Kayla Lords hosts episode 15 and answers a listener’s questions about resets, something she’s referred to in passing several times. What is a reset? How do you know you need one? And what does a reset look like? Kayla gives her personal perspective on the topic.

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In this episode:

* A reset is needed when a submissive gets a noisy mind and negative feelings after just enough stress that create a sense of being overwhelmed.

* It manifests, for Kayla, in a variety of ways: tears, lack of focus, crankiness.

* Resets aren’t just for submissives. Dominants benefit from them as well, but submissives tend to admit to needing one and talk about it more easily.

* A hard spanking is the go-to cure. When it’s really bad for Kayla, a spanking that causes tears does the trick. Even a few forced orgasms help, too.

* Vanilla life and D/s needs can often co-exist with no problems, but when they can’t, a reset can help a submissive find focus and peace again.

* Anything can create a noisy mind that needs to be reset: stress from work and home, disagreements, anything.

* Dominants need resets, too. Whether it’s feeling out of control or a lack of desire to make any decisions, doing something that is pleasurable as a Dominant can help.

Have a question or topic suggestion? Feel free to contact Kayla or John Brownstone directly!

Links from the Show:

Be Careful What You Wish For – A Masturbation Monday post about forced orgasms that resulted in a reset.

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Full Transcript:

You’re listening to Loving BDSM podcast: episode 15. Today’s episode discusses resetting this particular submissive and what that means and looks like. Hey, everybody.