Ruby Ryder – Pegging Paradise

More dominant, please - the thought going through many receivers minds.

The magic of Pegging, in my opinion, is that it is a customizable sexual activity. Pegging can look many different ways depending on the desires and leanings of the people involved. One couple might enjoy a sensual, love-making experience while another might prefer a full-on BDSM scene with restraints, impact play, and humiliation.

A desire I see expressed often by receivers in pegging groups on Reddit, and in emails sent to me is for the giver to be more dominant.

"How can I get my partner to be more dominant while fucking me?"

"Sometimes I really wish she would just grab me and fuck me and act a little more dominant."

"I've asked my partner to be more dominant, but she said she doesn't know how."

This is a common desire in the world of pegging. So how can couples best navigate this added aspect to their pegging play? I recorded my thoughts on this subject for you all. The answer is more involved than you would think. Good communication is essential. Knowing what you like and dislike is also important for both givers and receivers.

Remember, the willingness to explore is commendable and a true gift to your partner and your relationship! You don't know whether you will like it if you have never tried it, right?

Happy Pegging!

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Podcast #300 Part 2, where Michelle and I continue the conversation talking about responsive desire, celebrating people's no, and more. We explore touch, awakening the prostate, foreplay in solo anal exploration, and giving yourself permission. And don't forget, Soft Cock Week is coming again November 5 - 11, 2023! There are so many subjects around soft cocks that we discuss. Even how the word cock seems to be more favored by one racial demographic - with no studies to prove it!

Michelle and I go down a bunch of rabbit holes (pun always intended) in part 2 of podcast #300. She explains about responsive desire, and how understanding what your accelerators and your brakes are can be so important for couples to explore with each other. Then we explore Soft Cock Week (Michelle's creation!) from a variety of different perspectives. Check out the website - there are a collection of writings there from the inaugural 2022 celebration.

Again, I want to thank you for downloading and listening, and for your support. I believe that because of my efforts, and by extension, your efforts, too, that we have significantly reduced the shame often felt by receivers of pegging. We have also corrected the misconceptions and myths attached to this delightful sexual activity. More people than ever are exploring pegging. The wave of interest has not slowed. If anything, it has increased. Those of you here learning, exploring, and discovering all of the pleasures pegging can offer, you are absolutely surfing that wave, and I congratulate you!

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Presenting Podcast #300! I am joined by Michelle Rene, sexual surrogate, sex worker, intimacy guide, human connection coach and creator of Soft Cock Week. We talk about many. many things. You will surely find some nuggets in there for yourself. Thanks for listening!

Pegging Gangbang Interview #146 Part One
Pegging Gangbang Interview #146 Part Two
Podcast #200 Part One
And Podcast #200 Part Two
Podcast #200 Part Three
Stan Tatkin - Wired For Love
Jessica Fern - Polysecure - Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-Monogamy
Dr. Joe Kort - Ask Yourself...
Terry Real - Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship
Attachment Style Quiz
AASECT
Tammy Kent - Wild Feminine

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SheVibe
Mr Hankeys

So many books to read and ideas to investigate with this episode. This is what it's like when Michelle and I get together, and we thought we'd give you a slice of Ruby/Michelle conversation to hopefully delight and inform. It's been a long road from my first poor audio quality podcast in 2012 to number 300 today. Thanks for downloading. Thanks especially for listening. On this occasion, if there's one thing that I would urge you all to remember, it would be to let go of shame.

In some areas of my life I feel like I've just gotten started, but there's no time like the present to explore, grow, and learn. Basically, it's never too late. Live your lives with love and embrace your desires, because we are only here for a short time. I say this emphatically, as a woman who just turned 66!

In each and every moment, we all have the choice to either expand with love or contract with fear. Therefore, don't let fear rule your life. Choose love! When you do, you give everyone else around you a chance to do the same.

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Podcast #299 touches on a variety of different topics until finally revisiting that question of a fucking machine, but this time it is not a machine, it's a rocker. We've talked about these before and since that time there's a new upgrade to the plans, if you are a DIY kind of receiver. There are also a couple of new toys for those receivers who don't have a partner yet crave that sensation of being pegged.

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Giddi Prostate Massagers
Mr Hankey's Large Toys
Godmiche - UK based
NYTC - New York Toy Collective

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Podcast #298 contains some great stories about this journey we call pegging, from beginning anal play to the real deal. I never tire of hearing how that story unfolds, the challenges and thrills along the way. The recurring theme so often seems to be the deep satisfaction of being accepted for exactly who you are, and the thrill of exploring new sexual territory. Slings, butt plugs, relationships, communications, taking risks, asking for what you want, and more makes up this episode. And we are almost at #300!

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Podcast #297 brings all kinds of good things, like putting on a show for your partner, thinking hard about the connection of bisexuality and pegging, and a deep dive (pun intended) into lube options. PLUS, I finally found a lube option for you wide toy aficionados that measures up to my lube snob standards - yay! If you are going to put something in your body, make sure it's safe. That axiom applies to toys as well as lube! For those of you interested in different techniques to help open up to pegging pleasure, I'm hooking you up with Dr Carlton's butt clock technique, too. So effective! Enjoy podcast #297.

Here in CA we recently did the whole stupid (IMO) time change thing again. I wondered what the hell happened because I thought we were getting rid of it. Turns out despite voters approving the measure, state lawmakers have not passed any legislation to get rid of it. Will of the people, my ass. Politicians do whatever they like, and prioritizes the needs of the rich and powerful, especially corporations. Wow, I'm in a mood this morning!

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My interview with Zach Budd, and his reflections on consent, anal receptive play, and where the two meet, are an interesting listen. The journey he took that led him to take a deep dive into exactly what consent means in our world is fascinating. We discuss why guerilla ass play and stealth sodomy are never okay, and how an enthusiastic yes is the only true consent. Last but far from least, Zach shares the tip of the iceberg on the subject of anal receptive play for men in the back community, a subject many of you have wondered about. Enjoy!

For those of you who have yet to make it to an Equipment Webinar and now find yourselves in the position of gift giving and being uncertain about which gifts - I scheduled one more Equipment Webinar for you on December 3rd, Saturday, at 10AM. That will leave you time to order and receive whatever you would like to stuff that present, stocking or derrière with - your choice! My preference is the derrière, but you do you! And if you want to see the Bodacious Ruby Tatas, please make a donation to Movember!

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Podcast #295 is my offering to Soft Cock Appreciation Week, the brainchild of Michelle Renee at HumanConnectionCoach.com. For too long, there has been far too much emphasis on erections, how to get them, what to do if you don't have one, and pretty much everything that surrounds the constant quest for an erection. Let's celebrate soft cocks in all their glory! It's not hard, head over to the website and check out all the offerings from so many different sex educators and sexuality professionals. Officially begins November 13th and lasts through November 19th, which is when there will be a variety of events, and there are already resources and offerings to explore; a wealth of information!

Moved to donate to Movember? It's not hard:

I urge you to join me in celebrating soft cocks, slow sex, non-PIV sex, unhurried explorations of each other's bodies, and our own bodies! There are so many ways to have sex that don't require or involve a hard cock, a wet vagina, and a goal driven activity. Be good to yourselves!

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My Interview with Lex, IMO an expert on longer and wider toys. With his background of product designer, engineering, artistic creativity, constant curiosity and a large dose of chemical and physical science, Lex takes us on a very deep dive (pun intended) into this more extreme toy play. This podcast is a long one (another pun intended)! Right as I was putting this podcast together, I received a promotional email from Mr. Hankey's, and both the Largo and Long John are on sale 15% off! Lovely coincidence.

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• He describes his sexual assault (trigger warning)
• Short and sweet happy news!
• He loves feminization and she's concerned
• He introduces us to the 'Peg Pal' term!
• Pegging Celebration Time!
• They pegged before, but not for a while. This time was amazing!
• Pegging Celebration Time!
• New relationship and pegging is a happening thing!
• Pegging Celebration Time!
• After 3 years, it finally happened
• Pegging Celebration Time!
• Peggers from Belgium - He tells their story!
• She wonders if he relaxes through the have to pee, if he will orgasm?

• The Truth About Strapless Strap-Ons
• Podcast #112 - For the Givers
• All the Pegging Paradise Podcasts!

• Lucky Glitter Dildo by Avant
• Pink Aslan Leather Minx harness

Hope you enjoyed podcast #293!

Two more things...

I have talked about my amazing sex swing before. You know, the one that doesn't require a hard point, is free-standing, and breaks down to a duffel bag so you don't have to have a dedicated sex play room...? I showcase it in every equipment webinar I teach, because besides being amazing for pegging, it's excellent for less able-bodied givers and receivers! A new company took over the brand, and now offers an affiliate program, which I of course signed up for pronto. They offer not only sex swings, but a variety of other sex furniture, too! Here's the link: Fetish Locker Sex Swings and Sex Furniture!

Movember is coming right up and I will be doing my yearly fundraiser combined with gym workout (that's the 'move' part) again this year. My goal is $1K, and I have reached it twice in the past - with the assistance of a few tata pics. Just google tatas here at Pegging Paradise. and you will see what I mean. I hope you will join my efforts to raise money for Movember. They started off with an emphasis on prostate and testicular awareness, and expanded into men's health in general (men are not as good at taking care of their health because they are expected to just tough things out), and men's mental health (men are taught to compete, and follow a strict set of rules of masculinity, which leads to isolation and a lack of close friends = bad for mental health). They do amazing work!

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