Episode: Money Loves Circles - Working with Friends ft. Lola

In this groundbreaking first guest episode, Christabel sits down with Oakland-based stylist Lola to challenge one of capitalism's biggest lies: "Don't mix business with friendship."

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About Lola: Lola is an Oakland-based stylist, creative, and dear friend to Christabel and Kachi. She styles WNBA players and helps people unlearn the conditioning that ruins personal style, creating closets that future generations will fight over.

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Timestamps:

Key Quotes: "Money loves circles" - on how wealth circulates among the wealthy "I don't believe in being lonely at the top" "If you can work with your microaggressive boss, you can work with your friend"

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In this deeply vulnerable Part 1 episode, Christabel and Kachi peel back the layers of their origin stories to understand how they learned to navigate conflict, safety, and love.

Coming from two distinct backgrounds, both shaped by the violence of the Biafran genocide survivors and the silence of a strict religious household, we explore the survival strategies that saved us as children but challenged us as adults.

In this episode, we discuss:

The Fighter vs. The Performer: How Christabel learned to "fight back" and "hulk out" as a parentified daughter, while Kachi learned to "perform goodness" and embrace silence to survive a high-control environment.

The Cost of Survival: The impact of domestic violence, physical abuse, and the pressure to be a "good child" on our nervous systems.

Queer Identity in the Shadows: Kachi opens up about navigating lesbian identity in a Nigerian Catholic all girls boarding school and the internal conflict of hiding to stay safe.

Two Paths to Healing: We break down the myth that there is only one way to heal. We discuss how Kachi found herself through solitude, sobriety, and psilocybin , while Christabel needed to heal in relationship to witness her own triggers.

Join us as we trace our attachment styles back to the source and prepare the ground for Part 2.

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XO, Your Rich Queer Aunties

Christabel & Kachi

Christabel and Kachi are back. Two queer Igbo aunties, newly engaged, talking honestly about what it means to choose a lesbian life in the shadow of homophobic parents, church aunties, and colonial expectations.

In this episode they unpack what engagement and turning forty have stirred up. Christabel shares what it is to propose after two divorces and a Jehovah’s Witness childhood. Kachi talks about returning to the community they grew up in with Christabel who is fully tatted and pierced and feeling the monitoring spirits in the room. Together they name the grief of parents who will never fully celebrate their love, and the freedom that comes from refusing to hide.

They explore grief as an alchemical practice for queer African babies. What happens when you stop waiting for your family to change, tell the truth anyway, and let yourself mourn the parents you wish you had. How grief purifies, how boundaries shift, and how standing in your reality becomes an offering to the ancestors and to the next generation of queer Africans.

If you are the obedient child who turned into the rebellious queer adult, if you are tired of hiding from your family while holding everyone else together, this conversation is for you.

Find us on Instagram @richqueeraunties @christabelmintahgalloway @qingkachi

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We keep saying we have mother wounds, but what if the real injury is deeper than our mothers? In this episode, we ask the question no one wants to touch: Who are our mothers, really? Not the role they performed. Not the fears they passed down. But the person underneath all that patriarchal survival.

Christabel and Kachi crack open a deeply personal conversation about rage, abandonment, girlhood, queerness, and what it means to love our mothers without excusing the harm. From forced obedience to performative connection, we explore how patriarchy trains us to mistrust other women, and how healing means confronting the system, not scapegoating each other.

If you've ever felt triggered by other women, if you're grieving the relationship you never had with your mother, if you’re trying to change the dance by changing your own steps, this one’s for you.

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Love & Rage — What Did You Inherit and What Are You Choosing?

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How do we honor our rage without becoming who harmed us? In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we talk about love and rage, what we inherited, what we’re choosing instead, and how we’re learning to hold both without abandoning ourselves.

We speak as African daughters, as queer folks, as partners learning to fight fair, and as children unlearning obedience as the price of love. This conversation is honest, tender, and necessary.

We explore:

• ​Why rage felt safer than softness in many of our homes

✨ If you’re in the Bay Area, come be in the room with us for The Gathering on June 21. It’s a lush, intimate night of expertly made cocktails, radically honest conversation, and real community around the theme of Love and Rage.

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Want a deeper way to practice this work?

The Relational Skills for Liberation workbook is your companion, especially if you’re learning how to show up for yourself and others without performing perfection.

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In this raw and reflective episode of Rich Queer Aunties, Christabel and Kachi use the hit show Severance as a powerful metaphor for the emotional fragmentation many of us endure, especially queer, Black, immigrant, and formerly religious folks.

Through deeply personal storytelling, they explore themes of reintegration, rage, community, grief, and the courage it takes to reclaim your full self in a world that rewards compartmentalization. From family estrangement to navigating therapy, medicine, and chosen family, this conversation is a reminder that healing isn’t clean, but it’s real.

Whether you’ve seen Severance or not, this episode invites you to reflect: What parts of yourself have you severed to survive? And what would it take to live from a place of wholeness?

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In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we dive deep into why relational skills are essential for our collective liberation. We explore the tensions between individualism, collectivism, and interdependence, unpacking how capitalism, white supremacy, and patriarchy have shaped the way we relate to one another.

Christabel and Kachi reflect on their personal journeys with repair, conflict resolution, and deepening relational skills, not just in friendships and romantic relationships, but also in movement spaces. Why do so many relationships fall apart over unspoken expectations? How do we build the resilience to stay, repair, and grow while also discerning when to walk away?

We also talk about the role of community in healing from relational trauma, how prioritizing deep relationships is a direct act of resistance against empire, and why building strong relational skills is crucial for any liberatory movement. Plus, Christabel shares how her 12 years in nursing leadership have shaped her understanding of conflict navigation, emotional intelligence, and showing up for others, even when it’s hard.

This is an episode about unlearning, relearning, and doing the slow, necessary work of repair, for ourselves, our communities, and our collective futures.

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Spirituality should bring us closer to ourselves, to each other, and to the land. But too often, we see people leaving oppressive religious structures only to recreate the same hierarchies, dogma, and isolation in their spiritual journeys.

In this episode, we ask: Are we truly decolonizing our spirituality, or are we just replicating the same patterns with different language?

We explore:

✨ How indigenous wisdom offers pathways to healing beyond Western individualism

✨ The ways colonial trauma shapes modern spiritual practices

✨ Why relational accountability must be central to any spiritual path

✨ How to practice spirituality in a way that fosters community, connection, and liberation

Healing, unlearning, and reclaiming indigenous knowledge should not make us lonelier. It should deepen our relationships and bring us home to interdependence.

Ready to build community while doing this work?

🔹 Come join us at The Gathering (Oakland, Feb 15th) – A space to unlearn and reimagine intimacy outside of patriarchal structures. Tickets available now (4 tickets left)!

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Love, 

Christabel & Kachi; The Rich Queer Aunties

Healing Beyond the Master’s Tools: Therapy, Queerness, and Rediscovering Indigenous Wisdom

In this deeply reflective episode, Christabel and Kachi dive into the layered complexities of healing as queer African immigrant women navigating Western therapeutic tools, cultural inheritance, and the longing for ancestral wisdom. 

They explore questions like: 

• Are the tools we’re using to heal truly liberating us? 

• What happens when therapy and mindfulness no longer feel like enough? 

• How do we reclaim indigenous healing practices that were disrupted by colonialism? 

Through raw storytelling and vulnerable reflection, they unpack the ways queerness became a lens for healing, the heartbreak of systemic betrayal, and the deep longing to return to something ancient, something rooted. 

This conversation is not just about personal healing, it’s about collective liberation, about challenging systems that ask us to stay small, silent, and stagnant. 

If you’ve ever felt stuck on your healing journey, if you’ve questioned whether the tools available to you are truly serving your growth, this episode is for you. 

Tune in, reflect, and let’s query deeper, together. 

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Till next time,

Christabel & Kachi.

In this heartfelt end-of-year episode, Christabel and Kachi sit down to reflect on 2024, its challenges, triumphs, and transformative lessons. From navigating healing journeys and embracing authenticity to setting bold intentions for the year ahead, this conversation dives deep into vulnerability, creativity, and the power of showing up fully in our lives.

Join us as we share personal stories, honor growth, and explore what it means to let go of fear, lean into courage, and build a life rooted in authenticity and ease.

✨ What you'll hear in this episode:

• Insights from Kachi's healing journey post-injury

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• Follow on Instagram: @christabelmintahgalloway

Let’s step boldly into the new year, together.