Please Me! A Sexuality Podcast

In this episode of the Please Me Podcast, Eve explores the often-overlooked topic of vaginal dryness, particularly during perimenopause and menopause, and how it impacts intimacy, comfort, sexuality, and overall sexual wellbeing.

Eve is joined by two leading voices in women’s sexual health: Bonnie Gayle, inventor of the revolutionary products Sex Butter and Boudoir Butter, and Bonnie Rogers, a clinical herbalist who has worked with these products in her practice for over a decade. Together, they unpack the realities of vaginal atrophy, its symptoms, and the emotional and physical effects it can have on intimacy and daily life.

Bonnie Gayle shares her personal experience of being diagnosed with vaginal atrophy and how that journey inspired her to create natural, pleasure-supporting products designed not only for healing but also for enhancing sexual enjoyment. Bonnie Rogers adds her clinical perspective, explaining how these herbal-based solutions can support long-term vaginal health and be integrated into a holistic wellness routine.

The conversation also covers the importance of lubrication, practical ways to manage vaginal dryness, and real-life experiences from women who have found relief and renewed confidence through these products. This episode offers both education and empowerment, helping listeners feel seen, informed, and supported in navigating changes in their sexual health.

This episode is an essential listen for anyone experiencing hormonal shifts who wants to better understand their body and reclaim comfort, pleasure, and intimacy.

What You’ll Learn

• What vaginal atrophy is and how it affects intimacy and comfort

• How perimenopause and menopause contribute to vaginal dryness

• Natural, herbal-based solutions for vaginal health and support

• The importance of lubrication for pleasure and wellbeing

• Practical tips for managing vaginal dryness in daily life

• How lived experience informs innovation in sexual health products

Connect With the Guest

Bonnie Gayle & Bonnie Rogers

Sex Butter & Boudoir Butter: https://www.bonniesherbals.com/?AffId=3

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

Connect With Eve

Website: https://pleaseme.online

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In this transformative episode of the Please Me Podcast, Eve sits down with Dr. Zaayin Salaam, a self-described “dimension-digging MD,” to explore the powerful intersection of science, spirituality, sexuality, and energy.

Dr. Zaayin shares insights from her speculative science fiction novel With Love, from Planet B, where she introduces the concept of three spiritual diseases affecting humanity—imbalances that manifest emotionally, mentally, and physically, shaping how we relate to ourselves and each other. Together, she and Eve unpack how these ideas invite a deeper reflection on healing, consciousness, and collective evolution.

The conversation also challenges long-held societal narratives, including the implications of gendered language around divinity and how it may reinforce cultural imbalances. They explore the rise of gender fluidity among younger generations and what it signals for the future of identity, expression, and human connection.

Additional topics include the impact of pornography on shaping perceptions of gender, sex, and pleasure, as well as the ongoing orgasm gap and why it continues to persist. Dr. Zaayin also introduces the concept of energetic and spiritual lovemaking, inviting listeners to expand their understanding of intimacy beyond the physical.

This episode is a bold, thought-provoking exploration of consciousness, sexuality, and the energetic nature of human connection—designed to challenge assumptions and expand perspective.

What You’ll Learn

• The concept of the “three spiritual diseases” and their impact on humanity

• How language and beliefs about God influence societal structures

• The rise of gender rebellion and evolving identity expression

• How pornography shapes perceptions of sex, gender, and pleasure

• What the orgasm gap is and why it persists

• How to explore intimacy through energetic and spiritual connection

• The link between consciousness, sexuality, and healing

Connect With the Guest

Dr. Zaayin Salaam

Website: https://www.planetBthebook.com

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@withlovefromplanetB

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

Connect With Eve

Website: https://pleaseme.online

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In this episode of the Please Me Podcast, Eve sits down with Jake Didinsky, a trailblazer in creating inclusive spaces within the kink community through puppy play, furry play, and conscious event culture—exploring sexuality, identity, connection, and the diverse ways people experience intimacy and self-expression.

Jake, who presents as non-binary and is open to all pronouns, shares how their identity intersects with their experiences in kink and self-expression. They open up about how puppy play and wearing a hood can serve as grounding tools for managing anxiety, building confidence, and accessing a more embodied, liberated sense of self.

Together, Eve and Jake explore how kink can be a powerful space for neurodivergent individuals and anyone seeking alternative forms of emotional regulation, identity exploration, and connection. Jake also shares the vision behind LOBO parties—immersive, inclusive events designed to celebrate individuality, desire, and freedom without judgment.

This conversation highlights the importance of safe spaces where people can express themselves authentically, and how kink communities can foster acceptance, healing, and empowerment when built with intention and care.

This episode is a powerful exploration of identity, embodiment, and community—challenging stigma while celebrating the diverse ways people experience pleasure, play, and connection.

What You’ll Learn

• How puppy play and furry play support emotional regulation and confidence

• The intersection of neurodivergence and kink-based self-expression

• How identity and kink can support deeper self-understanding

• The importance of inclusive, judgment-free spaces in sexual communities

• The vision behind LOBO parties and conscious event design

• How kink can be a tool for embodiment and healing

• Breaking stigma around alternative sexual expression

Connect With the Guest

Jake Didinsky

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/jakemaxwell

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

Connect With Eve

Website: https://pleaseme.online

Substack: https://pleaseme.substack.com

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In this episode of the Please Me Podcast, Eve sits down with dream coach Debbie Spector Weisman to explore the powerful and often overlooked world of dreams—and how they can offer profound insight into our emotional, sexual, creative lives, and the deeper layers of our sexuality.

Together, they dive into the different types of dreams, including lucid dreams, sex dreams, and premonitions, and how each can serve as a unique gateway into self-awareness. Debbie shares her expertise on lucid dreaming, offering practical techniques for becoming conscious within dreams and highlighting the benefits, including enhanced creativity, intuition, and problem-solving abilities.

The conversation also explores the meaning behind sex dreams, unpacking how they can reflect our desires, fears, and relational dynamics. Debbie offers guidance on interpreting recurring themes and symbols, helping listeners use their dreams as a tool for deeper emotional and sexual understanding.

Eve and Debbie also discuss dream journaling as a practice for self-reflection and personal growth, as well as how dreams have historically sparked creativity and inspired real-world breakthroughs. The episode concludes with a reminder of the importance of open communication—both in waking life and in understanding our inner dream life—as a pathway to greater clarity and connection.

This episode is a fascinating invitation to explore your subconscious mind and use dreams as a powerful tool for healing, creativity, and self-discovery.

What You’ll Learn

• The different types of dreams and what they can reveal

• How lucid dreaming works and how to begin practicing it

• What sex dreams may reveal about desires and emotional patterns

• How to interpret dream symbols and recurring themes

• The benefits of dream journaling for self-awareness

• How dreams can enhance creativity and problem-solving

• The connection between dreams, emotions, and communication

Connect With the Guest

Debbie Spector Weisman

Website: https://thedreamcoach.net

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

Connect With Eve

Website: https://pleaseme.online

Substack: https://pleaseme.substack.com

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In this episode of the Please Me Podcast, Eve sits down with Satya Lila, a sacred sexuality teacher with over 30 years of experience guiding women and couples into deeper states of erotic connection, embodiment, and intimacy.

Together, they explore the profound differences between sacred sexuality and conventional Western sexual practices, opening up a conversation about pleasure as a healing, energetic, and spiritual experience. Satya shares her wisdom on how sexual connection can move beyond performance and goal-oriented pleasure into a more expansive, embodied state of awareness.

The conversation dives into the concepts of valley versus peak orgasms, highlighting how sacred sexuality invites a full-body, wave-like experience of pleasure that extends beyond traditional orgasmic release. Satya also emphasizes the importance of breath, relaxation, and presence as foundational tools for moving sexual energy through the body and deepening intimacy.

Eve and Satya further explore sexual energetics, including how energetic pathways such as chakras can be engaged during intimacy to support healing, connection, and expanded pleasure. They also discuss the connection between Tantra and sacred sexuality, while honoring the cultural origins and integrity of these practices.

This episode is a powerful introduction to sacred erotic awareness and offers practical insights for anyone seeking to deepen their relationship with their body, pleasure, and authentic erotic self.

What You’ll Learn

• What sacred sexuality is and how it differs from conventional sex

• The difference between valley orgasms and peak orgasms

• How breath and relaxation enhance pleasure and intimacy

• The role of sexual energetics and energetic pathways in the body

• How sacred sexuality connects to (and differs from) Tantra

• Ways to begin exploring your true erotic self

• How to transform sex into a deeper embodied and healing experience

Connect With the Guest

Satya Lila

Website: https://linktr.ee/satyalilasexualcommunion

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

Connect With Eve

Website: https://pleaseme.online

Substack: https://pleaseme.substack.com

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In this episode of the Please Me Podcast, Eve sits down with self-taught portrait photographer Melissa Ushtchenko, a creative force specializing in boudoir self-portraits that blend art, embodiment, sexuality, and self-reflection.

Melissa shares her journey from brand photography to discovering boudoir self-portraiture during a moment of inspiration in the pandemic—an experience that transformed her relationship with creativity, confidence, and self-perception. Together, she and Eve explore how self-portraiture can become a powerful practice of healing, presence, and self-connection that goes far beyond the traditional selfie.

The conversation dives into the therapeutic and meditative nature of photographing oneself alone, allowing for deep emotional expression without external judgment. Melissa and Eve also discuss the importance of embracing “messiness” in both art and life, and how surrendering control can lead to unexpected beauty and self-discovery.

They further explore how boudoir self-portraiture can support body reclamation, especially for those recovering from surgery or learning to reconnect with their bodies after change. Melissa also shares insights from her course, which guides others in developing their own self-portrait practice as a tool for empowerment and ongoing self-exploration.

This episode is an inspiring invitation to see yourself differently, reconnect with your body, and use creativity as a pathway to confidence and self-love.

What You’ll Learn

• How boudoir self-portraiture differs from traditional selfies

• The healing and meditative power of photographing yourself

• How self-portrait practice builds confidence and body connection

• Embracing imperfection and “messiness” in creativity and life

• How photography can support body reclamation and healing after change

• Tips for creating a sensual, intentional self-portrait experience

• How to build a personal self-discovery practice through art

Connect With the Guest

Melissa Ushtchenko

Self-taught Portrait Photographer

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

Connect With Eve

Website: https://pleaseme.online

Substack: https://pleaseme.substack.com

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In this episode of the Please Me Podcast, Eve sits down with Linda Ugelow, speaking confidence coach and author of Delight in the Limelight, to explore how communication, confidence, self-expression, and sexuality shape both our voice in the world and our intimacy behind closed doors.

Linda shares her personal journey of overcoming a deep fear of public speaking and uncovering the emotional roots behind communication blocks. Together, she and Eve discuss how unresolved experiences can impact our ability to express ourselves clearly—both in relationships and in the bedroom—and how healing those patterns can lead to more authentic connection.

The conversation expands into practical tools for repatterning communication habits, rebuilding confidence, and creating emotional safety in intimate relationships. Linda also offers insights into reigniting desire and connection in long-term relationships, including techniques for building sexual tension, maintaining arousal, and bridging the gap between lust and love.

This episode also touches on expanded practices for intimacy and exploration, including the role of plant medicine like ayahuasca in self-discovery and how cannabis may enhance sensory awareness and presence during intimacy.

This is a powerful and practical episode for anyone looking to improve communication, deepen intimacy, and reconnect with confidence in both life and love.

What You’ll Learn

• How communication fears are formed and how to heal them

• The connection between emotional blocks and intimacy challenges

• How to repattern communication for healthier relationships

• Ways to build confidence in both speaking and sexual expression

• Techniques for reigniting desire and sexual tension in long-term relationships

• How altered states of awareness can support self-discovery and intimacy

• Bridging emotional connection with physical desire

Connect With the Guest

Linda Ugelow

Speaking Empowerment Coach: https://www.lindaugelow.com

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

Connect With Eve

Website: https://pleaseme.online

Substack: https://pleaseme.substack.com

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In this episode of the Please Me Podcast, Eve reflects on the groundbreaking legacy of Dr. Ruth Westheimer, a pioneering sexuality educator whose bold, unapologetic approach helped bring conversations about sex, intimacy, pleasure, and sexual health into the mainstream.

Together, Eve and her guest explore how Dr. Ruth’s work broke societal taboos and reshaped public understanding of sexuality—particularly in empowering women to speak openly about their needs, desires, and experiences. They discuss how her influence continues to shape modern sex education and inspire more honest, inclusive conversations about intimacy today.

The conversation also examines the evolving landscape of women’s sexual health, especially in relation to menopause and postmenopausal vitality. Topics include hormone replacement therapy, the importance of advocating for better healthcare, and the need to challenge myths that limit women’s sexual wellbeing later in life.

Finally, the episode expands into emerging relationship paradigms such as solo polyamory, self-empowerment, and the importance of continued sexual exploration throughout all stages of life.

This episode is a tribute to Dr. Ruth’s enduring impact and a powerful reminder that sexual education, advocacy, and empowerment remain essential for all ages.

What You’ll Learn

• Dr. Ruth Westheimer’s impact on modern sex education

• How her work helped normalize conversations about sex and intimacy

• The evolving understanding of women’s sexuality across the lifespan

• Menopause, postmenopause, and sexual vitality

• The truth about hormone replacement therapy and women’s health advocacy

• New relationship paradigms like solo polyamory and self-empowerment

• Why open communication is essential for healthy intimacy

Connect With the Guest

Dr Leanna Wolfe:

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

Connect With Eve

Website: https://pleaseme.online

Substack: https://pleaseme.substack.com

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In this episode of the Please Me Podcast, Eve sits down with Dr. Jennifer Cruz, a physician of acupuncture and Oriental medicine, to explore how acupuncture can support women’s health, fertility, sexuality, and sexual wellbeing.

Dr. Cruz shares her expertise on the powerful role acupuncture plays in improving fertility outcomes, supporting pregnancy, balancing hormones, and regulating the endocrine system. Together, she and Eve discuss how increased blood flow and energetic balance can positively impact sexual health, vitality, and overall wellness.

The conversation also dives into natural approaches to hormonal support, including herbal medicine and preventative wellness practices that help maintain long-term balance in the body. Dr. Cruz highlights the importance of consistent care and how acupuncture can be a transformative tool for both healing and maintenance.

This episode is an informative and empowering guide for anyone looking to better understand their body and explore holistic approaches to hormonal health, fertility, and sexual wellness.

What You’ll Learn

• How acupuncture supports fertility and pregnancy

• The connection between hormone balance and the endocrine system

• How blood flow influences sexual health and vitality

• Natural remedies and herbs for hormonal support

• The benefits of preventative wellness and regular acupuncture care

• Real-life insights into transformative healing through acupuncture

Connect With the Guest

Dr. Jennifer Cruz

Eastern Acupuncture and Wellness: https://eacuwell.com

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

Connect With Eve

Website: https://pleaseme.online

Substack: https://pleaseme.substack.com

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In this episode of the Please Me Podcast, Eve sits down with Fancy Feast—writer, burlesque performer, and sex educator—to break down barriers around sex, communication, and sexuality.

Together, they explore the importance of open communication in sexual relationships, and how honest dialogue can deepen intimacy, clarify desires, and strengthen connection. The conversation also dives into non-monogamous dynamics, examining how relationship structures can be consciously designed to reflect individual needs, boundaries, and values.

Drawing from her experience in the burlesque world, Fancy Feast shares powerful insights on body positivity, self-expression, and navigating intense emotional and sexual relationships. She also introduces a role-playing exercise designed to help partners explore sexual preferences and boundaries in a safe, intentional, and playful way.

This episode is an empowering and thought-provoking discussion that challenges societal norms around sexuality, while offering practical tools for healthier, more connected intimate relationships.

What You’ll Learn

• How communication shapes healthy sexual relationships

• Insights into exploring non-monogamous relationship dynamics

• The influence of society on sexual desire and expression

• How burlesque can inform body positivity and self-confidence

• Practical role-playing tools for discussing boundaries and preferences

• How to navigate intensity in intimate relationships

Connect With the Guest

Fancy Feast

Website: https://fancyfeastburlesque.com

Book: Naked: On Sex, Work and other Burlesques

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

Connect With Eve

Website: https://pleaseme.online

Substack: https://pleaseme.substack.com

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