FOR THRILL SEEKERS AND COMFORT CREATURES! Sandra fangirls out over Ian Kerner Ph.D, MFT, sex therapist and author of the bestselling oral sex book, "She Comes First." They explore the myriad reasons why the book hits home, how to create a sex space that helps our minds deactivate and surrender, the link between female arousal and stress, and a refreshing perspective on porn. TOPICS: Unbearable Lightness of Being, Fruity Book Covers, Written for Men, Women Fans, Strunk & White, Philosophical Approach, Sexual Cripple, Satisfying Women, Intercourse Discourse, An Alternative Path to Pleasure, From Tormented to Joyful, Deconstruction, "Cunnilingus Class," Nina Hartley, A Modest Approach, Mental Deactivation, Fantasizing During Sex, Seduction, Theory of Courtship, Physiological vs Mental Aspects of Sex, Safe Space for Fantasy, Core Erotic Themes, Jack Morin, Esther Perel, The Paradox of Cozy & Thrilling, Analysis as Inhibiting Arousal, and finally the Pros and Cons of Porn Usage.