Hello and welcome to this episode of Retirement Rebel. Today, I'm absolutely thrilled to share with you a conversation that genuinely struck a chord with me. We're diving deep into the world of intergenerational discussions, combating ageism, and redefining what it means to age gracefully, all through the eyes of the wonderful Sky Bergman, an accomplished American photographer and filmmaker.
Firstly, one of the main points we discussed was the importance of intergenerational conversations. This isn't just about fostering warm and fuzzy feelings; it's a critical tool in combating ageism. Sky’s work, particularly in her award-winning film Lives Well Lived, showcases the profound wisdom and wit of adults aged 75 to 100. Through her lens, we get to see how valuable these conversations can be—not just for older adults but for young people too. They offer a chance to break down stereotypes and build bridges of understanding between generations. I know many of you, like me, are deeply passionate about changing how society views ageing, and these intergenerational dialogues are key to that shift.
Next, we delved into how Sky perceives aging itself and the damaging societal norms that come with it. She shared personal insights into how the media has skewed perceptions of ageing, often presenting it as something to be feared or combated with anti-ageing products. But Sky's take is refreshingly rebellious—she argues for embracing our years, owning our age, and celebrating the journey. This perspective is especially empowering for all of us who are navigating our sixties and beyond, seeking to live boldly rather than simply growing old.
Lastly, we touched on Sky's motivations in her own sixties and her exciting future film projects. At 58, she speaks with great enthusiasm about how this phase of life has become a prime time of comfort, freedom, and opportunity. She’s working on projects that beautifully blend intergenerational themes and personal passions, showing us that it’s never too late to pursue what lights us up. For those of you with dreams and projects simmering on the back burner, Sky’s journey is a powerful reminder that now is the perfect time to act on them.
So, sit back and get ready to be inspired. As you listen, I encourage you to think about how you can bring these themes into your own life—whether it's starting a meaningful conversation with someone of a different generation or pursuing a passion project you've been putting off. Let's embrace the vibrant possibilities of life after 60 together.
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Key Points:
00:00 - Introducing Skye Bergman and Her Work
I introduce Skye Bergman, an American photographer and filmmaker. She created the award-winning film "Lives Well Lived," which celebrates the wit and wisdom of adults aged 75 to 100 years, and authored the book "Lives Well Lived, Generations." We discuss the importance of intergenerational dialogue and combating ageism.
01:38 - Discovery of the Pro-Age Movement
Skye shares how she unexpectedly became part of the pro-age movement while searching for positive role models as she approached 50. Inspired by her grandmother, she chose to embrace and celebrate aging.
02:39 - Overcoming Negative Images of Aging
We talk about how negative aging portrayals can be depressing. Skye emphasizes the joys and wisdom of growing older, drawing from the inspiration of older individuals living vibrant lives.
03:54 - The Inspiration Behind "Lives Well Lived"
Skye explains the personal journey that led to creating "Lives Well Lived." Motivated by her grandmother's active lifestyle at 100 years old, she embarked on a quest to find other inspiring older adults.
05:30 - Celebrating Everyday Heroes
Skye highlights the incredible stories of everyday individuals aged 75 and older, emphasizing the importance of showcasing these role models who lead active and meaningful lives.
07:54 - Key Takeaways from the Film
Skye shares three common themes from her film: the importance of a sense of purpose, community, and positivity paired with resilience. These elements are crucial for a fulfilling life at any age.
12:43 - Embracing Intergenerational Connections
We discuss the growing importance of intergenerational dialogue. Skye's work in fostering these connections showcases her commitment to bridging age gaps through shared goals and activities.
16:50 - Challenges in the Workplace
Skye and I talk about ageism in the workplace and the need for conversations and initiatives like reverse mentoring to foster respect and understanding across generations.
21:15 - New Film Projects: The Primetime Band and Mochi Suki
Skye shares her new projects: a film about The Primetime Band, showcasing older musicians, and "Mochi Suki," focused on a Japanese tradition that unites generations through food. Both films emphasize intergenerational connections.
27:41 - The Role of Elders and Preserving Traditions
We discuss how contemporary society often overlooks elders' wisdom, underscoring the value of projects that preserve traditions and foster respect across generations.
32:19 - Key Messages from "Lives Well Lived, Generations"
Skye's book reinforces lessons from her film, promoting purpose, positivity, resilience, and intergenerational connections. It’s about inspiring readers to engage with different generations and challenge stereotypes.
33:20 - Optimism for Change
Skye expresses optimism about the changes she's witnessing regarding aging perceptions and encourages continued advocacy for a more inclusive understanding of aging.
36:24 - A Rebellious Mindset
I ask Skye about her rebellious spirit, and she shares how pushing past personal fears to create films and books represents her way of challenging expectations and fostering change.
37:38 - Final Thoughts on Ageism
Skye advocates against judging individuals by their age, calling for a shift in how people perceive capability and individuality, urging listeners to approach aging with openness and respect.
Guest Info
Sky Bergman is a documentary filmmaker whose work focuses on capturing meaningful stories across generations. She is best known for directing "Lives Well Lived," a feature documentary that showcases the wisdom and experiences of forty adults aged 75 to 100, collectively representing over 3,000 years of life experience. The film has received significant acclaim, with successful screenings and virtual conversations that have deeply resonated with intergenerational audiences.
Sky has expanded her storytelling portfolio with several other impactful documentaries. Her work includes "Prime Time Band," exploring the timeless power of music, and "Mochitsuki," which documents the Japanese American experience through the lens of traditional New Year mochi-making celebrations. She has also created "Forever Voters," a documentary addressing youth voter engagement and education.
Most recently, Sky has transformed her acclaimed documentary into a book titled "Lives Well Lived — GENERATIONS," which continues her mission of sharing profound human stories and celebrating life's meaningful moments.
Website: https://www.skybergmanproductions.com
To buy the Lives Well Lived — GENERATIONS book on Amazon: https://a.co/d/aBvvbaG
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/skybergman/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/liveswelllived
Links and Resources:
- Sky Bergman
- "Lives Well Lived" (film)
- "Lives Well Lived, Generations" (book)
- Primetime Band (Music Group in Santa Barbara)
- Upcoming Projects and Films
- "Primetime Band" film (2025 expected premiere)
- "Mochi Suki" film (PBS viewing in May 2025)
Quotes:
Embracing Age: "The one thing that we all have in common is that we age each and every day. So, why not embrace it and celebrate it rather than dread it?"
The Loneliness Epidemic: "The surgeon general here in the United States found there was a study that it's actually shortens our life more by loneliness than by smoking cigarettes, which I found to be amazing."
Overcoming Fear through Curiosity: "Your decision should be made not based on your fear, but on your curiosity."
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