeper about you

07:57-Your Reticular Activating System Is Trained To Fetch All Your Mistakes

08:13-How Neurosculpting Rewires Your Pattern + Gives You Better Sources of Dopamine

08:35-Your Career Demands Precision + is High-Stakes

09:11-How To Turn Those 'oops' Moments into Enjoyable A-HA Moments

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