Rich Queer Aunties

By Christabel Mintah-GallowaySociety & Culture Health & Fitness Mental Health Education Self-Improvement Relationships

Rich Queer Aunties episodes

February 25, 2025 27: Building Relational Skills to Defy Empire
In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we dive deep into why relational skills are essential for our collective liberation. We explore the tensions between individualism, collectivism, and interdependence, unpacking how capitalism, white supremacy, and patriarchy have shaped the way we relate to one another.
Christabel and Kachi reflect on their personal journeys with repair, conflict resolution, and deepening relational skills, not just in friendships and romantic relationships, but also in movement spaces. Why do so many relationships fall apart over unspoken expectations? How do we build the resilience to stay, repair, and grow while also discerning when to walk away?
We also talk about the role of community in healing from relational trauma, how prioritizing deep relationships is a direct act of resistance against empire, and why building strong relational skills is crucial for any liberatory movement. Plus, Christabel shares how her 12 years in nursing leadership have shaped her understanding of conflict navigation, emotional intelligence, and showing up for others, even when it’s hard.
This is an episode about unlearning, relearning, and doing the slow, necessary work of repair, for ourselves, our communities, and our collective futures.
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Tune in and let’s get into it.

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45 min
January 30, 2025 26: If Your Spirituality Is Isolating You, It’s Not Working: A Critique of How We Practice Indigenous Spirituality
Spirituality should bring us closer to ourselves, to each other, and to the land. But too often, we see people leaving oppressive religious structures only to recreate the same hierarchies, dogma, and isolation in their spiritual journeys.
In this episode, we ask: Are we truly decolonizing our spirituality, or are we just replicating the same patterns with different language?
We explore:
✨ How indigenous wisdom offers pathways to healing beyond Western individualism
✨ The ways colonial trauma shapes modern spiritual practices
✨ Why relational accountability must be central to any spiritual path
✨ How to practice spirituality in a way that fosters community, connection, and liberation
Healing, unlearning, and reclaiming indigenous knowledge should not make us lonelier. It should deepen our relationships and bring us home to interdependence.
Ready to build community while doing this work?
🔹 Come join us at The Gathering (Oakland, Feb 15th) – A space to unlearn and reimagine intimacy outside of patriarchal structures. Tickets available now (4 tickets left)!
🔹 Ọganihu Collective – A community for creatives of diasporic origin building sustainable, interdependent businesses. If you’re a creator looking for ongoing support, join us.
🔹 Comment/rate/review the podcast – This helps a lot for visibility for a podcast hosted by two Black, Queer Women.
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Love,
Christabel & Kachi; The Rich Queer Aunties

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43 min
January 07, 202525: Healing Beyond the Master’s Tools: Therapy, Queerness, and Rediscovering Indigenous Wisdom
Healing Beyond the Master’s Tools: Therapy, Queerness, and Rediscovering Indigenous Wisdom
In this deeply reflective episode, Christabel and Kachi dive into the layered complexities of healing as queer African immigrant women navigating Western therapeutic tools, cultural inheritance, and the longing for ancestral wisdom.
They explore questions like:
• Are the tools we’re using to heal truly liberating us?
• What happens when therapy and mindfulness no longer feel like enough?
• How do we reclaim indigenous healing practices that were disrupted by colonialism?
Through raw storytelling and vulnerable reflection, they unpack the ways queerness became a lens for healing, the heartbreak of systemic betrayal, and the deep longing to return to something ancient, something rooted.
This conversation is not just about personal healing, it’s about collective liberation, about challenging systems that ask us to stay small, silent, and stagnant.
If you’ve ever felt stuck on your healing journey, if you’ve questioned whether the tools available to you are truly serving your growth, this episode is for you.
Tune in, reflect, and let’s query deeper, together.
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✨ Connect with us:
Follow on Instagram: ⁠@christabelmintahgalloway⁠
Join the conversation on Substack: ⁠Rich Queer Aunties⁠

Support the community on Patreon: ⁠Oganihu Collective

Till next time,
Christabel & Kachi.

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37 min
December 25, 202424: 2024 Reflections: What we’re leaving behind & what we’re carrying forward
In this heartfelt end-of-year episode, Christabel and Kachi sit down to reflect on 2024, its challenges, triumphs, and transformative lessons. From navigating healing journeys and embracing authenticity to setting bold intentions for the year ahead, this conversation dives deep into vulnerability, creativity, and the power of showing up fully in our lives.
Join us as we share personal stories, honor growth, and explore what it means to let go of fear, lean into courage, and build a life rooted in authenticity and ease.
✨ What you'll hear in this episode:
Insights from Kachi's healing journey post-injury
Christabel's reflections on self-trust and slow growth

Honest discussions on letting go of societal expectations

Bold intentions for creativity, community, and connection in the year ahead

Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you stream your favorite shows. Don’t forget to rate, review, and share, it helps so much! 💖
✨ Connect with us:
Follow on Instagram: @christabelmintahgalloway
Join the conversation on Substack: Rich Queer Aunties

Support the community on Patreon: Oganihu Collective

Let’s step boldly into the new year, together.

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30 min
November 11, 2024 23: Choosing Between an Anti-Black Country and a Homophobic One: Building a Youth Empowerment Center in Ghana
In this deeply personal episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we confront a difficult and often unspoken question: What do you choose when both anti-Blackness and homophobia are constant realities? As queer African women navigating these harsh truths, we share our stories of living between worlds - Christabel a nurse, and writer who immigrated to the U.S. from Ghana, and Kachi, a healer and Nigerian artist. As two queer women, we’re in Ghana right now, facing the challenges head-on to build a youth empowerment and retreat center that offers safety, skill-building, and community for marginalized people. But it’s not just about us. This is for the youth who dream of a future where they don’t have to flee their homeland for opportunities. We’re here to create spaces for healing, skill-building, and intergenerational wisdom-sharing, even in the face of homophobic laws and cultural stigma.Join us as we discuss:The emotional journey of building in a place that is both home and hostileLeveraging the privileges we have - like American passports and financial security - to uplift othersWhy we believe mutual aid and community funding are the keys to liberationThe healing power of reconnecting to the land and culture while building safe spaces for othersBut we can’t do it alone. This project is for the community, funded by the community. We’re 13% funded towards our $30,000 goal, and we need your help to keep going. If you’ve been moved by our work, please consider donating. 💛How to Support Us:Donate to our GoFundMe to help us reach our $30,000 goal: HERE.Become a member of our Patreon community, Oganihu Collective, where we share exclusive content, behind-the-scenes updates, and offer private discussions: HEREConnect with us on Substack for deep dives into topics we discuss on the podcast, updates on the project, and community conversations: HERE.Follow us on Instagram for daily updates, stories, and behind-the-scenes moments from Ghana: @christabelmintahgallowayEvery bit of support matters, whether it’s $20 towards buying a bag of cement or simply sharing this episode with someone who cares about community building. Together, we can create a space where marginalized people can thrive, heal, and build a future rooted in empowerment.If this episode resonated with you, please:Rate and review our podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen.Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.Donate to our GoFundMe and help us reach the next milestone.Join our private community on Patreon to deepen your connection with us and support ongoing projects.

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16 min
October 08, 2024 22: Dear Queer Babies, Your Healing Matters: Lessons from Our Stories
Show Notes:In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we bring it all together - how our personal journeys of healing and self-discovery are deeply connected to yours. After sharing our own vulnerable stories in the last two episodes, today we reflect on what it all means for you, our dear queer babies, and why your healing matters.Christabel and Kachi discuss the importance of storytelling in the healing process and how being open about our struggles can help others feel seen. We share lessons learned from our journeys - how healing isn’t linear, how being present with your emotions is crucial, and why your story, just like ours, carries weight.In this episode, we explore:The importance of seeing yourself in someone else’s storyWhy your healing is essential to both you and the world around youNavigating self-compassion and forgiveness through the messy process of growthPractical steps for being present with your emotions and staying groundedWhy community matters, and how it helps you stay accountable on your healing journeyUnderstanding that it’s okay to struggle with the same issues, even after years of workThis episode is for anyone who feels like they’re navigating their own healing journey and wondering if it’s all worth it. It’s a reminder that your process matters - not just for you, but for those around you, and for the collective queer community.Join us as we share our stories to remind you: your healing matters.Listen now on:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsStitcherFollow us on Instagram:@richqueerauntiesJoin our Creative Community for Creatives of Diasporic Origin:Oganihu Collective Shop Our Merch Store:Rich Queer Aunties ShopEpisode Chapters:00:00 Welcome Back to Rich Queer Aunties01:10 The Power of Sharing Vulnerable Stories03:34 The Role of Storytellers in the Community04:52 Advice for the Younger Self06:46 Being Present and Mindful09:49 Handling Emotions and Inner Critic14:06 The Importance of Community and Mirroring15:46 The Challenge of Long-Term Healing24:31 Choosing Love and Sharing Wisdom27:05 Closing Thoughts and Gratitude

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30 min
September 17, 2024 21: Percent Better by 80 - A Conversation on Rage with Christabel
In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, Christabel's partner, Kachi, returns to the podcast to interview Christabel. They delve into Christabel's journey of healing through therapy, navigating complex PTSD, and embracing her authentic self.Christabel shares personal stories about her struggles with anger and emotional outbursts, her challenging experiences growing up in an abusive household, and her journey to self-worth and acceptance, despite the lack of support from her religious community. The conversation also touches on the importance of a secure therapeutic relationship, the role of self-compassion, and practical steps for emotional regulation and personal growth.Additionally, Christabel introduces her new initiative, Oganihu Collective, a community for creatives from the diaspora. Become an Oganihu Collective founding member by November 30, 2024 for $10/month here. This honest and heartfelt discussion is a beacon for anyone on their own journey to live authentically and heal from past trauma.Stay connected on:Instagram: @christabelmintahgalloway@richqueerauntiesSubstack: Boldly Authentic SubstackIf you enjoyed this podcast, please like and rate it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Your ratings and reviews matter immensely. Share this episode with someone who could benefit from it. Until next time, take care of yourself.Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Welcome Back00:19 Kachi Interviews Christabel00:42 Christabel's Healing Journey02:08 The Pivotal Moment05:28 Seeking Therapy07:32 Therapeutic Relationship17:00 Books and Resources20:25 Changing the Dance25:20 Coming Out Story26:20 Embracing Self-Worth and Confidence27:20 Coming Out and Facing Rejection28:13 Therapy and Validation32:01 The Power of Self-Trust34:30 Introducing Oganihu Collective35:52 Balancing Healing and Coping Mechanisms38:29 Navigating Relationships and Trust41:14 The Journey of Mindfulness and Imperfection48:26 Concluding Reflections and Gratitude

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52 min
September 03, 2024 20: Coming Home to Self: A Conversation with Kachi
In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, Christabel welcomes a special guest, their partner Kachi, who shares their personal journey of self-discovery and healing. Kachi, an Igbo-American Nigerian artist and recovering engineer, delves into their transition from conforming to societal expectations to embracing their full, authentic self.They discuss the influence of culture, family, and identity on their path, including the pivotal moments of moving to California, growing their facial hair, and exploring traditional Igbo spirituality.The episode highlights the importance of living authentically, sustaining personal liberation, and the complexities of feeling connected yet different from one's community. Ideal for successful Black women seeking to navigate and embrace their true desires and identities.Stay connected on:Instagram: @christabelmintahgalloway@richqueerauntiesSubstack: Boldly Authentic SubstackIf you enjoyed this podcast, please like and rate it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Your ratings and reviews matter immensely. Share this episode with someone who could benefit from it. Until next time, take care of yourself.00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage00:50 Meet Kachi: A Journey of Self-Discovery01:23 The Importance of the Body in Healing02:47 Kachi's Turning Point: Embracing Identity04:19 Navigating Cultural Expectations and Identity05:07 Rebellion and Self-Expression06:39 Facing Family and Societal Pressures07:22 The Catalyst for Change: Grad School and Beyond10:47 Finding Independence and Self-Care12:50 A Transformative Trip to Nigeria32:55 Embracing Authenticity33:23 Returning to the Motherland34:28 Life in Oakland37:07 Exploring Igbo Spirituality39:20 Redefining Identity43:31 Healing Through Community49:59 Navigating Shame and Guilt57:25 The Journey of Self-Discovery01:02:31 A Heartfelt Conclusion

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1 hr 10 min
August 13, 2024 19: Boundaries in Context: A Guide for Those of Diasporic Origin
Welcome back to RichQueerAunties, I'm Christabel, your host - nurse leader, writer, and African auntie. Today's episode explores boundaries within the unique context of diasporic origins.Boundaries are often discussed but not in ways that fit our lived experiences. For many of us from the global South or with parents from there, boundaries are intricate. We grew up valuing community and family over individualism.So how do we begin to own our individuality while respecting our roots? Unhooking our worthiness from our actions is key. Accepting our realities in a hyper-capitalistic society, recognizing our inherent worth, and building nurturing communities matters.Setting boundaries is an act of self-love. Recognize your limits and communicate them lovingly. It's less about external validation and more about internal regulation.I hope these insights help you in balancing collectivism and individualism. Let's continue the conversation.Stay connected on:Instagram: @christabelmintahgalloway@richqueerauntiesSubstack: Boldly Authentic SubstackIf you enjoyed this podcast, please like and rate it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Your ratings and reviews matter immensely. Share this episode with someone who could benefit from it. Until next time, take care of yourself.Episode Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Living Authentically00:33 Embracing Cultural Legacy and Individuality02:04 The Importance of Boundaries02:52 Navigating Diasporic Challenges03:46 Personal Journey and Cultural Attachment05:53 Balancing Community and Self-Worth10:43 Redefining Worthiness and Community12:55 Practical Tips for Setting Boundaries23:01 Final Thoughts and Community Engagement

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25 min
August 13, 2024 Boundaries in Context: A Guide for Those of Diasporic Origin
Welcome back to RichQueerAunties, I'm Christabel, your host - nurse leader, writer, and African auntie. Today's episode explores boundaries within the unique context of diasporic origins.
Boundaries are often discussed but not in ways that fit our lived experiences. For many of us from the global South or with parents from there, boundaries are intricate. We grew up valuing community and family over individualism.
So how do we begin to own our individuality while respecting our roots? Unhooking our worthiness from our actions is key. Accepting our realities in a hyper-capitalistic society, recognizing our inherent worth, and building nurturing communities matters.
Setting boundaries is an act of self-love. Recognize your limits and communicate them lovingly. It's less about external validation and more about internal regulation.
I hope these insights help you in balancing collectivism and individualism. Let's continue the conversation.
Stay connected on:
Instagram: @christabelmintahgalloway
@richqueeraunties
Substack: Boldly Authentic Substack
If you enjoyed this podcast, please like and rate it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Your ratings and reviews matter immensely. Share this episode with someone who could benefit from it. Until next time, take care of yourself.
Episode Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Living Authentically
00:33 Embracing Cultural Legacy and Individuality
02:04 The Importance of Boundaries
02:52 Navigating Diasporic Challenges
03:46 Personal Journey and Cultural Attachment
05:53 Balancing Community and Self-Worth
10:43 Redefining Worthiness and Community
12:55 Practical Tips for Setting Boundaries
23:01 Final Thoughts and Community Engagement
25 min