We had the honor of sitting down with Lee Harrington for a conversation that started with rope and power exchange and quickly grew into so much more.

Lee shared stories from his decades in the kink community as we talked about intimacy, communication, safewords, the hanky code, personal connection, and how kink has evolved over the years. What began as a discussion about rope became a fascinating look at the people, relationships, and experiences that shape our journeys in kink.

This is one of those conversations where we found ourselves going down unexpected paths and learning something new along the way. We laughed, reflected, and explored some topics that don't come up nearly often enough. We think you're going to enjoy this one as much as we did

Lee (he/they) is a nice guy with an odd sense of humor who thinks you deserve a great sex life, and a great life in general. The life of your dreams. Yes you. He’s been traveling the globe teaching about sexuality, kink, magic, desire, and more, and likes these topics quite a lot and anything else that opens people up to their full potential. Between classes, lectures, stage shows, podcasts, and writing plenty of books and articles, Lee likes to travel, take pictures, and laugh. He also collects interesting bandannas, tarot decks, and old keys. You’ll probably like him, or his inner unicorn, puppy, and bunny. Check out the trouble he has been getting into over at PassionAndSoul.com.

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We love to talk about strong Dominants. Confident Dominants. Unshakable Dominants. But what happens when your Dominant has a bad day, needs support, or reminds you that they're human too?This episode challenges the idea that vulnerability makes a Dominant weak. We explore the dangers of putting Doms on pedestals, why seeing your partner as "superhuman" can create problems, and how mutual support can strengthen a power exchange dynamic. Because a healthy D/s relationship isn't built on perfection. It's built on trust, connection, and two real people showing up for each other.

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Ever look at another Dominant and think, "They seem so confident. They always know what they're doing." Meanwhile, you're replaying scenes in your head, second-guessing decisions, and wondering if everyone is eventually going to figure out that you're making it up as you go. Those thoughts are a lot more common than most people realize.

This week, we're talking about imposter syndrome in Dominance. Why it happens, why it doesn't mean you're failing, how it can affect your dynamic, and what you can do when self-doubt starts getting louder than reality. Some of the most thoughtful and responsible Dominants have asked themselves the exact same question: "What if I'm not actually a good Dominant?"

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Blood play tends to make people immediately clutch their pearls and assume somebody has a dungeon full of horror movie props. But for us, it’s something much deeper than shock value. In this episode, Princess Rara sits down with her regular blood play partner for a very honest conversation about what blood play actually feels like, the primal headspace it brings out, and the incredible level of trust it requires. We’re talking intimacy, connection, vulnerability, misconceptions, and why blood play is a lot more emotional and intentional than most people think. Don’t worry, we didn’t torment Dara too much by making her edit this one.

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You meet someone and suddenly they’re all you can think about. Every text feels exciting, the chemistry is intense, and your brain is already trying to convince you this is different.

That’s New Relationship Energy and it can seriously mess with your perspective.

In this episode, we’re talking about what NRE actually is, why it feels so powerful, how it can blur red flags and boundaries, and why intensity is not the same thing as compatibility.

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This week, we’re talking about the idea that submission is passive and why that mindset can create problems in power exchange dynamics.

A lot of conversations in BDSM focus on the responsibilities of Dominants, but healthy dynamics require participation, communication, and self-awareness from everyone involved. Submission is more than obedience or simply “showing up.” It’s an active role that requires engagement, intention, and accountability too.

In this episode, we explore shared responsibility in D/s, the difference between surrender and passivity, and why healthy power exchange works best when both people are actively involved in creating it.

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A post on Threads claimed your kink is just your emotional needs in lingerie—and that your BDSM role reveals your real relationship needs.

It sounds deep. It sounds insightful. It also falls apart the second you actually think about it.

In this episode, we’re unpacking why this kind of take spreads so easily, what it gets wrong about kink and attachment, and why reducing people to roles is a fast way to misunderstand both yourself and your partners.

Because your kink role might say something about how you like to play… but it is not a diagnosis.

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That’s the claim in an article that’s been making the rounds—and it’s being defended in ways that raise even more questions.

In this episode, we break down the idea that trust matters more than consent, the push toward “uninformed consent,” and the suggestion that deeper experiences come from knowing less. We also dig into what informed consent actually means, how power exchange really works, and why removing information doesn’t create depth—it increases risk.

If consent is being framed as a barrier, it’s worth slowing down and looking at what’s really being said.

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“If you want to be a good Dom, you should be a sub first.”

You’ve heard it. A lot.

In this episode, we’re unpacking where that advice comes from, what it gets right, and where it completely misses the mark. Because understanding your partner matters—but forcing yourself into a role that isn’t yours isn’t the answer.

Let’s talk about what actually makes someone a better Dom.

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Are there gendered assumptions in kink?

We like to think the answer is no. That everything is negotiated, intentional, chosen. But in reality, a lot gets decided before the conversation even starts.

In this episode, we’re looking at how those unspoken ideas shape power exchange—who gets taken seriously, who gets questioned, and who is given authority without earning it.

Because if roles are being decided before they’re even discussed… that’s expectation, not choice.

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