What is attachment theory? How does your attachment style impact your relationships? As an expert in attachment theory, Kirsty Nolan joins us to discuss all of that, plus:

• The four attachment styles
• What happens when you have a secure attachment early in childhood, but later experience a rupture because of trauma, like your parents’ divorce
• Tips on resolving conflict, specifically how to repair after a rupture

If you’re curious about attachment styles or just want a healthy relationship, this episode is for you.

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What happens when you become your parents’ emotional confidant—their therapist—during a divorce? At first, it might feel like you’re helping. But eventually, it backfires and might even break you. That’s what happened to Cole. 

In this episode, we explore:

• How he went through his parents’ separation twice—and how each one affected him differently

• How he’s slowly rebuilding family relationships after stepping away to heal

• Why even small decisions felt impossible—and how he learned to choose with confidence

  
  

If you’ve ever acted as your parents’ therapist—or felt crushed by their divorce or the chaos at home—this episode is for you.

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So many of us feel depleted and exhausted, yet we might not know why. This is especially true for those of us from divorced or broken families. Research shows that children of divorce typically have worse physical health and more emotional problems. 

But thankfully, that doesn’t have to be your story. Going from depleted to healthy on every level is not only doable—but simpler than you think, according to my guest.

In this episode, we discuss:

• 9 often-overlooked pillars of health that could be sabotaging your wellness.

• The top 4 areas of health where most people need to start. 

• Quick and simple tips you probably haven’t heard to feel and be your best.

  
  

If you’ve struggled with your health in any way or just desire to be healthier, this episode is for you.

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AJ had a normal life as a college student-athlete. But one night, a violent car accident left AJ paralyzed from the waist down. 

What started as 15 minutes of hell has transformed into what he calls “The best thing that’s happened to me.” 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The detailed story of the accident and the unexplainable emotions he experienced in the minutes after the accident

• The two things that helped him cope and beat feeling like a perpetual victim

• What AJ said to the driver of the vehicle and the miracles and transformations that have resulted from his injury

  
  

If you’ve endured trauma, a horrible injury, or you’re just going through an intense season of suffering, this episode is for you.

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At the root of our culture’s many problems is the breakdown of marriages and families. My guest shares sobering statistics, such as that “there are 31% less marriages annually now than in the year 2000” and there are “65% less marriages now than in the year 1970.” 

He says this is hugely contributing to the loneliness crisis today. Thankfully, there is a cure, which we discuss in this episode, plus:

• How the lonelinest group of people at church aren’t the old

• Encouragement for young people from broken families who fear love and marriage

• What a healthy relationship looks like and how to build it, including the 5 stages of healthy relationships

  
  

If you’ve been affected by the breakdown of marriages and families, this episode is for you.

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Growing up, Dr. Gerry experienced deep turmoil at home. His father was abusive, and his parents’ marriage was full of conflict. When they eventually divorced, he felt like he lost both parents. Feeling alone, he became highly independent. 

Thankfully, he found healing, and today he helps others heal as a therapist. In this episode, we discuss:

• How Internal Family Systems (IFS) and “parts work” can help you heal emotional wounds and improve your relationships.

• The way our parts interact with our significant other—and how to avoid choosing a spouse from a wounded part of you.

• What a mother wound is and how it affects you

• How movies like Inside Out, Encanto, and even Avengers’ movies illustrate “parts work” and the healing journey.

  
  

If you have perhaps sustained a mother wound or want to heal using Internal Family Systems, this episode is for you.

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So many of us from divorced or broken families fear repeating our parents' mistakes. 

If you want to avoid that, one of the keys is building virtue. 

But what is virtue? How do you build it? And what virtues might you acquire?

My guest today wrote Superhabits, an amazing new book on virtue. He answers those questions, plus:

• How to override the unconscious bad habits we inherited in our families
• One habit that could save your marriage before it starts and what virtues to look for in a potential spouse
• Why virtue, not just therapy, is the key to healing family wounds

If you’re struggling with bad habits or you want to build good habits, this episode is for you.

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After a relapse into alcoholism, Ben’s mom left him, his family, and the country for years when he was just 5 years old. When she returned, he struggled in his relationship with her but placed proper boundaries and found some resolution. But his mom’s death in Ben’s late 20s brought new pain. 

In this episode, you’ll hear his wild story, plus:

• The resolution he experienced with his mom and an unexpected tactic that’s helped him heal after his mom’s death
• The place of justice, mercy, and blame after your parents’ divorce
• How he was skeptical of marriage and what taught him that a good family is possible

If you’re struggle in your relationship with mom or a parent died without you resolving things with them, this episode is for you.

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Has your parents’ divorce or broken family brought pain into your life? Do you fear repeating the cycle of dysfunction or divorce?

You’re not alone—millions face these often unspoken struggles: hidden wounds, emotional problems, broken relationships, and destructive habits. Thankfully, you’re not destined to repeat your family’s dysfunction. 

In this episode, you’ll hear a breakout talk from the SEEK25 conference where you’ll discover the two keys to breaking that cycle and learn actionable tips to build healthy relationships.

About the Speaker:

Endorsed by Jason Evert and Dr. Bob Schuchts, Joey Pontarelli has spoken across the U.S. and internationally.

He is the author of the book “It’s Not Your Fault” and hosts the podcast, “Restored: Helping Children of Divorce,” which has helped thousands of young people.

He has been a guest on EWTN’s TV and radio shows, Dr. Bob Schuchts’s “Restore the Glory” podcast, Jason Evert’s “Lust is Boring” podcast, and Relevant Radio’s “The Drew Mariani Show.”

Joey is married to Brigid, and they love life with their two kids, Lucy and John Paul.

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At age 5, Dylan’s parents divorced. Visitation brought challenges, but he learned to appreciate the time it gave him with his dad, who really helped him grow. From that, he learned that good can come from broken situations.

In today’s episodes, we also discuss topics like:

• How we need father figures, ideally our dads, in order to become men, find our strength, and learn what to do with it
• The challenges and blessing of a stepfamily
• How your value isn’t measured by your performance or exterior qualities

If you’re from a blended family, you’ve questioned your value, you’ve felt unwanted, or you’re missing a father figure in your life, this episode is for you.

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