Perfectionism Rewired

Discover the simple technique that rewires your brain, empowering you to take control of your anxiety, worry and catastrophizing. Stay focused on this for 21 days and reduce your stress by 50%. Start now for a calmer, more present you.

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Build confidence from being fully in charge of your life, through the proven, science-backed tools in  Perfectionism Optimized is non negotiable. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• Two biggest mistakes Perfectionists make with stress management
• How to customize your own 'Worry Window'
• Techniques for perfectionist parents + improving mental wellness in children

Resources Mentioned:

• BOOK: Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers for a deeper understanding of stress and its effects
• Perfectionist Power Matrix of Prisoners, Hostages, Puppets + Owners: https://pin.it/7pei4sO

EPSISODE 189 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired

01:25-Tool Helps Perfectionist Parents and Kids with Anxiety Relief

02:03-CLG's Journey with Anxiety + Panic Attacks

03:37-Two Biggest Stress Mistakes Perfectionists Make 

04:02-The Science Behind Stress and Perfectionism

06:03-Unveiling the Worry Window Technique

07:33-Power of Choosing When You Worry

09:36-Customizing How To Stop Worrying Technique

12:18-Impact of Paper Thinking on Panic

13:23-Potty Training Your Perfectionism + Stress

14:33-How You Get Your Unconscious Playing on Your Team

15:16-Will Worry Window make me worry more? 

16:00-Why Logicalizing Doesn't Work with Perfectionism and Anxiety

16:52-How To Cut Your Anxiety In Half in 21 Days

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Catastrophizing: when worst-case scenarios dominate your thoughts, leading you away from reality, fueling fear and anxiety. Find out why this common perfectionist habit is not protective but actually poisoning your potential and how to stop catastrophizing. 

If you're eager to ditch the horror movie playing in your head, value your time & want to empower yourself with clear, calm thinking, getting in Perfectionism Optimized is non negotiable. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• Why Worry Won't Protect You or Prepare You
• What makes catastrophizing especially addictive for perfectionists
• How to stop worrying about the future +why you want to aspa

EPSISODE 188 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired

01:01-Replaying The Worst Case Scenario On Repeat

01:38-Brining You To Reality + Out of Living In Fear

02:26-Secondary Gains + Hidden Benefits of Catastrophizing

03:08-Why Worrying Won't Protect You

04:18-Perfectionism Optimized heart surgeon client on panic + career progress

05:23-Choosing Trust Over Fear

06:03-Expanding Your Options by Integrity Inquiry

06:34-Beauty of Present Moment Awareness

07:33-Confronting Incongruence in Catastrophic Thinking

08:37-Owning Your Choice To Stop Worrying About The Future

09:14-How Catastrophizing Impacts Perfectionists

10:30-If All You Want For Christmas is Calm

11:39-Breaking the Cycle of Catastrophizing

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Discover how this ONE shift opens up the floodgates of your self-confidence and stops you from being a prisoner of yesterday's choices. Hear how Perfectionism Optimized client Porsha was able to go from "I HATE this about myself" to "I feel calmer. I've stopped shouting at myself" using this one neuroscultping tool and dive into the top 3 things perfectionists get wrong about self-acceptance that stop you from flourishing

If you're not where you think you should be, value your time & want to save years of second-guessing yourself, getting in Perfectionism Optimized is non negotiable. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• How resisting what we don't like about ourselves makes us the architects of our own suffering
• Why acceptance doesn't equal approval
• How to stop being a prisoner of yesterday's choices

EPSISODE 187 TIMESTAMPS:
00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired

01:53-How Meeting Yourself Where You Are Heats Up Growth

02:56-Your Self Awareness Ceiling 

03:32-Awareness of A Pattern without Acceptance

04:23-Keeping ourselves in a prison of conflict + tension

05:14-LIES Perfectionists Tell About Self-Acceptance

07:03-Ostriching Yourself: No truth no change

08:14-Easy-Bake-Oven Instead of Using Full Range

08:52-How Skyrocket Your Self Confidence + Self Respect

09:29-Lie Stops Perfectionists Thriving + Flourishing

10:11-Being A Prisoner of Yesterday's Choices

11:33-How To Face What You're Dreading Without Self Hatred 

12:14-Popular Push-Backs To Meeting Yourself Where You're At

12:56-Acceptance Doesn't Equal Approval 

13:18-How Self Acceptance Accelerates Your Progress

14:42-Porsha Accepting What She Hates About Herself (client case study)

16:36-Porsha's Diamond In the Mud

17:00-No Longer Being War With Who You Are

17:40-Benefits of Meeting Yourself Where You're At

18:44-Special Announcement: Perfectionism Optimized
 

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you Using Perfectionism or Is it Using You? Uncover who's in charge with the simplicity and effectiveness Intention + Impact Method™. Explore the hidden triggers fueling your perfectionistic tendencies, understand the connection between your brain's alarm bell system stress + perfectionism and learn to decode your  physical, emotional, behavioral and cognitive  perfectionism cues.

If you value your time & want to save years of second-guessing yourself, you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track You’ll leave more efficient, optimized and prioritized. If you know perfectionism is holding you back. Getting in here is non-negotiable. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• How Intention + Impact Method™ Takes The Headache Out Of Being A Perfectionist 
• Why Understanding your physical, behavioral, emotional + cognitive cues takes the mystery out of your perfectionistic patterns
• What to Watch Out For When You're Stressed and how accumulated stress can exacerbate perfectionistic tendencies, turning them into weapons instead of tools for your growth.

EPSISODE 186 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction to Perfectionism Rewired

01:30-The Intention and Impact Method

02:15-Understanding the Role of Stress and Your Amygdala

03:01-How Perfectionism Becomes a Weapon Defensive Mechanism

04:02-Identifying Your Unique Perfectionistic Tendencies

05:02-The Four Types of Perfectionism Cues

06:00-Why You Never Want To Label Perfectionistic Behaviors

07:11-Moving Beyond Autopilot Perfectionism

08:10-Recognizing and Shifting Unwanted Perfectionistic Intentions

09:11-Evaluating the Impact of Your Perfectionism

10:16-Techniques for Staying Present and Avoiding Burnout

11:06-How To Stop Being A Perfectionist At Work

11:51-Neuroscience Behind the Intention and Impact Method

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

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Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Feel like you're always a thousand steps behind where you “should” have been? Procrastination for perfectionists is this invisible thing that no one sees or understands - and the longer it goes on, the anxiety moves in and then you’ve got multiple forces sucking the life out of you. Discover how to mute the constant noise in your head and melt away the pressure of avoidance.

Want to stop procrastinating permanently forever using proven, science-backed tools that actually work? Then you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• Two unique tools for immediate and long-term overcoming procrastination
• Why working through the struggle of procrastinating produces 6x faster results
• How to deal with procrastination using your brain's neurotransmitters

EPSISODE 185 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:41-Perfectionism procrastination

03:21-The No. 1 Habit to Deal with Procrastination 

04:53-Building Your Internal Commitment 

06:25-Overcoming Procrastination with Unconventionally Awesome Methods 

08:00-Overcome Procrastinating from the Inside Out 

09:05-Practical Techniques to Take Immediate Action 

10:19-Neuroscience Insights for 6x Faster Learning 

12:25-How To Stop Procrastinating forever

14:59-Cut Out The Suckage of Stop Procrastinating
 

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you overworking but feel like you're underperforming? Discover the remarkable story of Jordan, high-achieving lawyer who believed time efficiency was the problem, working tirelessly yet still falling behind. With his demanding career on the line, hear how altering perfectionistic perceptions and embracing playful experimenting strengthens your full stature of dignity as a fulfilled perfectionist. 

Want to go from Overworked to Optimized using proven, science-backed tools then you gotta check out the  Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• Harmonizing your high standards with high-stakes career
• How experimenting leads to breakthroughs in perception and efficiency
• Why perfectionists overwork yet oblivious to their own underperforming

"I don't have a time management problem. I had a perception problem." - Jordan, Attorney + Perfectionism Optimized client

EPSISODE 184 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:45-Jordan's struggle with a dynamic family and a demanding career

02:48-Inefficiency Despite Working Long Hours

03:15-Uncovering the root cause of Jordan's time challenges

04:26-Experiments to loosen Rigid Perfectionistic Patterns

06:15-Realigning Focus and rediscovering joy

07:29-Harmonizing your high standards with high-stakes career

08:33-Addressing the Core of overcoming perfectionism

10:07-Go from overworked to optimized

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are You confusing self criticism with self improvement? Don't get it twisted, learn why self loathing's misunderstood nature of perfectionism and how to stop falling into the hidden traps it sets. CLG shares invaluable insights for Type-A overachievers who are tired of wasting time with ineffective conventional approaches that leave you stagnating + struggling with the same perfectionistic pitfalls. Listen for a IRL techniques *that actually work* in dissolving the I Hate Myself meltdowns. 

Ready to show up more powerfully for your family and want proven, science-backed tools you can use for generations to come? Then you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• How your brain and nervous system can be rewired to change your self-perception on command
• Playful Strategies to break self-critical cycles and ease into a more nourishing sustainable approach to self-improvement
• Why Psycho-Cybernetics Helps Perfectionists Create A New Self-Image

EPSISODE 183 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:30-The often-misunderstood Nature of Perfectionism 

02:29-Dopamine's Role in Self Criticize Cycle

03:44-How Self Criticism Perpetuates Your Worst Patterns

04:17-When What Used To Work Stops Working For Ya

05:20-Perfectionist Parents + Legacy of Self Loathing

05:52-Techniques to Shatter the I Hate Myself Meltdowns

06:17-Why Traditional Approaches Don't Work for Perfectionists

08:24-Mistaking Criticizing for Deeply Caring

09:00-When Being Kind To Yourself Feels Wrong (and that's okay!)

10:06-Acceptance Does NOT Equal Apathy

10:26-Visualization of Life Without Being Self-Critical

11:34-Fastest Way to Figure Out What's Causing Your Perfectionistic Habits

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Discover how to evolve from the roles of victim, rescuer and villain inside the Drama Triangle to creator, coach and challenger inside the Winner's Triangle. Plus how to upgrade to the Empowerment Mindset where you shift focus from scarcity to possibilities, reactive to proactive, ensuring every decision aligns with your goals and visions.

Ready to turn your perfectionism from a crippling force into powerful asset with proven, science-backed tools? You gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• How to evolve from the roles of victim, rescuer and villain to creator, coach and challenger
• Hard work, guess work and framework approaches to empowerment
• Secret to redefining how you perceive and use your perfectionist traits

1. Identify Your Triangle Role: Recognize when you're in the victim, rescuer or persecutor role within the Drama Triangle.
2. Embrace the Winner's Triangle: Actively move towards becoming a creator, coach or challenger.
3. Develop Self-Sovereignty: Start making choices that reflect your true self and living from an inside out approach.
4. Implement Active Learning: Stop accumulating and start implementing.
5. Focus on What You Want: Concentrate on your desires instead of fears or limitations.
6. Open Up to Possibilities: Embrace uncertainty and see it as a playground of opportunities.

EPSISODE 182 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

01:53-Drama Triangle Explained

02:07-One Small Action You Can Take Right Now

02:31-The Winner's Triangle: A New Perspective

03:35-Visualizing the Winner's Triangle: Become a Creator

04:05-Embracing Self Sovereignty and Overcoming Inadequacy

04:59-Questions to Embody the Creator Role in the Empowerment Triangle

06:23-Shifting Focus from Scarcity to Possibilities

07:07-Rescue Ranger to Caring Coach

08:08-Empowering Everyone through the Coach Approach

09:30-Example of Hero turning into a Coach

10:00-Evolving From Villain to Challenger

11:59-What All Winner's Triangles Have In Common

12:39-Agreements vs Expectations

13:13-Perfectionism Rewiring Made Easy 

14:21-Upcoming Episode Teaser: Overcoming Over-Giving in Perfectionists

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you choosing protection over connection? Gain insight into how perfectionistic traits affect relationships by understanding the Drama Triangle. Learn practical tools to shift from a fear-based mindset to mamba mentality as we break down the roles of Victim, Rescue Ranger (Hero), and Villain and how perfectionists play all 3 roles with ourselves!

Ready to trade toxic stress for joyful success with proven, science-backed tools? You gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator

EPSISODE 181 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Introduction

 01:26-Choosing Connection Over Protection in Relationships 

01:50-Two Powerful Tools for Empowerment 

02:08-Understanding Power Dynamics in Perfectionism 

02:33-The Drama Triangle for Perfectionists 

03:36-Exploring Victim Mentality 

04:25-Identifying Victim Signs in Perfectionists 

07:15-The Role of the Rescue Ranger (Karpman Drama Triangle)

09:33-Overcoming Hero Syndrome 

11:05-Understanding the Villain Role 

13:29-Breaking Free from the Drama Triangle into the Winner's Triangle

16:17-Moving Beyond the Drama Triangle 

19:08-Leveraging the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.