In this episode of the podcast, host Emily Morse is joined by guest Pamela Madsen to explore the transformative power of "back-to-the-body" retreats for women and couples, focusing on reclaiming pleasure and improving communication. Pamela, a retreat leader with over a decade of experience, details a 7-day program emphasizing self-pleasure through clothed genital work, addressing issues such as vaginal pain and low libido.

Positive outcomes from the retreats include increased self-esteem, improved communication, and better consent negotiation. The retreats also involve sexological bodywork, including genital mapping, fantasy exploration, and elements of BDSM and tantra. Men’s participation is discussed, highlighting the positive impact these retreats have on couples.

The conversation also covers practical techniques like the "lotus lift" meditation and sensate focus exercises for embodied self-expression—even for those unable to attend in person. Emily and Pamela address common challenges such as body image issues, societal pressures, and communication barriers in long-term relationships.

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00:00:12 - Women's Retreats & Couples' Impact

03:19 - Sexological Bodywork: A Woman's Journey

06:43 - Female Anatomy & Desire

12:14 - Embodied Movement & Wellness

15:04 - Embodied Arousal & Lotus Lift

18:07 - Body Connection & Sensations

20:22 - Couples Rediscovering Sexuality

25:46 - Couple's Intimacy Coaching

32:17 - Pleasure, Aging, & Body Image

47:50 - Overcoming Anorgasmia

54:26 - Guest Contact & Retreats

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Is the spark gone? Dr. Scott Lyons, as I explore how to get the spark back in relationships and

sex. We're talking about why the spark is not what you think and what you're actually looking for.

In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons and I discuss:

● Why the initial 'spark' might be misleading.

● The importance of evolving and growing in relationships.

● How trauma responses affect attraction and intimacy.

● The difference between intensity and intimacy.

● Practical ways to cultivate a sustainable and fulfilling connection.

I share personal experiences and insights on dating, attraction, and the journey toward deeper

self-understanding. Dr. Scott Lyons brings his expertise as a trauma therapist and somatic

healer to help us understand the complexities of relationships and sexuality.

Show Notes:

00:00:00 - Rekindling the Spark: What You Need to Know

00:02:45 - The Reality of Growth: Attraction Can Evolve

00:07:57 - Freedom vs. Attachment: Different Relationship Patterns

00:11:10 - Evolving Attraction: Hemisexuals, Saposexuals, and Demisexuals

00:15:03 - The Attraction ICK: Is There an Attraction Spark?

00:19:29 - Peeling Away the Layers: The Beauty of Intimacy

00:22:49 - The Honeymoon Period Is Drunk: Sobering Up and Finding Organic Excitement

00:27:40 - Variety and Newness: Keeping the Spark Alive

00:31:17 - Passion or Safety: Cultivating Eroticism in Safety

00:35:56 - Arousal Runway: Pottery Classes and Cooking Meals

00:40:19 - Developing New Habits: Making Time for Connection

00:42:51 - Chasing the Familiar: Red Flags as a Spark

00:46:16 - The Importance of Feeling Safe

00:49:54 - Childhood Was Perfect: Somatic Therapy and Nervous System Regulation

00:53:10 - Grounding in Our Senses: Getting Back to Sensuality and Connection

00:56:26 - Healing Patterns: Not Taking the Bait

00:58:20 - Sustainable, Healthy, Loving Relationships: Going the Distance

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What feeling are you chasing in bed? No, I’m not talking about orgasm. I’m talking about an emotion, like feeling worshiped, praised, or unbelievably desirable. On the other hand, maybe it arouses you to feel degraded, objectified – even humiliated.

On today’s show, I’m unpacking a kink that’s getting a ton of attention on social media: praise kink. It falls under the larger umbrella of core erotic desires, which we all have. I show you how to identify your core erotic desires and how to turn them into realities. I also get into your kinky questions, including: when you adore your fiancée, but fantasize about sex with your much kinkier ex, what now? And when your partner constantly gets hit on my other men, is it healthy to get turned on by it? All this and more in today's episode.

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You’ve heard this one before: the sexiest quality in the world is confidence. And that’s true...but...it’s not always easy to muster. Confidence is an inside job, but here’s the good news. Once you generate it on your own terms, life - and sex - gets a whole lot easier.

So on today’s Ask Emily show, I’m joined by my dear friend and former co-host Menace from The Woody Show, as we talk confidence, jealousy, What happens when you adore your partner, but can’t stop thinking about their high body count? Or want to have hot phone sex, but don’t know where to start? We talk through both. How about when you feel too short to find a great partner, or don’t know how to be dominant in bed? We help you think through both. Finally: discovering your partner’s can of delay spray. Our listener wonders whether he’s sleeping with someone else; we think it’s time for open communication.

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We’re back for another AITA episode! This time it’s all about sexual mismatches. First: they’ve got a 12-year age difference, and she suspects his sex drive is dwindling. She doesn’t want to cheat, but she also wants more sex…what now? Next, he wants sex for pleasure, she was raised to do it only for procreation. Is there any way to meet in the middle? A self-professed "pillow princess" writes in, is she the asshole for wanting to receive pleasure – but not give it? Finally, they’re in a dead bedroom of 10 years. “She’s repulsed by my touch” he writes, but is he really asserting himself to make healthy changes? You decide

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You’re in my Hotlines today, and Producer Erica and I are taking your calls! Today’s theme: conversations you need to have with your sex partners.

First, how long should you wait to tell casual sex partners you’re sleeping with other people? We’re all up-leveling our communication skills, so I make the case for telling them immediately. Next, she’s on ADD medication and likes a drink or two – is it negatively affecting her orgasm? Or should her partner have a deeper conversation with her about turn-ons? After that, we’ve got a young couple who just started having oral sex. She’s sore afterwards -- is it a medical condition or underlying shame? Finally, she just discovered her partner watches porn… and the subjects don’t look like her. How can she talk to him about it without judgment?

Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.

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What’s a common stereotype you’ve heard about sex? Maybe it’s that “guys just want one thing” or that “once you have kids, say goodbye to your sex life.” But not only are these stereotypes tiresome on a societal level, they actually hurt your sex life. Why? Because if you buy them, they limit your pleasure potential. 

So on today’s show, I reveal the top 3 sexual stereotypes penis owners and vulva owners told me they were tired of, and the new truths that are going to empower you in bed. I also give you quick communication hacks to help you get curious with any partner, whether they’re long-term or brand new, so that you can have the sex you actually want. 

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Ever wondered: Am I the asshole for watching porn without my partner knowing? Am I the asshole for feeling a little misled about our sex life before we walked down the aisle? Or how about: Am I the asshole for just feeling plain bored with our sex life? You’re not alone. Today, Producer Erica and I read your AITA questions and let you know if you’re approaching asshole territory.

In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

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Are you and your partner sexually compatible? That’s the theme of today’s Hotline Calls show, as my Producer and I break down these couples' sex and relationship issues. First, when your partner isn’t pleasuring you as much as you’d like, does that mean they aren’t attracted? Or just nervous? Next, do you squirt during sex? It’s a goal for many, but what if it’s happening more than you’d like? How about sex drive discrepancy? When you’ve had more chemistry with past partners – and more sex – is your current partner not a fit? Or do you need to find a middle ground? Finally, what happens when your partner’s got a kink that weirds you out? We don’t yuck anyone’s yum here, but one caller needs advice on navigating brother-sister role play.

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In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

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Have you ever wondered if you’re the asshole in your sex life and relationships? Today, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory - and not the good kind. One listener hooked up with someone else while they were on a break, and now her partner says she can’t be trusted. Who’s the asshole here? Another listener wants to spice it up in the bedroom, but her husband with a kinky past sees her as a “delicate little angel.” Sounds like a case of the classic Madonna-Whore complex. What about when your partner won’t perform oral sex? Are you the asshole for craving it? We get into all this and more.

In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

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