Real & Raw

In this episode I talk to you about people pleasing, something so many people suffer with according to my Instagram stories over 700 of you needed to hear this episode.

Within this episode you will hear about the following;

• What people pleasing is in all of its different formats (as you may be doing it without even realising)
• The effect people pleasing has on you and your journey
• What it truly means to people please
• How to stop people pleasing, set boundaries and protect your peace

If you'd love a part 2 let me know over on Instagram @helenderbs / @thisisrealandraw

Today is 'Blue Monday' which is considered to be one of the lowest emotional days for people across the world. 

I wanted to put this episode together not just to help you today, but to help you moving forward and for you to understand how to navigate through low days (as we all have them), what they might mean, and how to generally cope through difficult periods of your life.

In this episode you will learn;

• About emotions - what they mean and how to honor them
• How to regulate and manage your emotions
• Why you might not have known this beforehand
• How to analyse your life to understand if the low days = a deeper rooted issue
• General tips for mental health that I personally use and follow
• Things to avoid that can harm your mental health

If you find yourself struggling with mental health, please feel free to reach out to the below resources;

• Samaritans. To talk about anything that is upsetting you, you can contact Samaritans 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. You can call 116 123(free from any phone), email [email protected] or visit some branches in person. You can also call the Samaritans Welsh Language Line on 0808 164 0123 (7pm–11pm every day).
• SANEline. If you're experiencing a mental health problem or supporting someone else, you can call SANEline on 0300 304 7000 (4.30pm–10.30pm every day).
• National Suicide Prevention Helpline UK. Offers a supportive listening service to anyone with thoughts of suicide. You can call the National Suicide Prevention Helpline UK on 0800 689 5652 (6pm–3:30am every day).
• Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM). You can call the CALMon 0800 58 58 58 (5pm–midnight every day) if you are struggling and need to talk. Or if you prefer not to speak on the phone, you could try the CALM webchat service.
• Shout. If you would prefer not to talk but want some mental health support, you could text SHOUT to 85258. Shout offers a confidential 24/7 text service providing support if you are in crisis and need immediate help.
• The Mix. If you're under 25, you can call The Mix on 0808 808 4994(3pm–midnight every day), request support by email using this form on The Mix website or use their crisis text messenger service.
• Papyrus HOPELINEUK. If you're under 35 and struggling with suicidal feelings, or concerned about a young person who might be struggling, you can call Papyrus HOPELINEUK on 0800 068 4141 (weekdays 10am-10pm, weekends 2pm-10pm and bank holidays 2pm–10pm), email [email protected] or text 07786 209 697.
• Nightline. If you're a student, you can look on the Nightline website to see if your university or college offers a night-time listening service. Nightline phone operators are all students too.

In this episode I walk you through some key pieces of advice I would give my younger self about topics relating to love, relationships, sex and self worth. 

As a 30 year old women who has been actively self developing for the last 4.5 years, and coaching women for the past decade, I feel like I have gained a variety of useful tips that can help you to either feel related to, help you to navigate through situations or avoid them entirely.

If you loved this episode, don't forget to leave a review, screenshot this episode and tag me over on Instagram! @helenderbs @thisisrealandraw

Happy New Year! Starting the new year off with an episode all about taking yourself to the next level in 2023. 

Whether you’re a self development beginner or a few years into your journey, this episode will help you to understand how to take yourself to the next level with easy and manageable steps.

I walk you through the very exercises I use with my life coaching clients to support them in achieving their goals. You can also expect to hear my thoughts on manifesting!

If you loved this episode don’t forget to leave a review and tag me on IG letting me know your favourite parts! @helenderbs @thisisrealandraw

In this episode I walk you though how to implement and maintain mindful habits through the month of December. The festive period can be a time filled with social occasions, different routines, more food and alcohol and less of your usual structure and routine.

I teach you a holistic approach to goal setting ahead of the new year, how to do a deep dive on your annual reflection and how to think more analytically towards your goals, habits and achievements whilst practicing self compassion and developing on your self awareness.

After this episode I will be taking a short break and returning on January 1st, 2023! Until next time, have an amazing, day, week, month, or year.

Hx

In this episode I talk about what it truly means to be successful and why your definition of the word success may be the very thing leaving you feel like you're lacking fulfilment in your life.

• What success means
• How to be more successful
• My top tips for being successful in business, life and health!

Follow me on Instagram + TikTok @helenderbs | @thisisrealandraw

Until next time, have an amazing day, week or month!
Hx

Trust is such a multi-dimensional concept. We often believe that trust only extends to whether we trust an individual not to cheat or betray is, but trust goes so much deeper than that.

In this episode I will unpack what it means;

• To truly trust someone
• How trust is built, and how it's broken
• Does checking their phone = trust?
• What to do when the trust is broken

If you loved this episode don't forget to screenshot and tag me over on Instagram @helenderbs / @thisisrealandraw

TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@helenderbs

Welcome back to my monthly CONFESSIONS episode where I take you through a life update touching on the topics I'm working on or have worked through and even things I'm struggling with so you can hear from a first hand experience how I navigate through those situations and challenges.

In addition to this I provide you with the full moon ritual that helped me seriously EVOLVE! 

If you loved this episode, give it a screenshot and tag me on Instagram @helenderbs / @thisisrealandraw

Until next time, have an amazing day, week or month!

Hx

In this episode I cover the topic of when your partner is interacting with people from the other gender on social media. Do you get told that "it's only instagram, or that you're over-reacting?" Then this is the episode for you! As I walk you through how to address these topics in the most effective way so that you get the outcome you deserve, one way or another. 

Whether this topic specifically bothers you within a relationship, this episode touches on the problems related to your partner invalidating your emotions and how to communicate effectively within a relationship dynamic or if you are newly dating.

Let me know if you'd love a part two and what you're favourite parts of this episode and key take aways were over on Instagram @helenderbs / @thisisrealandraw

This #BridgingTheGap mini series is designed to help you BRIDGE THE GAP between where you are at currently to where you want to be. I truly believe that one of the fundamental parts of us achieving our goals is understanding the steps we need to take along the way. It can be extremely overwhelming thinking about our end goal whilst we’re not even on the starting blocks yet. Allow me to walk you through an episode all about MORNING + EVENING ROUTINES, so that you can make the space for not only mindful holistic habits, but also time for yourself! 

In this episode you will find out;

• How to create a morning and evening routine that you’ll LOVE!
• Understand how to optimise your sleep 
• Why having a mindful routine is important
• My top tricks for consistency and sustainability when it comes to AM+PM routines!