Secrets of Happily Ever After: Marriage and Intimacy Tips for Couples

In today's episode, I'm sharing one of my most popular relationship tools that helps couples reduce the amount of arguing in their relationship significantly. I call this tool - Don't Jump in the Pool, because it conjures up an image that can be called upon when people in your life are having big emotions.

When someone close to you is feeling big emotions and you are in the crosshairs, you always have options. You can choose to participate in those big emotions, usually making the situation worse, or you can stay calm and collected and wait for those big emotions to subside. Either choice is fine, but one will almost always give you a better outcome.

Join us for our Valentine's Day Romantic Couple's Retreat in McCall, Idaho in February 2023. Get all the details by going to www.secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/vdayretreat.

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In this week's episode, I'm uncovering 3 different thought patterns that I like to call Stinking Thinking that are keeping you stuck and miserable. I hear people say these phrases all the time and without realizing it, they are secretly sabotaging any chance of being happy.

Once you start to recognize these thought patterns, you will have the power to change these sneaky sentences inside your brain to something far more productive. I show you how to recognize these thoughts and what to do to change them. I promise you will learn something mind-blowing in this episode.

Be sure to check out our Valentine's Day Romantic Retreat in McCall, Idaho February 8th-12th and be the hero of Valentine's Day in 2023 by going to https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/vdayretreat.

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In this week's episode, I'm talking about some of the couples I've worked with who came to me feeling like friends without benefits before we started working together. I'm sharing their stories of how they learned frameworks to help them change from living like roommates to developing an intimate friendship.

You'll hear about Jon and Julie, Josh and Emily and Bill and Marsha. Each of them struggled to connect and communicate until they learned certain skills and committed to doing things differently than they were doing before. They needed a neutral third party to point out the dynamics in their relationship they couldn't see themselves.

For more information on coaching with me, book a call at: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/apply.

For details about the Valentine's Day Romantic Retreat in McCall, Idaho, check out: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/vdayretreat.

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Today's episode is super special, because it is my 200th episode! In this episode, I'm sharing about the power of sexual intimacy to bond you together and create happily ever after.

I share why sexual intimacy is so powerful and important, times to connect that aren't when you are exhausted right before bed and  what do do if your sexual intimacy isn't what you would like it to be.

To get your FREE download of 13 Times to Connect That Aren't Right Before Bed, go to www.secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/13timestoconnect

If you loved this episode, be sure to join us next week for the Seduce Your Spouse 5-Day Challenge by going to www.secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/syschallenge.

Today's episode is an interview with my friend, Dr. Kelly Casperson about her new book, You Are Not Broken.

We talk about common misconceptions about sexual intimacy and female anatomy and why it is so important to get to know yourself and your body and how you experience pleasure. No one, including your spouse is going to do this for you. Enjoy this straight talk no BS approach to improving your sex life.

You can sign up for the next 5 Day Seduce Your Spouse Challenge and learn how to powerfully attract your partner by going to www.secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/sys

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In this episode, I'm talking about physical intimacy, what it is and what it is not. I'm listing tons of ways to bring more physical touch and affection into your relationship and why that's even important. I leave you with a very simple assignment, that if completed will give you amazing results. Try it and let me know how it goes for you.

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In this week's episode, I'm chatting with Dr. Kim Kimberling of Awesome Marriage about 3 Things that Matter in Every Marriage. Those 3 things are communication, finances and sex. Dr. Kim talks about the most important thing to remember when communicating with your spouse, how to communicate about tough topics like finances and sex and sex the way God intended it for married couples.

If you enjoyed this episode, we know you will love the Secrets of Happily Ever After Summit, where I intervew 31 other experts, including Dr. Kim about how to live happily ever after with your spouse. You can register for FREE at: www.secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/sheasummit.

This is a once in a lifetime opportunity to hear from these experts and it's FREE, so what are you waiting for? Go sign up right NOW!

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This week's episode is all about Spiritual Intimacy and how you and your partner can work together to find the right combination of spirituality that helps you feel close and connected to each other and a higher power. I talk about the power of prayer and the importance of praying with and for your spouse. I share some insights I've gained from working with couples who are experiencing faith transitions and how sexual intimacy can be a spiritual experience.

Join us for the 5 Steps to Improve and Increase Your Intimacy Webclass: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/intimacywebclass

Or, if you are local to the Boise/Meridian Area, come to Ditch the Resentment Date Night on Saturday, September 17th. Learn more by searching that in Eventbrite or get your tickets HERE.

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In this episode of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast, I share tips on how you can increase recreational intimacy with your partner. Recreational intimacy refers to the bond that is created and strengthened by having fun with your partner. What hobbies or activities do you like to do together? Do you share any inside jokes? How do you make each other laugh? I share my own answers to these questions and more.

Show Highlights:

• [04:21] Why recreational intimacy with your partner is important
• [06:25] How going out to a comedy show or watching funny videos with your partner can make your marriage more fun
• [08:40] How you can introduce novelty to your date nights
• [09:51] How outdoor activities can increase recreational intimacy
• [11:32] How fun and laughter come into play in the bedroom
• [14:35] Why it’s important to share inside jokes with your partner
• [18:28] Why you should make time for dates

Links and Resources:

• Check out Secrets of Happily Ever After
• Check out 5 Steps to Increase Intimacy in Your Marriage
• Check out Ditch the Resentment Date Night 
• Connect with Monica on Instagram
• Connect with Monica through email

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Today I'm giving you tips to super-charge your emotional intimacy, which is the workhorse of all the intimacies. Emotional intimacy includes communication and how you connect with each other on a personal level. How well do you know your partner's inner world? I'm giving you the best ways to get to know them better on a deeper level.

I created a resource, which is 51 Questions You Can Ask Your Spouse to Get to Know Them Better. You can download it for FREE by going to www.secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/51questions.

I'm also hosting a webclass called 5 Steps to Increase Intimacy in Your Marriage. I promise you do NOT want to miss it. You can find all the details and how to attend HERE - www.secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/intimacywebclass. See you there!

If you haven't taken the Intimacy Level Quiz yet, you can do so HERE - https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/62eb4e0a590de0001833745d

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