Ruby Ryder – Pegging Paradise

I hope you enjoy this podcast. Speaking of something that pops right up, there are two inflatable toys for you to check out this time! One from my last blog post, The Strap On Me Inflatable, and a new one from B-Vibe, the Expand, which luxuriously inflates with the touch of a remote.

Also - the story from the couple is heartwarming and a pure pleasure to listen to. I do spend a fair amount of time solving problems and giving relationship advice here at Pegging Paradise. What a treat to get a purely good news story! In fact, I felt compelled to play the music for them.

Happy Pegging and No Shame!

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"I love seeing you like this." My interviewee, Steve, has heard these words many times while receiving pegging from his partner. We hear Steve's story about how he began walking down the path of pegging and how his experience has evolved over the years. He speaks eloquently about what he loves about pegging, and his explorations into crossdressing and chastity. This podcast might be a reassurance to pegging givers who are concerned when their receivers express a desire to crossdress. Hearing personal stories can be heartening and enlightening. Enjoy!

Movember officially begins in November. I will indeed be participating once again with the same goal of $1000. I'm starting early (October 15th) because my goal this year is not a specific workout goal. Instead, it's a weight loss goal! This is why I am starting early. I plan to lose 15 pounds by the end of November and reverse the effects of the pandemic on my fitness. I'm strong from all my workouts but would love to be able to fit back into some of my clothes and move through the world more easily. Extra weight impacts me more intensely as I get older! And I need to stay fit so I can keep enthusiastically having my way with my partners...!

Please donate to the Movember fundraiser if you are able. They are doing such amazing work!

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I hope you enjoy podcast #301! I included a link to an instagram video from Joe Kort that relates to my new article posted on 7/2, "Men Like to Feel Beautiful and Wanted, Too". There's a lot to this line of thinking. I think the reasons that women are not as good at expressing their desire for men are complicated, but that doesn't mean that the desire to receive compliments and feel wanted is not there. Please take some time and consider this.

BIG SALE: Mr Hankey's is having a sale! From now until August 31st, the code SUMMER20 will get you 20% off storewide! Shop.

Happy Pegging and No Shame!

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More dominant, please - the thought going through many receivers minds.

The magic of Pegging, in my opinion, is that it is a customizable sexual activity. Pegging can look many different ways depending on the desires and leanings of the people involved. One couple might enjoy a sensual, love-making experience while another might prefer a full-on BDSM scene with restraints, impact play, and humiliation.

A desire I see expressed often by receivers in pegging groups on Reddit, and in emails sent to me is for the giver to be more dominant.

"How can I get my partner to be more dominant while fucking me?"

"Sometimes I really wish she would just grab me and fuck me and act a little more dominant."

"I've asked my partner to be more dominant, but she said she doesn't know how."

This is a common desire in the world of pegging. So how can couples best navigate this added aspect to their pegging play? I recorded my thoughts on this subject for you all. The answer is more involved than you would think. Good communication is essential. Knowing what you like and dislike is also important for both givers and receivers.

Remember, the willingness to explore is commendable and a true gift to your partner and your relationship! You don't know whether you will like it if you have never tried it, right?

Happy Pegging!

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Podcast #300 Part 2, where Michelle and I continue the conversation talking about responsive desire, celebrating people's no, and more. We explore touch, awakening the prostate, foreplay in solo anal exploration, and giving yourself permission. And don't forget, Soft Cock Week is coming again November 5 - 11, 2023! There are so many subjects around soft cocks that we discuss. Even how the word cock seems to be more favored by one racial demographic - with no studies to prove it!

Michelle and I go down a bunch of rabbit holes (pun always intended) in part 2 of podcast #300. She explains about responsive desire, and how understanding what your accelerators and your brakes are can be so important for couples to explore with each other. Then we explore Soft Cock Week (Michelle's creation!) from a variety of different perspectives. Check out the website - there are a collection of writings there from the inaugural 2022 celebration.

Again, I want to thank you for downloading and listening, and for your support. I believe that because of my efforts, and by extension, your efforts, too, that we have significantly reduced the shame often felt by receivers of pegging. We have also corrected the misconceptions and myths attached to this delightful sexual activity. More people than ever are exploring pegging. The wave of interest has not slowed. If anything, it has increased. Those of you here learning, exploring, and discovering all of the pleasures pegging can offer, you are absolutely surfing that wave, and I congratulate you!

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Presenting Podcast #300! I am joined by Michelle Rene, sexual surrogate, sex worker, intimacy guide, human connection coach and creator of Soft Cock Week. We talk about many. many things. You will surely find some nuggets in there for yourself. Thanks for listening!

Pegging Gangbang Interview #146 Part One
Pegging Gangbang Interview #146 Part Two
Podcast #200 Part One
And Podcast #200 Part Two
Podcast #200 Part Three
Stan Tatkin - Wired For Love
Jessica Fern - Polysecure - Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-Monogamy
Dr. Joe Kort - Ask Yourself...
Terry Real - Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship
Attachment Style Quiz
AASECT
Tammy Kent - Wild Feminine

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Mr Hankeys

So many books to read and ideas to investigate with this episode. This is what it's like when Michelle and I get together, and we thought we'd give you a slice of Ruby/Michelle conversation to hopefully delight and inform. It's been a long road from my first poor audio quality podcast in 2012 to number 300 today. Thanks for downloading. Thanks especially for listening. On this occasion, if there's one thing that I would urge you all to remember, it would be to let go of shame.

In some areas of my life I feel like I've just gotten started, but there's no time like the present to explore, grow, and learn. Basically, it's never too late. Live your lives with love and embrace your desires, because we are only here for a short time. I say this emphatically, as a woman who just turned 66!

In each and every moment, we all have the choice to either expand with love or contract with fear. Therefore, don't let fear rule your life. Choose love! When you do, you give everyone else around you a chance to do the same.

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Podcast #299 touches on a variety of different topics until finally revisiting that question of a fucking machine, but this time it is not a machine, it's a rocker. We've talked about these before and since that time there's a new upgrade to the plans, if you are a DIY kind of receiver. There are also a couple of new toys for those receivers who don't have a partner yet crave that sensation of being pegged.

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Giddi Prostate Massagers
Mr Hankey's Large Toys
Godmiche - UK based
NYTC - New York Toy Collective

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Podcast #298 contains some great stories about this journey we call pegging, from beginning anal play to the real deal. I never tire of hearing how that story unfolds, the challenges and thrills along the way. The recurring theme so often seems to be the deep satisfaction of being accepted for exactly who you are, and the thrill of exploring new sexual territory. Slings, butt plugs, relationships, communications, taking risks, asking for what you want, and more makes up this episode. And we are almost at #300!

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Podcast #297 brings all kinds of good things, like putting on a show for your partner, thinking hard about the connection of bisexuality and pegging, and a deep dive (pun intended) into lube options. PLUS, I finally found a lube option for you wide toy aficionados that measures up to my lube snob standards - yay! If you are going to put something in your body, make sure it's safe. That axiom applies to toys as well as lube! For those of you interested in different techniques to help open up to pegging pleasure, I'm hooking you up with Dr Carlton's butt clock technique, too. So effective! Enjoy podcast #297.

Here in CA we recently did the whole stupid (IMO) time change thing again. I wondered what the hell happened because I thought we were getting rid of it. Turns out despite voters approving the measure, state lawmakers have not passed any legislation to get rid of it. Will of the people, my ass. Politicians do whatever they like, and prioritizes the needs of the rich and powerful, especially corporations. Wow, I'm in a mood this morning!

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My interview with Zach Budd, and his reflections on consent, anal receptive play, and where the two meet, are an interesting listen. The journey he took that led him to take a deep dive into exactly what consent means in our world is fascinating. We discuss why guerilla ass play and stealth sodomy are never okay, and how an enthusiastic yes is the only true consent. Last but far from least, Zach shares the tip of the iceberg on the subject of anal receptive play for men in the back community, a subject many of you have wondered about. Enjoy!

For those of you who have yet to make it to an Equipment Webinar and now find yourselves in the position of gift giving and being uncertain about which gifts - I scheduled one more Equipment Webinar for you on December 3rd, Saturday, at 10AM. That will leave you time to order and receive whatever you would like to stuff that present, stocking or derrière with - your choice! My preference is the derrière, but you do you! And if you want to see the Bodacious Ruby Tatas, please make a donation to Movember!

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