Sex With Emily

In this episode, I'm breaking down the sexual fantasies you voted on most wanting to learn about: role play and scenario-based fantasies, power exchange, sensory play, and voyeurism and exhibitionism. I cover what each one actually means, why so many of us are drawn to them, how to bring them up with a partner, and the props and tools that can help you ease in. Whether you're totally new to exploring or just looking to deepen the conversation with your partner, this episode is your permission slip to get curious, communicate openly, and make sex feel playful again… because that's exactly what it's meant to be.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

CONNECT WITH EMILY:

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Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily

2:59 Most Popular Fantasies Revealed

4:03 Roleplay and Scenario Based Fantasies

8:41 BDSM Explained for Beginners

12:21 Tools and Techniques

17:11 Sensory Play and Temperature Play

18:58 Voyeurism vs Exhibitionism

20:21 Exploring Fantasies Without Pressure

22:44 Favorite Toys & Finding Local Communities

25:03 When Partners Have Different Fantasies

29:24 How to Try New Experiences Together

32:08 Are They Weird or Harmful?

36:24 Psychological Benefits

40:32 Exploring Fantasies While Single

42:03 Planning vs Spontaneity in Relationships

43:40 Kinks vs Fantasies Explained

46:49 Fantasy vs Fetish Differences

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Disclaimer: Today's episode is a recording from a live class I taught for my community on Embodiment: the first pillar of the Sex IQ Framework. You might hear some audience questions throughout, and the audio isn't our usual quality. Thanks for your patience!

If you've ever found yourself distracted, disconnected, or just going through the motions during sex, this episode is for you. Today, I talk through the very first sexual intelligence framework pillar: Embodiment. Being truly present in your body during sex isn't something you're either born with or not,  it's a skill you can actually learn and practice. I walk you through exactly what embodiment means, why so many of us lose it (and why that's not your fault), and the simple techniques I use myself that can completely transform how you experience pleasure, intimacy, and connection. Whether you're single or partnered, this is the foundation everything else is built on, and I promise once you start practicing it, you'll feel the difference in and out of the bedroom.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

CONNECT WITH EMILY:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

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WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

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Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!

Chapters:

00:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily

02:58 The Sexual Intelligence Framework

05:31 Pillar One: What Is Embodiment?

07:37 What It Feels Like to Be Truly Embodied During Sex

13:53 Micro-Movements & Waking Up Dormant Sensations

15:23 Shift to a Pleasure-Focused Mindset

17:48 Mindful Solo Embodiment Practice

18:43 "Mirror Work" Appreciating Your Body Without Judgment

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In this episode,  I'm breaking down one of my all-time favorite tools: the Yes No Maybe List. If you've ever felt curious about trying something new in bed but didn't know how to bring it up — or didn't even know what was "on the menu" — this episode is for you. I'll walk you through exactly how to introduce the list to your partner, how to fill it out (solo or together), and most importantly, how to turn your “yeses” into real plans you'll actually follow through on. I'm also sharing some incredible stories from our community, breaking down newer terms you might not have heard of, and answering your live questions about what to do when you and your partner don't match up on your answers.

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ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

CONNECT WITH EMILY:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

02:30 What Is the Yes! No! Maybe? List?

04:40 How the List Can Improve Your Sex Life

06:20 Why Singles Should Explore Their Desires

07:40 Bringing Novelty Back Into Relationships

08:17 How to Prepare for the Conversation

10:20 Filling Out the Yes! No! Maybe? List

11:43 Exploring New Interests

15:00 Massages, Pleasure & Connection

17:10 Turning Your Yeses Into Real Experiences

20:30 Navigating Different Answers With Your Partner

24:48 Overcoming Shame, Fear & Blocks

32:08 How Desires Change Over Time

35:44 Healing Through Communication & Trust

43:53 Final Takeaways & Next Steps

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What if you've been measuring your sex life all wrong? In this episode, I explore why sexual satisfaction is about so much more than orgasms, performance, or how often you have sex. Together, we'll discuss how mindfulness, self-awareness, emotional connection, and open communication can help you create deeper pleasure and more fulfilling intimacy. I'll also share ways to let go of shame, strengthen your connection with yourself and your partner, and redefine what satisfaction truly means. Whether you're single or partnered, this conversation will help you build a sex life that feels more authentic, connected, and pleasurable.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

CONNECT WITH EMILY:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily

0:58 "Pleasure Begets Pleasure"

2:19 What Sexual Satisfaction Really Means

5:30 The Performance Myth

7:22 Cultural Messages and the Pleasure Gap

10:00 Mindfulness Improves Intimacy and Desire

13:06 How Shame Blocks Sexual Satisfaction

15:36 Supporting Your Partner’s Pleasure Journey

16:34 Avoiding Comparison in Relationships

18:27 Communication and Giving Feedback During Intimacy

20:02 Bucket Lists and Keeping Things Exciting

21:21 Redefining Intimacy Beyond Sex

28:03 What's the Goal?

31:40 Is Intellectual Conversation a Love Language?

33:25 Why Vulnerability Creates Deeper Connection

39:46 “Heard, Hugged, or Helped?”

45:52 Final Thoughts

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What if the key to more pleasure isn't doing more… it's slowing down? In this workshop, I walk you through a practice that can help you become more present in your body, reduce stress, deepen self-awareness, and discover what truly feels good to you. We talk about why mindfulness and pleasure go hand in hand, how to create a self-pleasure ritual focused on exploration rather than performance, and simple techniques to help you tune into sensation, quiet distractions, and build a stronger connection with your body. Whether you're looking to expand your pleasure, boost confidence, reduce anxiety, or simply learn more about yourself, this workshop offers practical tools you can start using today.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

CONNECT WITH EMILY:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!

Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily

0:54 Why People Masturbate

1:56 Understanding Mindfulness & Being Present

5:30 Maintenance vs. Mindful

9:51 How To Set The Mood For It

16:53 Mindful Self-Pleasure for Vulvas

18:53 Mindful Self-Pleasure for Penises

21:32 Step-by-Step Mindful Routine

26:20 Q&A: In the Shower or Bath?

27:07 Q&A: Making Meditation a Daily Routine

29:59 Q&A: Why Self-Pleasure May Feel Unexciting

31:02 Q&A: Favorite Meditation Styles & Apps

32:42 Q&A: How Often Should You Practice?

35:28 Q&A: Scheduling Time

36:59 Q&A: Can You Practice With a Partner?

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What if the key to a better sex life has nothing to do with sex itself? In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Jennifer Cohen to explore the powerful connection between wellness, confidence, fitness, and sexual health. We talk about overcoming performance anxiety, why exercise can improve desire and arousal, the role honesty plays in intimacy, and whether chemistry can actually grow over time. Plus, we answer audience questions about attraction, confidence, relationships, and the habits that help you feel your best both in and out of the bedroom.

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ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

CONNECT WITH EMILY:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealjencohen/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therealjencohen

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@habitsandhustle

Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/ 

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

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Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

Chapters:

00:00 Why Sexual Health Changes Everything

01:14 The Link Between Feeling Good & Having Better Sex

03:12 Are Sex And Intimacy Actually The Same Thing?

04:47 Why Performance Anxiety Happens In Bed

06:10 The Trick To Stop Overthinking During Sex

10:00 Why Working Out Makes Sex Better

12:03 How We Became Friends & Started Talking About Sex Nonstop

13:44 How To Tell Your Partner About Your Insecurities

16:08 How To Actually Approach Someone Without Being Weird

18:43 Masculine Energy, Feminine Energy & Dating Drama

24:42 Biohacking, Wellness & Feeling Hot Again

27:38 Vaginal Dryness, Hormones & Things Nobody Talks About

31:55 Aminos, Creatine & The Confidence Glow Up

34:00 Why Chemistry Matters more Than You Think

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In this workshop, I'm answering your questions about desire, attraction, turn-ons, fantasies, and sexual connection. We explore why we're attracted to certain people and experiences, how to talk about sex with a partner without creating pressure, what to do when desire changes over time, and why feeling a spark for someone else doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong with your relationship. Whether you're curious about your own turn-ons, struggling to stay present during sex, or looking to deepen intimacy with a partner, this conversation will help you approach desire with more curiosity, confidence, and self-understanding.

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ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!

Chapters:

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In this live episode recorded on May 21, 2026, I’m diving into how technology is reshaping our sex lives, relationships, dating habits, and emotional connection. From dating apps to social media, doomscrolling, and phone addiction, I unpack why so many of us feel more disconnected, overstimulated, anxious, and lonely despite being more digitally connected than ever. I also answer listener questions about insecurity, menopause and orgasms, remote-control toys, and how couples can rebuild intimacy through presence, communication, eye contact, flirtation, and intentional connection. If you’ve ever felt emotionally distant, distracted in bed, addicted to your phone, or unsure how to reconnect with your partner, this episode is for you.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily

1:09 How Technology Is Destroying Intimacy

2:33 The "Sex Recession"

5:24 The Death of Presence: Phones in Relationships

9:02 Dr. Emily's Tips

12:07 The Use of Dating Apps or Porn

15:44 Social Media, Performance Culture & Relationships

17:33 Listener Question: Do Women Prefer Bigger Penises?

26:02 The Positive Side of Technology & Sexual Wellness

26:59 Caller Kevin: Oral Sex After Menopause

37:52 Caller Mel: Using Remote-Control Vibrators

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In this livestream recorded on April 23, 2026, I’m diving into one of the most common and confusing issues in relationships: what happens when your sex life changes over time. We’re talking about desire mismatch, low libido, and why the “honeymoon phase” passion doesn’t stay the same forever(it’s completely normal). I also break down the real factors that impact sex drive, from stress and body image to emotional connection and communication, and how couples can start having honest conversations about intimacy again without blame or shame. This is about understanding your body, your partner, and how to rebuild connection in a more intentional way.

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ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

Chapters:

00:00 The Desire Discrepancy Nobody Talks About

01:19 Why Every Long-Term Relationship Hits This Wall

02:37 Why Stress, Body Image and Life Kill The Mood

04:29 Are People Actually Having the Sex They Want?

05:38 The Blood Flow Factor Nobody Talks About

07:12 Is Watching Romantic (Ethical) Porn Together Healthy?

10:44 The Case for Roleplay and Alter Egos

14:48 "My Wife Has Zero Sex Drive" The Most Common Question

17:55 Advice for a 35-Year-Old Starting Her Sexual Debut

19:24 Unlearning Shame from a Religious Background

22:02 Rewriting "Virginity" as Your Sexual Debut

23:30 Ask Yourself This Before Your Next Date Night

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In this livestream recorded on May 14, 2026, I’m breaking down everything you need to know about pelvic floor health, orgasms, bladder leaks, Kegels, pelvic pain, and why this part of your body affects way more than most people realize. I answer live listener questions about sneezing and peeing, period pain, pelvic floor tension, stronger orgasms, and the biggest mistakes people make when trying Kegel exercises. We also talk about relationships, communication, dating patterns, spooning as an underrated sex position, and why creating a safe space to talk openly about sex can completely change your relationship and confidence.

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ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

Chapters:

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