The high level narcississt is a puppeteer who puts others at his/her mercy. He pulls the strings of personal power on his spoues, children and ex-spouses. The high level narcissist makes promises that he knows he will never keep to further manipulate and control those closest to him. No authentic relationship is possible with a narcissistic personality. It is all a duplicitous fabrication, a series of false, shiny images that are devoid of feelings, meaning, compassion or humanity. Highly aggressive narcissists rules by intimidation, inflecting shame and humiliation. Those who ermain tied to the cruelties of the narcissistic spouse often have family backgrounds of psychological trauma and deprivation. As a result these children don't feel entitled to think, feel, dream and create in freedom. They are always looking for appoval from the parental figure. In many cases they marry a partner who demands the same kind of intimidating obedience imposes on them as children.  For some there is a time of reckoning when the spouse of the narcissist can no longer be manipulated like a puppet and decides to finally sever ties. This is a fortuitous moment of truth for the abused spouse. The forces of the rise of the true self are at work, leading the individual to find his way to freedom and the fulfillment of the destiny of their original authentic self. 

As a spouse or partner or child of a high level narcissist, you have been psychologically abused. You didn't deserve to be treated with such disdain, 

With your insights and your research you now understand the true nature of the high level narcissist. 

Practice self care: sleep, rest, movement and exercise, experiences with Nature's beauty, fine music, meditation in the form that works for you like diaphragmatic breathing. Be kind to the small child inside of you.

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