When you are perfectionistic and productive, you might get praise from others, or feel like you have control in your life. But there are negative side effects to your rigidity and drive, like burnout or missing out on the life you really want. In this real play, Rhonda Merwin shows us how to do a functional analysis of your behavior to learn what is driving it and how to use attunement, flexibility, and values to broaden your repertoire of responses.

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