This is a Grow With Me episode — in this one, I share the pressure and expectation I was putting on myself to keep giving, but receiving grace from the community unlocked a shift in terms of how I shows up.

Inspired by a recent conversation with Ngaire Tuhua (link), who spoke about being No. 1, 2 and 3 on her own priority list, this episode unpacks what it actually means to consciously and deliberately choose to fill your cup, and why doing so isn't selfish, it's essential.

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Ngaire is a Māori creative — artist, moko practitioner in training, wahine deeply rooted in te ao Māori and committed to uplifting other wahine through her mahi. Recorded on the East Coast at Tūranga-nui-a-Kiwa, this kōrero feels like sitting in the sun with someone who has walked through real darkness and come out clearer on the other side.

In this conversation, Ngaire opens up about what it means to stop surviving and start thriving! The real mahi behind that shift, the trenches she had to walk through to get there, and why she now puts herself at numbers one, two, and three on her own priority list.

She also talks about creativity as a way of life, losing her nan during COVID through an iPad screen, the moko style she's developing exclusively for wahine, and what it means to be a portal, a creative, and a wāhine in full becoming.

Episode Breakdown

✨ Stepping out of the shadows to be seen

✨ Two types of fear: the one that destroys you, and the one that expands you

✨ "Don't let loss be the lesson", shifting out of survival mode into a thriving mindset

✨ Creativity as a way of life

✨ How living outside of clock-based thinking keeps her present

✨ The real work behind choosing yourself as a wahine

✨ Overflowing your own cup first so there's actually something to give

✨ Wahine carrying both roles, and what it means when tāne step into their own leadership

✨A new style of moko exclusively for wāhine, rooted in whakapapa wāhine

✨ How grief and enlightenment arrived at the same time

✨ Always looking for the gap, the new, the unexplored

✨ All the answers are already within us, we just need people who help us remember

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Rob Hayne is the founder of Chur Kaha, a CrossFit gym built on community, love, and the belief that everyone deserves to feel proud of themselves — no matter where they start.

In this kōrero, recorded on a trip to Tūranga-nui-a-Kiwa, Rob opens up about where his deep sense of care comes from (his mum, unsurprisingly), the leap of faith it took to open his own gym, and the philosophy that drives every part of his life: freedom. Freedom to choose how your day goes. Freedom to express. Freedom from the barriers most of us don't even realise we're carrying.

This is a conversation about identity, brotherhood, building something from nothing, and the radical idea that you get to choose how you want to feel when you wake up.

Episode Breakdown

✨ Where Rob's deep sense of care and manaaki comes from

✨ Learning what it means to truly feel free

✨ The real story of starting Chur Kaha

✨ "Just learn to do hard shit"

✨ Telling the boys "I love you" and why that's never been hard for Rob

✨ Fatherhood, raising kids as best mates, and breaking generational patterns around affection

✨ Designing your own days

✨ Living better, not just longer

✨ What younger Rob would think of the man he's become

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What got you here won't get you there. In this Grow With Me Q&A, I unpack the belief of why running has never once solved anything.

This week's Grow With Me session is a community Q&A — real questions from the Planting Seeds whānau, answered through lived experience rather than theory. I move through identity, healing, relationships, and what it actually takes to build a community of caring tāne. Just my perspective that might bring clarity to wherever you're at in your own journey.

Episode Breakdown:

✨ Why running from pain only delays it and what regulation actually looks like✨ Meeting "Samantha" — naming and detaching from the inner critic✨ Why some people choose something new instead of doing the hard work of staying✨ Projecting your growth onto a partner, and learning to accept different journeys✨ Building a community of caring men

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You can be giving everyone the best of you AND still be running on empty.

What happens when you finally choose yourself — and why that took courage for Nepia Takuira-Mita?

Nepia Takuira-Mita is an actor, musician, and creative — known for his work on Ahikāroa, one of Aotearoa's first bilingual dramas. But before the screens and the stages, there was a kid raised on te reo Māori, kapa haka, and books, in a home with no TV, guided by parents who had the vision and courage to choose identity over convenience.

In this kōrero, Nepia opens up about the season he's currently navigating: sobriety, intentionality, and the confronting work of turning his manaakitanga inward. He talks about learning to show up for himself, not instead of his whānau, BUT so he can show up better for them.

This is a conversation about identity, creative purpose, what it means to be raised Māori in a world that doesn't always make that easy, and the quiet courage of choosing growth.

Episode Breakdown

• Nepia's season of growth: sobriety, intentionality, and leaving alcohol on the table for something better
• Manaakitanga as a value that can turn into people-pleasing and how to reclaim it for yourself

• How a childhood without TV ironically led him to become a TV actor
• Insight into acting: theatre vs. film, intimacy coaches, and falling in love with storytelling on stage
• Landing the role on Ahikāroa, and what it meant to be part of Aotearoa's first bilingual drama
• The gap between what you post and how you actually feel, the cost of the grind
• Learning to ask for help, lean on people, and stop burning out quietly
• Writing and performing "Lean On Me" AND the healing that came from singing it for the first time
• Māori men, mental health, and finding ways to build momentum when life gets hard
• What drives him now: his babies, his partner, his whānau, and showing up for himself first

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What if the reason you can't get to where you want to go… isn't about what you're doing but who you're being?

It took me half a year to learn this lesson. And one simple shift at 4:15am changed everything.

This is a Grow With Me solo episode, coming straight off the back of our brother-to-brother wānanga where tāne came together in person after 12 weeks of journeying online.

I'm sharing three things in this kōrero:

The teachings that came through the wānanga — clarity, the subconscious mind, and how the weeds we never planted are still running our lives. The honest, real-time experience of the post-wānanga come-down (yes, I popped off at the tamariki and what that taught me). And the framework that's changed my entire year: What / How / Who — and why focusing on who you need to become is the only thing that actually moves the needle.

This one's for the Tāne who showed up, for anyone in service mode whose cup is drained, and for everyone in the Planting Seeds whānau who's stepping out of old paths into something more aligned 🌱

EPISODE BREAKDOWN

✨ The brother-to-brother wānanga✨ Why the weeds in your subconscious mind aren't yours✨ How "internal safety" changes the way you show up✨ The honest truth about the post-wānanga come-down✨ Keeping your energy in — the discipline of grace when your cup is drained✨ The What / How / Who framework that changed everything✨ Why waking up at 4:15am unlocked a year of alignment✨ The one simple action hidden in every transformation

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What if the system that's meant to heal us is actually the thing keeping our whānau sick?

Dr Nina Scott has spent six years fighting for something basic: a seat at the table for Māori in cancer care. And the government still said no.

In this kōrero recorded at the World Indigenous Cancer Conference in Aotearoa, I sit down with Dr Nina Scott — one of the most respected Māori health leaders in this country, and a global voice for Indigenous cancer equity.

We get into the hard stuff: the bowel screening kaupapa that could have saved Māori and Pasifika lives, the political decisions made for votes instead of whānau, Big Tobacco and Big Food's grip on our communities, and the deep mahi being done to reconnect with our whenua, our kai, and our own sovereignty.

This conversation matters because it's not just about cancer. It's about how decisions made in offices we'll never sit in are shaping the wellbeing of generations to come — and what we can do about it from where we stand.

Episode Breakdown

✨ Why a "seat at the table" is the most basic ask — and still being denied✨ The bowel screening decision that's costing Māori lives✨ Why most Māori bowel cancers are diagnosed before age 60 — and why screening starts at 58✨ How Big Tobacco and Big Food are repeating the same playbook on our whānau✨ Whiri — the kaupapa navigator programme transforming how whānau receive cancer care✨ Why our health system treats us as broken parts, not whole people✨ Looking after whānau as the maximising whole-of-game

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In this episode I sit down with Professor Jason Gurney, epidemiologist, researcher, and author of The Twisted Chain, to unpack one of the most uncomfortable truths in Aotearoa: that the health outcomes for Māori aren't a story of personal failure. They're a story of systems.

Jason's work studies the causes, patterns and spread of disease across populations and the data tells a story most of us were never taught. From colonisation, to where vape shops and fast food outlets are deliberately placed, to alcohol availability in our communities.

But this kōrero isn't doom. Jason carries an optimism that lifted me up. He sees how far we've come, and where we're headed, and he reminds us that change is already happening.

Episode Breakdown

✨ Why responsibility for Māori health sits at a systems level, not just individual✨ How vape, alcohol and fast food stores are strategically located in our communities✨ What being an epidemiologist actually means.✨ The hidden patterns behind Māori cancer outcomes✨ Why Jason remains optimistic about where we're headed✨ Practical reflections for making better hauora decisions

This conversation is about identity, agency, and reclaiming the story of our health. It's about understanding the bigger picture so we can stop carrying shame that was never ours to begin with, and step into informed, empowered choices for ourselves, our whānau and the generations coming through.

Hauora isn't just a personal journey. It's a collective one.

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📚 Jason's pukapuka: The Twisted Chain🙏 Te Rau Ora: HERE🎗 Hei Āhuru Mōwai: HERE

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What got you here . . .won't keep you here.The old version of me was quietly running the show AND I almost didn't catch it.

This is a Grow With Me episode, just you and me, no guest, raw and reflective. From my 34th birthday to my 35th, I made a commitment to ask myself one simple question every single day in my journal: "What will I embody today?"

It's been the most grounding, identity-shifting practice I've done in a long time. But on this run of blessings and momentum, I noticed something . . . old habits, old language, old thinking trying to pull me back into a version of me I've already outgrown.

Episode Breakdown

✨ The daily journal practice anchoring my year

✨ The daily "What will I embody today?" question.

✨ How "I'm busy" and "I'm full on" became sneaky permission slips

✨ Catching the old identity before it sabotages the new

✨ Why growth isn't becoming someone new, it's returning

✨ Staying aligned with the energy that got you here

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Deeply honoured to be joined by Dr Jacquie Kidd, a respected Māori health researcher, advocate, and wahine toa whose life's work has been about creating equity within Aotearoa's healthcare system.

This kōrero was recorded during the World Indigenous Cancer Conference, hosted by Hei Āhuru Mōwai and Te Rau Ora, a gathering that brought indigenous voices from across the world together to talk about cancer, care, and culture.

Jacquie shares the path that led her into healthcare, beginning as a young girl caring for her pāpā, and opens her heart about her current journey of "living fully while dying" after receiving a terminal cancer diagnosis.

This is one of those conversations that reminds you what actually matters.

Episode Breakdown

✨ What is equity?✨ Why equity in healthcare for Māori isn't optional✨ What it means to truly live✨ The beauty and sadness of dying✨ Whānau wellbeing is centric✨ The quiet power of presence, whānau, and acceptance

Jacquie's kōrero invites us to ask the questions most of us avoid:

• What am I actually doing with my time?
• Who am I when stripped of the noise?
• What legacy am I leaving for those who come after me?

In te ao Māori, death is not a separation but a transition, a continuation of whakapapa and for Jacquie she gets to see hug her mokopuna before they enter te ao marama.

If this kōrero touched something in you — drop a comment and let us know what landed or share this episode with someone who needs the reminder that life is happening now.

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