Samia Burton, founder of Sexual Essentials, joins us to share her unique experience and insights as an unconventional sex educator. We discuss:

Deep throat yoga-yawning

Oral sex techniques

Building up stamina

How to body-roll like a pro

Hands-on sex ed for adults

Using fruit snacks to spice things up

The dos and don’ts of DMing strangers: language, approach, tone and your elevator pitch

Jump rope, donkey kicks & other exercises for better sex

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Let’s discuss something, how SOME of y’all treat us via DM is why we scowl in public & walk across the street when we see a group of men. SOME of y’all don’t make us feel safe. ⁣ ⁣ At some point it has to get TIRED trying to hit on every woman that you see⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ In the grocery store with a mask & folks legit just come up & are trying to get with you ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Yes I know what you’re going to say ‘but how do you think folks get together ..but a lot of relationships start like that’⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ And you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT! But what’s present in those SUCCESSFUL outcomes is some indication that the person was interested and IF there was no indication the woman was able to let her guard down because she was approached with proper communication & no sexual undertones from a stranger! ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Idk about every woman but personally when I see someone that strikes my eye for whatever reason there is a eye catch that stays just a little too long and right there in that split second a guy knows aye she saw me too...but she walks to pump her gas she watching over her shoulder staying safe and you just coming to the pump in her personal space not even offering to pump the gas (as you see I did not say PAY) and saying Hey Ma you got a man with absolutely no thought outside of just laying eyes on her ... the shit is TIRED and wayyyy too many men do it. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Don’t be that guy that hits on every woman he SEES and if you are make it original & stop mentioning sex ANYTHING in a Effing DM. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Women are being attacked, stalked, murdered every Effing day Do SOMETHING to make her feel safe not make her feel like this is a effing creep. Because i assure you asking her for sex is not the way. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ And for the dumbass that’s going to say ‘well you’re a sex page he probably thought that was ok’ JUST STOP. If I sold sex I would SAY SO. But I don’t and me discussing sex does not give any person a RIGHT to speak to me any type of way. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Telling women that you DONT KNOW that you would eff the shit out of them is NOT OKAY. Because clearly you don’t know her all we think is RAPE !!! do not be that guy. I would hate to have to put some hot shit in somebody son because of this simple shit.

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Top Tips for Oral Sex, Riding & Sliding Into DMs With Grace

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You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess, podcast sacks, and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the sex with Dr Jess podcast. I'm your co host Brandon. We're here with my lovely other half Dr Jess Hey. Hey It's early mornings today very early. Yes.

Sexologist Shamyra is back and she’s here to share her knowledge and thoughts on Cardi B’s WAP and so much more including:

Mysogynoir

Pick Me culture

What “Big D” really means

What we can learn from song lyrics

How music videos can motivate (or empower) us to be better & live better

Lube-shaming

Small penises

Sexual double standards

The orgasm gap

Sexuality & race

Sex work as real work!

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WAP: Wet AP & How To Be Your Best Sexual Self

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You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight. Hey Hey. This is just so Riley your friendly neighborhood sexologist here with another friendly neighborhood sexologist all the way from Baton Rouge Louisiana sexologist Shemaya, how you doing today power you good I'm a I'm following along with your adventures. You've been online on I g talking about all the hottest topics including the I. Don't know if we should say rap or WABC by the wet ask Pussy video and song by our Cardi B. Featuring Meghan the stallion and I see that you. You just put a video on your instagram and it's gaining a lot of traction. Let people know where to find you on instagram first and foremost because they should be following along. Yes. I'm on Instagram at sexologists shown Myra. Yeah. We're gonNA link to that. Now before we dive into this conversation, I wanNA, give a quick shout out to our sponsor. Let's get checked to dot com. So let's get checked offers at home health tests ranging from thyroid to iron to CEAC test lime disease tests, of course, ovarian reserve tests for tippety tests, and all that jazz they send you the test you send them a sample and you get your results confidentially on line. Are you familiar with them Chamara? I'm not I am not I was thinking that it would be good for people who are maybe a little bit more remote you know to test for anything like from from Cortisol, to all the various sexual health tests. So that's, let's get checked dot com. If you go there folks please use code Dr Gesture to save a few dollars and let them know that you heard about it here. So Chamara, let's let's talk. Cardi. B.'s or you Cardi B. Fan. So I think everyone face. So when she came when she first I'll tell you what my husband. Really Loves Cardi B. Like he loves Cardi B.'s music. So she first came out I really enjoyed her her debut album. And in terms of this W. A. P. Video. So folks if you haven't heard the song, we'll play a little clip for you. But. Also, if you haven't seen the video, you have to go watch the video. Now there's a censored version and an uncensored version definitely watch the uncensored version. So, what do you think about the video the lyrics all all the fun stuff. Oh I think so much about it, I right so I. Listen to it about seventy two times. Just to make sure it was actually when I was hearing. So I actually heard the lyrics in saw the video at the same time. So of course, I was scrolling on Instagram and I saw that Cardi B. posted graphic with she and Megan the stallion who's als...

We’ve compiled some of your questions for Brandon and he weighs in sharing his personal experiences in response to the following:

You’ve opened up about some heavy feelings on the podcast and talked about the benefits of being more vulnerable. How can I get my boyfriend to open up and be more vulnerable?

My husband is often too tired for sex. When we have it, he’s full of energy, but I feel like he says no at least 50% of the time. Should I be worried?

Last week, you said you have no game and that you would never have gotten together with Jess if it had been up to you. I don’t want to let my moment pass me by, so how do I work on my game and my confidence. You’ve also talked about how your confidence has increased over time, so any tips would help.

My GF listens to your podcast and follows Dr. Jess. She wants to follow in her footsteps, but the idea of her talking about sex with strangers and travelling all around the world doesn’t feel great for me. I don’t want to hold her back. How do I get over it?

Can you explain why men want to have anal sex so badly? Like what’s the appeal?

You talked about a toy called the Pivot, but you didn’t describe what it feels like. Can you elaborate?

How curious are you about Jess’ past? I know you’ve been together a while, but lately I’m more curious about my wife’s past and specifically why she had one night stands. Should I be so curious or just get over it?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Brandon Answers Your Sex & Relationship Questions

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You're listening to the sacs with Dr, Jess podcast sacks, and relationship advice you can use tonight. Hey Hey your friendly neighborhood sexologist here. Jessica. Riley. With my lovely other have brandon wear are looked locally. Feel so good you can. You can tell I was mocking you I know you were mocking me but I'm GonNa roll with it listen babe. This episode is all about you finally if it's the Brandon episode. Because nothing's ever about me. I'm just going to hand over the MIC to you go. I'm GONNA pull my candid Silence so I receive many questions for the podcast from listeners and many folks are curious about you brandon and what your perspective so I've been compiling some of the questions directed at you. He shaking his head through people don't want to know what's going on inside my mind. They do frightening in their people. Let me be clear I get questions for you. I, never get criticism level that you always at me. Here we go. This is your debut. Debut. Here we. So, let's dive right in. This person asks how curious are you about justice past I know you've been together a while but lately, I'm more curious about my wife's past and specifically why she had one night stands I don't care what the sex was like. I just WanNa know why she had them. Should I be so curious or just get over it. I am curious about your past only about your experiences I am not curious about how many partners. How good or bad it was I mean I'm open to listening but I I'm not really that interested. In it. It wasn't that interesting either was not well, it could have been listen I think when we first got together and I was a lot younger I was uncomfortable with the idea.

Jess is Chinese-Jamaican-Irish-Canadian. Brandon is Canadian of British descent. Race and culture have always been central topics in our relationship and this week, we’re sharing our perspective as a mixed-race couple. We don’t speak for anyone but ourselves, but we hope this conversation leads to more meaningful ones in your own relationships. We discuss:

Jess’ mixed race experience and expectations as a model minority

The importance of creating safe spaces for your partner in mixed-race relationships

How to deal with family members’ blatant and subtle racism

5 insights for white folks looking to support POC in relationships

To learn more about how you can navigate difficult conversations about race, check out Jess' interview on Global TV's The Morning Show here.

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Navigating Interracial Relationships: One Couples Experience

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You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess, podcast sacks, and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the sex with Dr. Jasser podcast I'm your co host Brandon. Wear here with my lovely other half. Hey, doing today babe. I'm good. How are you? Feeling good. We had a weekend away in our nation's capital. A lot of people who aren't Canadian don't know that our capital is Ottawa. They either think it's Toronto or as non-canadians say Montreal. More. Real Montreal. But your nation capital nation's capital Ottawa is Ottawa and we were in town for the weekend enjoying the city mostly enjoying one of the parks nearby Gatineau Park, we did a number of big hyphen and went swimming and paddle boarding. So I'm feeling pretty good to have gotten out of the city. Agree weekend. It was a beautiful city. Access to parks the downtown core not so busy knows quiet. Yeah it was. It was very, very quiet. It's it's a pretty city. They have all the old beautiful parliament buildings in the old. Library, and Supreme, court of Canada and all those things but it is a it's a smaller city even though it's our nation's capital. Yes I would agree but at the real advantage and what makes me so drawn to it even over the course of the weekend I kept saying I think I. Could live in Ottawa is the fact that their fifteen minutes from getting know park, which is fabulous for hiking and skiing and swimming, and exploring and all that jazz. This is my second time and get to know this year I mean I never go there but I had a GIG this year in February and went on some winter hikes but it was nice to be back with you. You do on those winter hikes. Amazing. Yeah. Really. What do you mean because it's it could be. I'm trying to think of the conversion of temperatures it could be sixty, five degrees and. And you're freaking out about how you're freezing cold. It's the coldest day of your life. I know it was much colder than sixty five. It was all snowy when I was there we're talking back in February generally I'm a human heating machine rarely I cold or at least I, think rarely no enjoyed the winter hike you were always cold. So I'm surprised that you felt okay you know what it was I was in town just for the day basically and I I when I'm traveling for work member those long days I remember seems like so long ago when I'm traveling for Work I. was like to do something fun.

This week, Jess teams up with April Lampert and Amy Baldwin from the Shameless Sex Podcast to tackle listener questions including:

1. How can I deal with sensitive genitals (e.g. labia)?

2. How can I make sex less threatening after sexual assault? How do I talk to a new partner about past trauma?

3. What should I do about labia hypertrophy and how do I get more comfortable with my body?

4. How do I get over body shame related to things my ex said to berate my body?

5. I hear so much about eye contact as a tool of flirtation and connection. How else can I flirt without using my eyes since I’m almost blind?

6. How do Canadians pronounce the word about? ;)

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Dealing with Trauma, Learning to Love Your Body & Flirtation Techniques

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You're listening to the sacs with Dr, Jess, podcast, sacks and relationship advice. You can use tonight. Hey hope you're having a great day. A great wherever you're at, I'm without my partner in Crime Brandon today he had to run off, but we're doing something just a little bit different. Because the other day I sat down well, I called in because it's cova times and chatted with some new friends Amy Baldwin and April lampert over at the shameless sex podcast. Now you may be familiar with them if you're not. You're about to become acquainted because we are taking your sex and relationship questions and collaborating to answer some of these out. Amy is sex and relationship coach. April educates people about sexual pleasure, health and wellness, and it's always interesting. To hear other people's perspectives and collaborate, and of course, three minds are much much better than one, and so. That's what we're going to be sharing with you today now before we pull up that that interview that conversation I wanNA show at checked. If you're looking for any tests in the health field that you can do at home whether it's fertility tests, thyroid tests, Cortisol Kidney Celia cholesterol, testosterone liver kidney I said that all of all of these options checkout. Let's get check dot com, and please use code Doctor Jess to save twenty percent at checkout and also make sure they know that. You heard about them here on the sex with Dr Jess podcast so without further ado. What we're GONNA. Do now is launch into the conversation that I had with. Amy, April and here we go I. Hope you enjoy it. What we're here to do. Today is to bring to podcasts together to answer some of your sex questions. We have some sex questions over here. We get them. All the time got every day I. Feel we get more and more questions. And then Jess has some as well for her listeners, and and and this is a wonderful opportunity to learn just can you just tell our listeners and your listeners? Of probably we heard this? If this is going on your podcast there's a little bit how you got to be where you are today. Sure share. Yes, so I was a high school teacher and I had all my students coming. Coming to me with all of these issues related to Saxon relationships whether it was abusive. Relationships are unplanned pregnancy, or as is,

Sexual pain is not in your head. Dr. Sonia Bahlani, founder of PelvicPainDoc.com and author of The Holistic Guide to Navigating Pelvic Pain joins us to answer so many questions including:

How do I deal with painful orgasms? It feels like the head of my penis is being pushed through broken glass.

How do my bowel movements and constipation affect sexual functioning & orgasm?

How can an anti-inflammatory diet improve sex?

How can yoga improve sexual functioning and pelvic floor tone?

Why does sex hurt?

Why don’t I feel anything during sex?

Are there injections, creams or medicines that can help with pelvic pain?

Dr. Sonia also discusses why preventative medicine is essential to sexual health, various diagnoses related to sexual pain and how holistic approaches can revolutionize your (sex) life.

Also be sure to listen to our episode on pelvic floor health, postpartum sex, perineal massage and de-stressing your vagina.

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Painful Sex Is NOT In Your Head: Holistic Solutions From a Pelvic Pain Doc

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You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess, podcast, sacks and relationship advice. You can use tonight. Welcome to the sex with Dr Just podcast I'm your co host Brandon wear here with my lovely other half Dr Jess. How's it going? I'm hanging in there. How about you? Much the same. Yes, the same, still a lot of weirdness going on with the changes to the schedule acclimatising to the norm completely zoom meeting. Are you. It's a thing. It, I'm totally exhausted I. started doing what you've suggested. which is turn off the video? If you can. Yeah there's this pressure to have video on actually I was on a conference call the other day, and while other people were talking I turned off my video and I got called out for it, they said. Are you still there? Yeah, I'm still here. I just felt like having my video off I. Don't always want people looking at me and you know what I'm distracted by myself. In Real, no, of course you'd like. You're looking at yourself, so you looking at yourself as other people are looking at you. And Yeah. You need a break from it for sure and we've talked about this and there's research on how exhausting video calls can be. How much more exhausting they can be than in person meetings so? One thing I'm noticing that folks are consistently requesting zoom calls when in fact, these could easily be phone or emails. Yeah the the the effectiveness of a very concise email I said that last week to a gentleman, he requested amino acid. Can we just have a phone call? And it was fine and it works out. They don't see your face. I mean be honest. You just don't do your hair. Completely one hundred percent Brennan's hair was out of control for a while there three and a half months with a haircut news, looking pretty pretty wild treat. My neighbors kept calling you different names like I don't know if they were actors or Singers or something, but we're so much younger that I had no clue who they were talking about. Did you know the names they were calling? You know I thought I kind of looked like sideshow.

Testosterone, Muscle Memory & Lasting Longer in Bed

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If you've ever wondered why orgasms are elusive, why erections fluctuate, or what it actually means to "last longer in bed," you're not alone. On this episode of the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, we’re joined by urologist and sexual wellness expert Dr. Jed Kaminetsky, who shares practical strategies and research-backed insights on everything from testosterone and orgasm difficulties to Promescent spray and the power of mindful sex.

TL;DR - Lasting Longer in Bed

Struggling with orgasm, erection changes, or wanting to last longer in bed? You’re not broken, you’re human. In this episode of the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, urologist Dr. Jed Kaminetsky breaks down the biology, psychology, and practical strategies behind sexual performance, desire, and pleasure.

There’s no one-size-fits-all sexual timeline.

Some want to last longer, others climax faster, and many want more control.

Shame, porn myths, and unrealistic standards don’t serve your pleasure.

Key takeaways:

Testosterone affects libido, energy, and function in all genders. Levels decline with age, stress, and body fat, but can be tested and managed.

Orgasms are learned habits — your brain creates arousal shortcuts. Fast, secretive masturbation patterns can condition rapid climax.

You can rewire your sexual responses through mindfulness, slow touch, and bridging the gap between solo and partner play.

Try Promescent spray to reduce overstimulation and increase control without numbing your partner. And if you’re looking for more fun tools:

We-Vibe Pivot – vibrating penis ring for shared pleasure

Womanizer Duo 2 – suction-based, solo or partner play perfection

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Sex ≠ penetration.

Erotic connection includes touch, fantasy, words, and play. Let go of the stopwatch and focus on satisfaction, communication, and connection.

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Last Longer in Bed course – 6 steps to improve ejaculatory control

Mindful Sex course – deepen connection and slow down pleasure

Eroticizing Daily Interactions – redefine sex beyond penetration

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The Truth About Lasting Longer in Bed

Not everyone wants to last longer in bed. Some folks are looking for ways to come more quickly, some wish they could come at all, and others want to extend their sessions. There’s no universal sexual clock, despite what porn might imply. Many people (regardless of gender) experience pressure to conform to rigid performance standards that don’t reflect reality or pleasure.

The good news? Whether you're dealing with premature ejaculation, delayed orgasm, or performance anxiety, there are multiple approaches that work,  from mindfulness and communication to pharmaceutical support.

Testosterone: The Unsung Libido Hero

According to Dr. Kaminetsky, testosterone plays a critical role in sexual desire, functioning, and overall energy levels — for all genders. Testosterone levels naturally decline with age, but they can also be impacted by body fat, lifestyle, and stress.

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TL;DR: The 11 Sex Personality Types

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin joins the podcast to explore 11 Sex Personality Types (from the Explorer and Giver to the Thrill Seeker and Spiritualist) offering a playful, non-judgmental framework to understand your erotic identity.

These types aren’t rigid categories but rather starting points for reflection, curiosity, and connection.

Ask: What do you want before, during, and after sex? Do you crave novelty, safety, fairness, passion, or release?

Use this erotic lens to improve communication, deepen intimacy, and try new dynamics in bed — on your terms.

Pair your exploration with solo play tools like the We-Vibe Touch or Womanizer Duo 2 to help clarify your preferences through sensation, not pressure.

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What Are the 11 Sex Personality Types?

What turns you on? What keeps you connected? What do you crave before, during and after sex?

In this episode of the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex therapist Vanessa Marin joins Jess and Brandon to explore the 11 Sex Personality Types she created, a playful, practical framework to better understand what makes sex meaningful and satisfying for you.

Most of us won’t fit neatly into one single erotic identity. Instead, we may move fluidly across types depending on mood, context, relationship dynamics, or even life stages.

Let’s explore the 11 Sex Personality Types:

1. The Explorer

Sex is your playground. You love novelty, experimentation, and discovering new sensations and scenarios. You’re curious, adventurous, and thrive on the element of the unknown.

2. The Prioritizer

You feel most fulfilled when sex is a shared priority. It’s not about the frequency, it’s about the intention. Prioritizing intimacy reinforces your value and investment in the relationship.

3. The Decompressor

Sex is your release. It’s how you unwind, exhale, and melt the stress of the day. Whether it’s the orgasm, the touch, or the closeness — you seek that post-sex serenity.

4. The Fair Trader

Balance is your love language. You value reciprocity, giving and receiving in equal measure, and a sense of fairness is essential to feeling sexually fulfilled.

5. The Giver

You take pleasure in your partner’s pleasure. Sex is a gift you love to offer, and generosity, rather than reciprocity, is what drives your erotic satisfaction.

6. The Guardian

Safety, consent, and emotional security are your foundation. Only when you feel fully safe can you explore vulnerability and intimacy in the bedroom.

7. The Passion Pursuer

You’re after intensity, all-consuming, body-quaking, lose-yourself-in-the-moment kind of sex. Passion is the goal and the process.

8. The Pleasure Seeker

For you, sex is about physical sensation and tactile gratification. It doesn’t need to be emotional, novel, or even particularly connected — if it feels good, it is good.

9. The Romantic

Sex and emotional intimacy are one and the same. You crave connection, closeness, and those tender moments that linger long after the sheets have cooled.

10. The Spiritualist

For you, sex transcends the physical. It’s a sacred act, a portal to something greater, a way of tapping into the divine or collective energy through intimacy.

11. The Thrill Seeker

You crave taboo. Power play, forbidden fantasies, risk and transgression light you up. You want sex to feel exciting, even a little dangerous.

Using the Sex Personality Types to Deepen Connection

These types aren’t boxes,

Antuanette Gomez, CEO of Pleasure Peaks joins Jess & Brandon to talk about sex and cannabis. Pleasure Peaks is a sexual health company that develops products for women to have an optimal and healthy sex and this week, we discuss:

How cannabis can be used to assuage pain and symptoms related to Endometriosis, PCOS, trauma, infertility, and menstrual pain

Topical uses of non-psychotropic cannabis products

Cannabis baths

CBD vs THC

Cannabis as a superfood

The role of our endocannabinoid system

How cannabis suppositories have been used to treat endometriosis

Pleasure Island retreats

Strain journaling

Advice for newbies

Her role as a young WOC in a now white-dominated field

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Cannabis, Endometriosis & Sex

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You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast, sacks and relationship advice. You can use tonight. Ex Dr Podcast. I'm your co host Brandon wear here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess Hey, hey, how's it going awesome? We're going to be talking about sex and cannabis today. Yeah I've had some experiences with cannabis. And sex or just can't. This, just no I mean with both but my experiences cannabis have been. Up and down back and forth. For a while, it was for a while. It was great and it wasn't once. Since, then it has not existed here of staining I have abstained for over a decade. Has it been a decade been over? Ten or twelve years. Since that fateful night since that night while yeah, that was that was not great for me. Do you remember when we used to enjoy Friday nights a little bit of cannabis and a lot of sour candies, chocolates kraft dinner and chips and I would get upset if I didn't get all four of my food groups. Engage in some cannabis consumption, and then you would send me and a good friend over to the store to load up on. All of those goodies and it was great walking over there. I'm sure we look like a couple of fools. Do you remember on sex while we were high? Not at all? No, no, not really I remember. It was great. I remember a few times where it went on and on and on and on and I'm sure it didn't. Complaints No, no, it wasn't it. Sorry, did I say it that way. No actually. It wasn't I mean I have no problem complaining. For those of you behind the scenes. She lets me know when it doesn't work totally. Not Working. The, I remember feeling like this one experience just lasted and lasted and lasted and the I. We're going to be talking about things a little bit more. I think interesting and complex than our recreational, totally civilian use and I'm curious about what can be used now. That doesn't necessarily result in that psychotropic effect right, though because it's not just about getting high there, so many of the benefits exactly and so our guest is the expert in that will will leave that. That to her, and before we welcome her on, I want to say thanks to womanizer and encourage folks to check out the womanizer premium, so even if you don't love the name, this toy is incredible. It's what we call pleasure air technology people describe it as a section toy, but it's not a section. It's got this little loop this little opening that go...

Marla & Jess wrote a book, The Ultimate Guide to Foreplay & Seduction! They’re having a virtual launch party to celebrate: Wednesday, June 24th at 7pm EST. Register to attend for free! 

In this week’s episode, Jess and Marla chat about their book launch as well as:

Marla’s thoughts on BLM

Pleasure as resistance

Sex Down South

What makes us seductive

How we entice our lovers

How we manage rejection

They work their way through one of the Lovers’ Inquiries in the book and encourage you to consider these questions/discussions prompts too:

What is the most seductive thing about you?

What have other people told you about your sex appeal? What do they say turns them on when it comes to your personality, behaviour or appearance?

What makes you anti-seductive? Would you like to change anything about your behaviour or approach?

What do people find curious about you? How do you entice others to be curious about you?

Do you consider yourself open-minded? Is there anything you would like to work on when it comes to keeping an open mind?

How do you handle rejection? How did you respond the last time you faced rejection (not limited to sex)? Do you want to adjust the way you think or behave moving

forward?

Do you tend to take things personally? What might you do differently in the future?

Do you find that you are present and mindful when you spend time with your lover(s) or on your own? What helps you to stay in the moment? What detracts you from

being mindful and present?

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The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay: An Exercise for Singles and Couples

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You're listening to the sacs with Dr. Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice. You can use tonight. Hey Welcome to the sex with Dr Jazz podcast Jess Riley here without my regular co-pilot, brandon wear, but just as fabulous I won't say better because Brennan might listen to this this podcast, but just as fabulous I have with me today via distance Marla Renee Stewart of fabulous professional sexologists, intimacy, relationships, sex, coach, speaker, and author, and she is the CO founder of sex down South which we'll talk about, but also the CO author of our most recent book, the ultimate guide to seduction and four play. MARLA thanks so much for chatting with me. Yes thank you so much for having me here. It makes cited to be here again. Incited to talk to you and you and I have been on a ton of podcasts promoting our book, but we haven't really sat down together and talked about it. No No, we've sat down and talked about other things. Yes met many things as of late, so I mean I should ask how you're doing right now. I know there's a lot of stuff going on in the world, a lot of heavy emotions being processed and oftentimes I think people want a separate sex as this mechanical or light or purely pleasure base topic from the political, but sexuality is highly political. Yeah? It's so interesting because you know. This is my life's work and I always believed that the personal is political.