Dr. Jordan offers 2 powerful metaphors about how your daughters can learn to face and overcome adversities. Unlike cows, buffalos charge directly into storms, facing the challenge head-on, maintaining control over their path and with support from the herd. Instead of procrastinating or avoiding challenges, lions teach us to go towards and thru our fears because they almost never have as much “teeth” as we imagine. The approach of the buffalo and the lion will result in girls developing more self-esteem, self-efficacy, and optimism.For more information on the resources Dr. Jordan offers, visit his website at www.drtimjordan.com
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In this new podcast, Dr. Jordan describes how to teach your daughters how to become media and image savvy in order to combat the onslaught of unhealthy messages about their bodies from social media, ads, and videos. Learn some critical questions girls can learn to ask themselves every time they look at photos, and to understand they are being sold the message that they are not good enough and that in order to be sexy, popular, and cool they need the products in the ads.Related resources:Dr. Jordan’s previous podcast on mom’s influence on her daughter’s body imageValuable and insightful videos to watch with your daughters about the effects of ads and media on their sense of self:Dove self-esteem project: @doveself-esteemproject8697 Reverse selfie, EvolutionOnslaught: Talk to your daughter before the beauty industry does
Questions girls can ask themselves whenever they look at photos/ads/images online:· Do I really need this product, is it good for me?· What are they trying to sell me? Selling idea that in order to be happy, need this product · If you want to be sexy & popular and cool with tons of friends like the people in the ad, you must buy our product; · You are not good enough, creates cravings· “Does that look real or fake to you?” “Do you think this photo reflects that girl’s real life?” Do you think it makes girls feel bad about themselves to see photos like this? Does it make you feel bad?”, “Do you think there’s an addictive property to social media? What do you think the solution is? How do you navigate it in a healthy way?”  


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Dr. Jordan uses stories of eminent people like scientist Marie Curie, violinist Itzhak Perlman, and actor James Earl Jones to demonstrate how allowing girls to overcome adversity helps them to develop courage, resilience, self-esteem, grit, and optimism. The reason the butterfly pushes against the sides of her cocoon is to push fluids down the length of her wings in order to strengthen them in preparation for flying. It was this struggling that allowed her to be ready to survive and thrive.And so it is with our children.For more resources on this topic, go to Dr. Jordan’s website at www.drtimjordan.comJoin Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/




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Ever wonder how to rekindle your child's love of learning and develop them into critical thinkers? Join Dr. Tim Jordan as he sits down with Jerry Kolber, the creative mind behind the award-winning podcast for kids, "Who Smarted." Discover the secrets to fostering critical thinking skills, turning everyday moments into learning experiences, and using storytelling to make education fun and engaging. Plus, learn how Kolber's podcast and TV shows, including "Brainchild" and "Brain Games," are inspiring a new generation of STEM enthusiasts by showcasing the brilliance of female experts.
Resources:●  Who Smarted●  Link for other educational resources by Jerry Kolber: Atomic Entertainment
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In this podcast, 3 young women will shock you with their candid insights into how social media has affected their generation, the ways that they have experienced shame around their body image and sexuality, and the sense of disconnection and social awkwardness amongst their peers in college and in dating.

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Previous podcast of Dr. Jordan: The good, the bad, and the ugly about being in your 20s

Check out Dr. Jordan’s new book, a revision of his earlier book, Keeping Your Family Grounded When You’re Flying By the Seat of Your Pants which contains 4 new chapters, including one on everything you need to know about social media and its effects on children, and how to know when your daughter is ready to try it.

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Do you ever hear your daughter negatively comparing herself to other people and feel at a loss as to how to help her? Today’s podcast will offer parents a short but sweet and effective tool to keep your daughter from discouraging herself.
At a recent retreat for middle school girls, an 8th grade girl I’ll call Natalia thru tears described how she gets up every morning before school at 4 AM in order to put on makeup, fix her hair perfectly, and try on as many as 7-10 outfits to get just the right one. She has been trying desperately to be accepted into a group of popular girls who she described as, “the pretty girls.” She tries to dress like them and talk like them in an effort to be seen and included. And when she’s not included, she has let it mean that she is ugly and unattractive.
The mirror neurons in our brain are always watching other people to figure out what are others doing and saying in order to understand their tribe’s social mores. For 150,000 years, if you got kicked out of the tribe, you died, and so belonging to a group meant survival. That logic still plays out today for us all but especially during those vulnerable times like middle school where it’s normal to feel some self-doubt and uncertainty about yourself due to all of the changes you are undergoing.
Here's what we taught Natalia and the other 19 girls: if you see something you like in another person, like you think she looks pretty today or you like how easily she makes new friends, instead of making it mean something bad about you, go and affirm them instead. Their strengths mean nothing bad about you unless you let it.
Summary: So, parents can teach their daughters to catch themselves when they are comparing themselves to others and encourage them to go to that person and give them the compliment and don’t let it mean anything about them. This will result in girls being less discouraged and less self-critical and more confident.
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Does your daughter get overwhelmed by overthinking and overanalyzing everyone and everything in her life? If you have a middle or high schooler living under your roof, the answer is probably yes. In this podcast, Dr. Jordan describes a simple tool to help her to catch herself when ruminating herself into anxiety and switch it.
Scenario: girl Ellie sees photo of her 2 best friends at a sleepover and she wasn’t invited; this starts a cascade of thoughts that get more negative and anxiety-provoking: why didn’t they invite me? Did I do something wrong? Are they mad at me? Are they getting closer and thus am I losing them as friends? Who will I sit with at lunch on Monday? Am I going to have to sit alone like the weird kids?Girls always ruminate worst case, not best case. Rumination is one of the most common causes of anxiety and panic attacks in the girls that I counsel.Instead of getting caught up in the negative spiral of “what if”, your daughter can learn to switch it to:
What is? i.e. what is the truth? I didn’t do anything so it doesn’t have to mean anything unless I let itWhat else? What else could it mean? There are lots of possible explanations that don’t involve me in a negative way: maybe her mom said could only have 2 friends over after her volleyball game and they are on the same team…The worst-case rumination explanations are almost never true. And girls can check out the truth by asking her friends about why she wasn’t invited so that she can get out of her head and hear the truth.
Summary: help your daughter learn to become aware of when she’s starting to ruminate & Shift from “What if” to “What is the truth” and “What else could it mean?”
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“I Hate My Body!” is a phrase many girls silently struggle with, often shaped by societal pressures and unhealthy body image messages they encounter daily. In this episode, Dr. Tim Jordan dives into this critical issue with Dr. Ashleigh Gallagher and Dr. Janet Boseovski, authors of the groundbreaking book Beyond Body Positive: A Mother's Science-Based Guide for Helping Girls Build a Healthy Body Image. Together, they explore the pivotal role mothers play in shaping their daughters' body image, starting as early as the preschool years. The discussion covers practical strategies, including modeling healthy self-talk, affirming non-physical qualities, helping girls become more image and media savvy, and fostering self-compassion to counteract negative body perceptions. This conversation is a must-listen for parents seeking actionable insights to empower their daughters and combat harmful body image narratives. Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/


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Ever worry that your daughter lacks the confidence to solve her own problems and advocate for herself? Dr. Jordan describes how parents need to stop doing for kids what they can and need to do for themselves so that, like the great barrier reef, they can learn to grow strong and resilient.The Great Barrier Reef stretches some 1,800 miles from New Guinea to Australia. Tour guides regularly take visitors to view the reef. On one tour, the guide was asked an interesting question. “I notice that the lagoon side of the reef looks pale and lifeless, while the ocean side is vibrant and colorful,” a traveler observed. “Why is this?”
The guide gave an interesting answer: “The coral around the lagoon side is in still water, with no challenge for its survival. It dies early. The coral on the ocean side is constantly being tested by wind, waves, storms – surges of power. It has to fight for survival every day of its life. As it is challenged and tested it changes and adapts. It grows healthy. It grows strong. And it reproduces. Then he added this telling note: “That’s the way it is with every living organism.” Children need to be allowed to make mistakes, suffer, get frustrated and work thru their emotions and problems to gain the strength, resilience, and confidence that they can take care of themselves, solve their own problems and overcome adversities and challenges because they have been allowed to throughout their lives. Stop doing for kids what they can and need to do for themselves so that, like the great barrier reef, they can learn to grow strong, vibrant, and resilient.
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Election: discouragement, people pushed to extremes, culture and families can feel fractured, polarized:Rousseau believe man is naturally good but institutions make man wickedHumans better able to cope with harsh climate conditions of last ice age b/c had developed the ability to work together (71), cooperation more critical to survival than competition and struggle; humans crave connection, togetherness, and interactionStudies: kids as young as 3 divide a cake equally, at six would rather throw a slice away than let 1 P have larger portionInherent goodness of people: Disaster research ctr at U Delaware found that in 700 studies of disasters since 1963, there’s never total mayhem, crimes usually drop, adversity strikes and there’s a wave of spontaneous cooperationMarshall WWII study: most soldiers never fired their guns (15-25%), most P with fear of aggression & inner resistance to killing a fellow man, most causalities were the work of a small minority of soldiers; Gettysburg study found 90% muskets from battlefield were still loaded, many double or triple loaded, loading it was excuse not to shoot it; humans have an aversion to violenceHunter-gatherer societies rarely had war; thousands of cave paintings about hunting bison, horses, gazelle, not one depiction of war;Be kind to every child for you don’t know what adversities they have faced; we all have stories about why we act the way we doSonder. It's the profound awareness that every person you encounter has experienced a lifetime of hopes, fears, loves, and heartaches that you'll never know. Each moment of sonder is a reminder to appreciate how little we truly grasp about others' lives. Adam Grant;Cranes made by Japanese girl: In 1955 a thirteen-year-old Japanese girl died of radiation-induced leukemia. Sadako Sasaki was one of many who suffered the after-effects of those bombs dropped on Hiroshima and Nagasaki in 1945. Japanese myth has it that cranes live for a thousand years, and anyone who folds 1000 paper cranes will have a wish granted. So, during her illness, Sadako folded paper cranes, and with each crane she wished that she would recover from her illness. She managed 644 cranes before she left this life behind. Sadako's classmates folded the remaining 356 cranes so that she could be buried with a thousand paper cranes. Friends collected money from children all over Japan to erect a monument to Sadako in Hiroshima's Peace Park. The inscription reads:This is our cry. This is our prayer. Peace on earth. Each year people place paper cranes at the base of the statue to recall the tragedy of war and to celebrate humanity's undying hope for peace. In some places around the world, people fold paper cranes each holiday season to use as decorations and as a symbol of their deep desire for lasting peace.Calling long distance: man calling wife from airport phone booth, operator said 1 minute left, man hurried but cut off before he could tell wife he loved her; no more coins, as he was walking away the phone rang, he picked it up and operator said that after he hung up his wife said she loved you, I thought you’d want to know.++++Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordan
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