Restored: Helping Children of Divorce

Bree Solstad went from being a top-selling porn actress to quitting her job and completely turning her life around. That transformation started because of a trip to Italy. 

In this episode, she tells us about that and answers questions like:

• What led you to pornography in the first place?
• How did your broken family and abandonment from your father play into that?
• What percentage of performers in porn come from divorced or broken families? It’ll shock you
• What has helped you begin to heal your wounds? 
• What would you say to people who believe that porn is harmful and not wrong?

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For people like us from divorced and broken families, love and marriage can be extra scary. After my parents separated, I swore, “If this is where marriage leads, I want nothing to do with it.”

But thankfully, love and marriage aren’t doomed to fail. Marriage isn’t easy, but it can be beautiful and joyful. More importantly, it can help you grow into a better, stronger, and more virtuous person. 

Today, we’re joined by a married couple to discuss all of that, plus:

• The struggles they’ve faced within their marriage, especially around unmet expectations and brokenness
• The joy and beauty that they’ve experienced in their marriage and family
• What topics you need to discuss before you get married

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For many of us from divorced families, we unconsciously want our parents to resolve their problems and get back together. Even if that isn’t possible due to abuse or other extreme scenarios, we can’t help but want our family to be whole. 

Today’s guest felt that desire for his parents and family. In this episode, we discuss that and more:

• How anger, overeating, and lots of activities became his coping mechanisms
• How his parents’ divorce has affected him differently in different chapters of his life
• How much should parents tell their kids about the divorce?
• What he’s done to heal and grow, and how his life is better now

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At a young age, Jack learned he had an incurable disease. That naturally brought lots of physical and emotional pain into his life. But through that suffering, the lessons he learned and the transformation he experienced led him to say, “The thing I wish most never happened, I am most grateful for.” 

In this episode, we discuss what led to that transformation and more:

• The bitterness and loneliness he felt and how his life looks now
• Our tendency to “replay” the trauma we’ve endured and what to do if you feel stuck
• Why we need mentors in our lives to guide and challenge us, but also to help us see our blindspots

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With so many marriages and families falling apart, the natural question is: What has caused all these broken marriages and families?

In this episode, Dr. John Bishop unveils the surprising root cause, plus:

• The crisis of masculinity facing our world right now
• The proper place of happiness within marriage
• An awesome digital hack to protect yourself and your relationships

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So many people from broken families struggle with feeling helpless or needy. Our efforts to heal or grow might even feel fruitless like tires spinning in mud that never gain traction. We put in effort in learning, but transformation isn’t happening. 

Whether that describes you or someone you know (like a friend, parent, or anyone else), this episode will help you!  In it, you’ll learn: 

• The simple solution to beat neediness and helplessness
• Why struggles are actually good for you
• The most important question you can ask to move beyond grief

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Two years into marriage, Jake found himself enslaved to a sexual addiction. He longed for freedom but felt very stuck. As a result, he lived a double life, hiding his unwanted behavior from his wife.  

But one random day, it all came to light. At that moment, he thought his marriage was over. In this episode, he shares what happened next, plus:

• What kept his marriage from falling apart?
• How a wound of abandonment from his family drove his addiction
• 6 tips to break free from sexual compulsion or addiction

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After her parents divorced, my guest felt abandoned and badly hoped it was all a dream that she could just wake up from. Dealing with all the brokenness that followed led her down a path of feeling stuck and thinking her brokenness defined her. 

Thankfully, she realized that “‘broken’ is what happened to me, not who I am.” In this episode, we touch on that and more:

• How just having the pain of your parents’ divorce validated is incredibly helpful and often the first step of healing
• The many emotional problems she’s had to battle, including anxiety, depression, anger, self-hate, control, and loneliness
• The tendency in people like us to allow fear to hold us back and cause us to play it safe, but how healing can free us from fear

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If you’re like me, you never saw conflict resolved peacefully in your family. As a result, you might feel a bit lost about how to resolve conflict in your life, especially in your relationships. 

If that’s you, this episode will help. In it, a married couple joins to share tips they’ve learned on resolving conflict, plus:

• Why it’s important to let small things go, but how letting too much go can lead to resentment
• The four levels of learning any skill
• Advice to someone from an intact family who’s dating, engaged, or even married to someone from a broken family

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So many divorces happen because one spouse follows their desires at the expense of their vows. That happened in the family of my guest today. 

In this episode, we cover:

• How her family’s dysfunction led to struggles with gender and sexuality
• The beautiful transformation she’s experienced and even seen in her parents
• The biggest lie about getting divorced
• A new organization that’s fighting for children’s rights

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