Kayla Lords hosts this week’s episode and discusses the common signs and red flags of a bad Dominant, when it’s abuse and not D/s, and what you can do if you find yourself in a bad D/s relationship.

In this episode:

* Kayla’s back in good health and ready to rant. This week is based on a question she answered for Submissive Guide where every line was a red flag of a bad Dominant.

* This week’s episode is based off a popular post written in 2015 along the same lines.

* Not trying to bash all Dominants and a similar episode about red flags and submissives is coming soon.

* This list geared towards male Dominants but if bad female Dominants have their own red flags or do any of these things, Kayla wants to know.

* What are those red flags?

* Demanding a title not earned.

* Introducing himself with a dick pic or orders to be obeyed.

* Sending unsolicited instructions.

* Ignoring hard limits.

* Ignoring safewords.

* Lying.

* Thinking only of his own pleasure, never yours.

* Making you feel bad about yourself.

* Isolating you from friends and family.

* Telling you you’re not a real submissive because you have your own opinions, don’t agree, etc.

* Requiring that you research and learn how to be a “true” submissive on your own.

* Some red flags are clear signs of abuse and even rape.

* Ignore the idiots online, report online harassment, and unfriend and block anyone you don’t want to deal with.

* In person, get out of a bad relationship. Get help if you need it (links to domestic violence information in the reference link section).

* It’s better to be alone than in a bad relationship – regardless of flavor.

Links from the show:

Are Dominants Supposed to Act This Way – Submissive Guide

Top 10 Signs He’s an Asshole, Not a Dominant

Porn Star Stoya Accuses Her Ex-Boyfriend James Dean of Rape – Jezebel

National Domestic Violence Hotline (U.S)

National Domestic Violence Hotline (UK)

Sub Frenzy – Submissive Guide

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