In Episode 45 of The Whetstone, Dark Helmet and The Plague unpack one of the most powerful leadership principles in F3 and in life:
Find the need. Fill the need.
Instead of waiting for titles, permission, or open roles, great men step into gaps. They respond to what’s needed in their families, workplaces, churches, and communities.
Through conversations about Zebra Jockey leadership, Q Source, faith, and real-life leadership challenges, this episode challenges men to stop managing positions and start owning responsibility.
Leadership isn’t about having a seat.
It’s about serving the mission.
✅ What You’ll Learn in This Episode
✅ Why “find the need, fill the need” is the core of F3 leadership
✅ How Zebra Jockey thinking builds adaptive men
✅ Why waiting for roles limits your influence
✅ The difference between structure and mission
✅ How Q Source applies beyond workouts
✅ Reducing discretion without abdicating responsibility
✅ Playing the long game at work and home
✅ Leading without formal authority
✅ Why interruptions are often the real mission
✅ How faith shapes high-agency leadership
🎙️ Powerful Sound Bites
🎙️ “Find the need, fill the need. That’s the deal.”
🎙️ “Leadership isn’t about filling seats. It’s about filling gaps.”
🎙️ “Titles don’t create influence. Ownership does.”
🎙️ “If it’s headed to town, hop on.”
🎙️ “The world loves the status quo. Leaders don’t.”
⏱️ Episode Timestamps
00:00 – F3 Ski, socks, and culture
04:20 – Fear of failure and growth
06:10 – Q Source and leadership development
09:00 – Faith and third F purpose
12:30 – Structure vs mission
16:00 – Vision-driven leadership
18:45 – Community influence
22:30 – Titles and authority
25:00 – Agency at work
29:00 – Playing the long game
34:00 – “All of this is made up”
36:45 – Zebra Jockey explained
41:00 – Waiting vs leading
45:00 – Agency vs responsibility
49:00 – Family priorities
54:00 – Closing reflections
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