Put Into Words

This conversation was inspired by: Glennon Doyle - episode with Brene Brown

IN THIS EPISODE THE GALS DISCUCSS:

• Model Archetype
• Martyr Archetype
• Hallmark behaviors of a martyr
• A martyr has seen or experienced something so profoundly true, at least to them, they are willing to sacrifice everything on its behalf, including their own lives.
• Modern day examples of martyrdom (The Giving Tree)Why being a martyr doesn't serve anyone (in the end)
• Being a martyr feeds into the false dichotomy that to be a good person you have to sacrifice something that's important to you (your happiness, dreams, life, physical/ emotional well being)
• How modeling can break the martyr chain
• When you take care of yourself you give permission to others around you to do the same - in that way you are serving them even more
• What being a Model looks like: clear honest expectations & boundaries & communication
• Personal examples from both the Gals

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With the current pandemic a lot of coping skills are surfacing. We wanted to talk specifically about how movement and exercise can be beneficial for many, however others may struggle to abuse this tool. Given both our personal histories with exercise abuse we wanted to discuss the nuances of our relationship with movement, how it's evolved, & things we've learned. Friendly disclaimer - if you find this topic triggering please do what you need to do to take care of yourself.

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IN THIS EPISODE :

The messages we received growing up about exercise, sports, and movement

Engrid: Movement is non-negotiable, it's about performance, improvement, & achievement. It's your legacy.

Georgie: "You're not athletic... but you still have to participate even if you hate this and are not good at it"

Both of us not realizing you were allowed to have fun in the way you move

Navigating the notion of "you'll never regret a workout"

Societal Messaging (diet culture)

Turning to exercise as a way of coping with difficult emotions that I didn't have tools for navigating

The exhaustion it achieved helped numb out emotions/feelings that felt too overwhelming.

It felt like a compulsive obligation (I didn't feel "okay" unless I exercised)

Exercise as punishment ("cost of entry" mentality)

Fitness as an identity

Exercise as a way to prove ourselves to others

The dread and anxiety we both associated with exercise

Learned to equate and working out with this idea of "earning my keep"

Earning your right to be here

Reminding you, you always have permission to take a break

You deserve to eat, independent of how much you move

When exercise comes from a place to "fill a void"/obligation vs. choosing to do a workout because it sounds fun

Learning to recognize this conditioning and getting curious about the compulsive behavior → asking questions:

• What are you trying to avoid feeling?
• What do you really need right now? (inner child)
• How do I want to move right now?
• When does movement/exercise serve me?
• How does this movement ultimately make me feel?

Learning to hear what my body is telling me, what it's asking for.

It can be challenging to heal using the same modalities we used to harm.

Choosing the next best option - baby steps to reducing exercise duration, intensity etc.

Movement as an empowerment tool independent of aesthetics

IF YOU ENJOYED THIS EPISODE - WE THINK YOU'LL ALSO LIKE:

Georgie's post: https://www.instagram.com/p/B5QRghSJoTO/?igshid=1uucwbdxi9k1x

A related solo podcast episode with Engrid: Learning How We Have Value, Identity, Labels, & Expectations

Nourishing Women's Podcast

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Excerpts from bmj.com (British Medical Journal)

Pilates Instructor: @karaduvalpilates Forme Barre Nantucket

Intro: Struggle & Win for the week

1. Fun fact about yourself
2. What are you most excited to do when quarantine is over?
3. What is different for you right now and what is the same?
4. What's something you're enjoying about quarantine?
5. Favorite ritual right now? (Self care/movement/creative etc)
6. Favorite thing to watch or listen to?
7. What's one small thing you're grateful for right now?
8. What's something you're afraid of? (naming it)
9. How many rolls of toilet paper do you have right now?
10. How has this week felt different from last week?
11. What's your favorite snack?
12. Who is doing a great job at sharing right now?
13. When's the last time you put on makeup / did your hair?
14. What part of your life/routine are you missing the most right now that you can't do?

Great Sharing:

@brenebrown

@eckharttolle

@glennondoyle

@eviemarie.oconnor

@sitwithwhit

@karaduvalpilates

@maryscupofteaa

@livingminnaly

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Rapid Fire:

Latte or Black

Early bird or Night owl

Lemon or lime

Massage Or Nails

Long hair or short hair

Curly or straight

Somatic or cognitive

Tats or no tats

Tim Ferriss or Gary V

Neuroscience or Politics

Big dogs or small dogs

Pasta or Nachos

Sunrise or Sunset

Jumpsuit or Overalls

Hot coffee or Iced coffee

Hydrangeas or Dahlias

Stars of Stripes

Paris or London

Puzzles of Cards

Dwight or Jim

Kelly or Ryan

Let's talk about what's going on with this global COVID19 pandemic and how we are processing it. Things that are surfacing, how we are navigating our emotions and feelings during this time of uncertainty.

• How people deal with uncertainty and chaos is different and that's ok
• Over / Under Consumption: news, food, exercise, structure
• Judgment of how others behave & process in times of uncertainty and chaos
• Ultimately we are all trying to create a narrative for an unknown outcome
• It's hard to know what the proper reaction should be
• 'Welcome to Marriage During the Coronavirus'
• The gals share how they are personally feeling
• Practical tools they've found helpful during this time
• Knowing yourself (strengths/weaknesses/triggers)
• Reminder: There is no comparison - there is no scoreboard for suffering
• The gals share some stories from listener's shared in the Gal Pal Corral

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In this episode Georgie and Engrid unpack giving and receving unsolicited advice. They are tacking the question: why do people feel compelled to help or share their input (especially when the other person isn't looking for help)

IN THIS EPISODE:

A working definition of what it means to "hold space"

Helpful responses to uncomfortable/hard topics

Reasons why we like to offer help/fix/give advice

How uncomfortable it can be to sit with other people's emotions

If you grew up receiving validation for always having the answers

One-Uppers, Know-It-Alls, & Empaths

Our society likes to sell us problems and solutions and we are a product of that

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This episode is inspired by a recent post from Katie Dalebout

"Having a body has caused my mind pain. Having a mind has caused my body pain"

IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS:

The feelings shame we both experienced for the thoughts we had during our eating disorder recovery

Engrid's letter

What's happening when you choose recovery?

• Breaking up from an abusive relationship
• Stockholm Syndrome
• Losing a coping tool
• Aninostalgia

What's it like to live in a diet culture world as someone who's in recovery?

Recent triggering experiences

Smaller bodies receiving more positive recognition, praise, compliments, affirmation, & validation

from people who are still stuck in the mindset that there's a hierarchy of bodies (literally darwin made a heirarchy of bodies - based on race and sex) - people who don't believe that don't praise it) - We have to start this movement and build momentum - it's a belief not the truth

Validating your work

Your not wrong for wanting to be in a smaller body

Self focus // self destruction

The compromise of choosing recovery:

• What you give up (CONTROL)
• What you gain (FREEDOM)
• Shift focus away from SELF

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OPENING Q:

What is between me and being at home in my body?

"If you're inhabiting your body you're feeling change...if you're really awake in your body, you'll notice it's out of control. You can't be present and controlling at the same time." - Tara Brach

Today's topic Inspired by Ep. 409 Tim Ferriss and Brene Brown

DEEP DIVE Q's:

How can you be self accepting without becoming complacent?

What if we can look at achievement as fun versus necessary?

Awakening → Discomfort → Choice

How do you define "high achieving"?

How much of your achievement is driven purely by your desires? Vs. how much of it is driven by the fear of how others perceive you?

Where is the line between striving for excellence and embracing who we are?

How can you be high achieving without being self-abusing?

How can I avoid becoming myopically fixated on the extraordinary?

How can we recognize if we have a fear of being ordinary?

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Episode Takeaways:

There's not rush to find out who you are

Navigating the fear of feeling left behind

You don't need to delay your life or your joy, for having figured it all out

Hard and fun can go hand in hand

Surround yourself with people who are nice to themselves

In this episode Georgie & Engrid unpack limiting beliefs. How these often unconscious stories show up and distort our perspective. How to recognize a limiting belief and reckon with how we might begin to rewrite our narrative.

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"We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience." –Louise L. Hay

I N THIS EPISODE:

- What is a limiting belief?

- How to spot them

- Language that can help us identify them

- Specific & nuanced examples of limiting beliefs

- Questions to ask yourself