Raising Daughters

In this new podcast, Dr. Jordan interviews Gabriela Nguyen, founder of Appstinent, about her 5D Step Method to wean off social media.
Despite teens’ fears of losing friends, this process encourages them to replace social media with meaningful activities, including alternative ways to stay connected via phone calls, video calls, and texts, as well as more in-person connections.5D Method: Decrease, Deactivate, Delete, Downgrade, & Depart
Prepare

• Journal your deepest fears about quitting social media.
• Identify your ultimate reason for leaving.
• List realistic daily activities to replace social media.
• Recognize that campers don’t miss their phones when replaced with real connections and fun.
• Write down the most important people in your life.
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Decrease

• Unfollow ALL “junk” accounts—gossip pages, news stations, your ex—anything that negatively affects you or steals your time.
• Remove social media apps from your phone and laptop. Only access them via your laptop browser without saving your password.
• Turn off all non-urgent notifications.
• Increase real-world engagement using your list of analog activities.
• Prioritize close family and friends—schedule phone calls and meet-ups.
• Stop multitasking—be present and take more time for what you're already doing.

Deactivate

• Once you notice your social media use decreasing (this may take weeks or months), deactivate the account you use the least.
• Major platforms provide a 30-day window before permanent deletion.
• During this time, continue increasing real-world engagement.

Delete

• After 30 days, your account will automatically be deleted.
• Repeat the Deactivate and Delete steps until all accounts are gone.
• Do not rush the process—allow yourself time to adjust.

Downgrade

• If possible, switch to a “transition device” that is less advanced than a smartphone but more functional than a basic flip phone.
• A device like the Cat S22 has a small, slow display that discourages excessive phone use.

Depart

• By now, you are months or even a year into your journey.
• Review your initial list of fears—did they come true? How did they make you feel?
• Reflect on your reasons for quitting social media—was it worth it?
• Understand that, like any lifestyle change, there are trade-offs, but the benefits far outweigh the costs.

Resources

• Find more information on Gabriela Nguyen and the 5D Process at www.appstinent.org.
• Check out Dr. Jordan’s previous podcasts on social media:
• How Parents Can Know When Their Daughter Is Ready for Social Media
• Worried About Unhealthy Messages About Beauty on Social Media? Teach Your Daughter to Become Media and Image Savvy
• Watch for Dr. Jordan’s new book:
• Keeping Your Family Grounded When You’re Flying By the Seat of Your Pants (Revised edition, publishing in late March 2025).

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Description: In this podcast, Dr. Jordan describes 2 girls, a 4th grader and an 11th grader, who are stressed out due to over full schedules. Dr. Tim also describes 2 other factors that add to children’s stress levels today: excessive pressure to excel and valuing achievement over character. Kids and teens have internalized the message that more is better and that everything that they do, grades and sports and activities, are done to improve their future outlook for college applications. This causes kids to get anxious because everything they do as kids now will affect their future. Dr. Jordan describes the need for time to refuel and reground themselves as well as ways that they can take breaks to destress and replenish themselves. Finally, it is critical that kids make self-care important so that they will regularly schedule such times no matter how busy they become.Resources:Dr. Jordan’s previous podcast: Why rushed kids are lonely and stressedWatch for Dr. Jordan’s new book, Keeping Your Family Grounded When You’re Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised edition to be published late March 2025

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In this new podcast, Dr. Jordan describes the importance of parents spending time together so that when the last child leaves the nest, they haven’t become strangers. Dr. Jordan describes the ‘empty nest divorce trend’ that can result from years of couples neglecting their needs as a couple. Learn some rituals you can do together in order to keep your marriage fires burning so that you leave your children with a healthy template of a loving, close, respectful marriage. Oh, and NEVER go to a tropical island on vacation with children!
Related resources:Empty nest divorce articleFor information on Dr. Jordan’s weekend retreats and summer camps for girls, his 6 published books, and info on his presentations for parents and professionals, go to his website at www.drtimjordan.comLook for Dr. Jordan’s new book that should be out in March 2025: Keeping your Family Grounded When You’re Flying By the Seat of Your Pants, revised edition Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/


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In this new podcast, Dr. Tim Jordan highlights critical ways girls can demonstrate to their parents that they possess the maturity and responsibility needed to earn a smartphone or use social media. These include having a solid sleep routine and getting enough sleep, appropriately managing prior levels of technology, exhibiting good impulse control, consistently following through with agreements without arguing or rebelling, making thoughtful decisions and learning from mistakes, maintaining a strong track record of handling boredom productively, and being transparent enough for parents to feel connected and understand their thoughts on important issues.
Dr. Jordan’s previous podcast discusses the social readiness signs teens need to exhibit to show they are prepared for smartphones and social media.Don’t miss Dr. Jordan’s revised edition of Keeping Your Family Grounded When You’re Flying by the Seat of Your Pants, featuring four new chapters, including one on social media.

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Learn how your daughter’s connectedness to parents, family, community, and culture is more predictive of their mental health than their history of adversity. Dr. Jordan also describes how the timing of adversity makes a huge difference in determining overall risk for kids. Kids need someone who can reinforce that it’s not their fault, they’re not crazy, and that they can get thru tough times. Be sure you provide a therapeutic web of support of relatives, friends, teachers, coaches, and sometimes a therapist to buffer adversities.
Listen to Dr. Jordan’s previous related podcast, The Most Important Factor In Girls Gaining Confidence And Resilience, to learn about the concept of “safe bases.”
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Dr. Jordan offers 2 powerful metaphors about how your daughters can learn to face and overcome adversities. Unlike cows, buffalos charge directly into storms, facing the challenge head-on, maintaining control over their path and with support from the herd. Instead of procrastinating or avoiding challenges, lions teach us to go towards and thru our fears because they almost never have as much “teeth” as we imagine. The approach of the buffalo and the lion will result in girls developing more self-esteem, self-efficacy, and optimism.For more information on the resources Dr. Jordan offers, visit his website at www.drtimjordan.com
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In this new podcast, Dr. Jordan describes how to teach your daughters how to become media and image savvy in order to combat the onslaught of unhealthy messages about their bodies from social media, ads, and videos. Learn some critical questions girls can learn to ask themselves every time they look at photos, and to understand they are being sold the message that they are not good enough and that in order to be sexy, popular, and cool they need the products in the ads.Related resources:Dr. Jordan’s previous podcast on mom’s influence on her daughter’s body imageValuable and insightful videos to watch with your daughters about the effects of ads and media on their sense of self:Dove self-esteem project: @doveself-esteemproject8697 Reverse selfie, EvolutionOnslaught: Talk to your daughter before the beauty industry does
Questions girls can ask themselves whenever they look at photos/ads/images online:· Do I really need this product, is it good for me?· What are they trying to sell me? Selling idea that in order to be happy, need this product · If you want to be sexy & popular and cool with tons of friends like the people in the ad, you must buy our product; · You are not good enough, creates cravings· “Does that look real or fake to you?” “Do you think this photo reflects that girl’s real life?” Do you think it makes girls feel bad about themselves to see photos like this? Does it make you feel bad?”, “Do you think there’s an addictive property to social media? What do you think the solution is? How do you navigate it in a healthy way?”  


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Dr. Jordan uses stories of eminent people like scientist Marie Curie, violinist Itzhak Perlman, and actor James Earl Jones to demonstrate how allowing girls to overcome adversity helps them to develop courage, resilience, self-esteem, grit, and optimism. The reason the butterfly pushes against the sides of her cocoon is to push fluids down the length of her wings in order to strengthen them in preparation for flying. It was this struggling that allowed her to be ready to survive and thrive.And so it is with our children.For more resources on this topic, go to Dr. Jordan’s website at www.drtimjordan.comJoin Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/




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Ever wonder how to rekindle your child's love of learning and develop them into critical thinkers? Join Dr. Tim Jordan as he sits down with Jerry Kolber, the creative mind behind the award-winning podcast for kids, "Who Smarted." Discover the secrets to fostering critical thinking skills, turning everyday moments into learning experiences, and using storytelling to make education fun and engaging. Plus, learn how Kolber's podcast and TV shows, including "Brainchild" and "Brain Games," are inspiring a new generation of STEM enthusiasts by showcasing the brilliance of female experts.
Resources:●  Who Smarted●  Link for other educational resources by Jerry Kolber: Atomic Entertainment
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In this podcast, 3 young women will shock you with their candid insights into how social media has affected their generation, the ways that they have experienced shame around their body image and sexuality, and the sense of disconnection and social awkwardness amongst their peers in college and in dating.

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Previous podcast of Dr. Jordan: The good, the bad, and the ugly about being in your 20s

Check out Dr. Jordan’s new book, a revision of his earlier book, Keeping Your Family Grounded When You’re Flying By the Seat of Your Pants which contains 4 new chapters, including one on everything you need to know about social media and its effects on children, and how to know when your daughter is ready to try it.

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