Something Shifted | Stories of Identity, Loss and Life Transitions

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Something Shifted | Stories of Identity, Loss and Life Transitions episodes

July 19, 2023 "Relationships are an art, a science and a practice." Shelley Lewin
Sean Loots speaks with author and relationship coach, Shelley Lewin.

Shelley is a certified SACAP counselor, international coach federation member, and accredited professional certified coach.
She found her career after her fiancé left her.

When Shelley realized that almost all of her relationships were unfulfilling, she came to conclusion that she was the common denominator.

Today Shelly councils couples and colleagues to healthy, rewarding relationships through "art, science and practice."

We discuss her book Uncomplicated Love, the ongoing process of self-worth and self-acceptance and its impact on building healthy relationships, and Shelley reveals Sean's Attachment Style Survey results.

Main Topics Discussed Include:
* Developing a Healthy Relationship with Ourselves
* Understanding Different Types of Relationships
* Power Dynamics and Empowerment in Relationships
* The Foundation of a Good Relationship
* Unraveling Perspectives and Changing Behaviors
* Compatibility, Attachment Styles, and Partnership in Relationships
* The Influence of Core Beliefs on Attachment Styles
* Challenging Common Narratives in Relationships
* The Importance of Vulnerability in Intimacy
* Understanding and Shifting Attachment Styles
* Building Awareness, Making Choices, and Practicing for Mastery

Resources:
Shelley Lewin (The Relationship Architect Coaching and Education)
Website: https://tracoaching.com/

Attachment Styles and Close Relationship Survey:
http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Book Orders:
Uncomplicated Love in South Africa:
https://tracoaching.com/product/uncomplicated-love/

Uncomplicated Love internationally:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Uncomplicated-Love-step-step-relationship/dp/1991220510/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1689240030&sr=8-1 Sean Loots on Instagram · Shelley Lewin on Instagram · Listen to Something Shifted: The Soundtrack on Spotify
39 min
July 18, 2023 "Relationships are an art, a science and a practice" Shelley Lewin
Sean Loots speaks with author and relationship coach, Shelley Lewin.

Shelley is a certified SACAP counselor, international coach federation member, and accredited professional certified coach.
She found her career after her fiancé left her.

When Shelley realized that almost all of her relationships were unfulfilling, she came to conclusion that she was the common denominator.

Today Shelly councils couples and colleagues to healthy, rewarding relationships through "art, science and practice."

We discuss her book Uncomplicated Love, the ongoing process of self-worth and self-acceptance and its impact on building healthy relationships, and Shelley reveals Sean's Attachment Style Survey results.

Main Topics Discussed Include:
* Developing a Healthy Relationship with Ourselves
* Understanding Different Types of Relationships
* Power Dynamics and Empowerment in Relationships
* The Foundation of a Good Relationship
* Unraveling Perspectives and Changing Behaviors
* Compatibility, Attachment Styles, and Partnership in Relationships
* The Influence of Core Beliefs on Attachment Styles
* Challenging Common Narratives in Relationships
* The Importance of Vulnerability in Intimacy
* Understanding and Shifting Attachment Styles
* Building Awareness, Making Choices, and Practicing for Mastery

Resources:
Shelley Lewin (The Relationship Architect Coaching and Education)
Website: https://tracoaching.com/

Attachment Styles and Close Relationship Survey:
http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Book Orders:
Uncomplicated Love in South Africa:
https://tracoaching.com/product/uncomplicated-love/

Uncomplicated Love internationally:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Uncomplicated-Love-step-step-relationship/dp/1991220510/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1689240030&sr=8-1

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39 min
July 05, 2023 Brandon Beack Broke His Neck, But Not His Spirit.
While training for a gymnastics competition, 16-year-old Brandon Beack had a life-changing accident. A poorly timed dismount saw him miss the safety mat and land on the only square metre of uncovered concrete.

Brandon broke his neck and was instantly paralysed from his shoulders down.
Through sheer determination and hard work, he has regained far more mobility than many thought possible.

Today, Brandon heads up the Walking With Brandon Foundation, a non-profit organization that offers outpatient rehabilitation at an affordable rate to people with disabilities. He also has his sights set on a new athletic goal, to compete at the The Paris 2024 Paralymic Games.

Main Topics Discussed:

Brandon Beack's Dreams and Goals
The Shift to Being a Para Athlete
Overcoming Challenges and Regaining Independence
The Importance of Therapy and Consistency
Celebrating Small Achievements
Finding Love
Interacting with People of Determination

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31 min
July 04, 2023Brandon Beack Broke His Neck, But Not His Spirit.
While training for a gymnastics competition, 16-year-old Brandon Beack had a life-changing accident. A poorly timed dismount saw him miss the safety mat and land on the only square metre of uncovered concrete.

Brandon broke his neck and was instantly paralysed from his shoulders down.
Through sheer determination and hard work, he has regained far more mobility than many thought possible.

Today, Brandon heads up the Walking With Brandon Foundation, a non-profit organization that offers outpatient rehabilitation at an affordable rate to people with disabilities. He also has his sights set on a new athletic goal, to compete at the The Paris 2024 Paralymic Games.

Main Topics Discussed:
Brandon Beack's Dreams and Goals
The Shift to Being a Para Athlete
Overcoming Challenges and Regaining Independence
The Importance of Therapy and Consistency
Celebrating Small Achievements
Finding Love
Interacting with People of Determination
Resources:
Follow Brandon Beack on Instagram
Walking with Brandon
Therapy And Beyond

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31 min
June 21, 2023 Dream Another Dream: Ayanda Dlamini's Story
Ayanda Dlamini is a fellow parent, a dear friend and a former radio colleague.

With a devoted husband and 3 children in tow wherever she goes, there is a level of measured of chaos that Aya is accustomed to. The thing that has always struck me about Ayanda is something scientific literature refers to as hedonia. This terms refers to the "presence of positive emotions and the absence of negative emotions."

I cannot recall ever seeing or hearing Ayanda express negative emotions.

So I asked her about that, her upbringing in a single parent home and what she is most proud of herself for.

Key topics include:

Maintaining Emotional Boundaries
Ayanda's Public Recognition
Life Experiences and The Stories We Tell Ourselves
Lessons from the Media Industry and Parenting
"The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate" - Oprah Winfrey
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33 min
June 20, 2023Dream Another Dream: Ayanda Dlamini's Story
Ayanda Dlamini is a fellow parent, a dear friend and a former radio colleague.

With a devoted husband and 3 children in tow wherever she goes, there is a level of measured of chaos that Aya is accustomed to. The thing that has always struck me about Ayanda is something scientific literature refers to as hedonia. This terms refers to the "presence of positive emotions and the absence of negative emotions."

I cannot recall ever seeing or hearing Ayanda express negative emotions.

So I asked her about that, her upbringing in a single parent home and what she is most proud of herself for.

Key topics include:
Maintaining Emotional Boundaries
Ayanda's Public Recognition
Life Experiences and The Stories We Tell Ourselves
Lessons from the Media Industry and Parenting
"The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate" - Oprah Winfrey
You can help me tell more stories of vulnerability with perfectly weird, messy little humans just like me, by giving the podcast a 5 star review on your favourite listening platform.

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33 min
June 07, 2023 From Chaos to Clarity. The Untold Truth of ADHD in Adulthood.
In this episode, Sean speaks with Terence Mentor, who shares his personal journey and experiences with ADHD. Terence opens up about the challenges he faced before understanding his condition and how speaking openly about it has helped him feel less alone. They discuss the internal chaos and struggles of living with ADHD, as well as the moments of hyper-focus and clarity that bring excitement and fulfillment. Terence also shares his process of getting diagnosed and the relief that came with understanding his brain works differently.

Terence speaks about:

Living, working and parenting with ADHD,
The process of getting a diagnosis,
Reducing the feeling of operating from a deficit,
And how the world is not designed for people who are neurodivergent.

The international symbol for Mental Health Awareness is a green ribbon. Reason being that green signifies new life, new growth, and new beginnings, so I thought I would drop an "Easter Egg" in this episode. A green heart.

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34 min
May 24, 2023 We Need To Talk. This Is How Therapy Saved Her Life.
Some Assembly Required is about matters of the heart and the head, and this episode is extra special for me. One, because Danny Painter has agreed to share openly about her journey to therapy and I think her story may just help break some stigmas.

And two because I get to express my gratitude to Danny for helping me get out of my own way. If it weren’t for that chance conversion at an event in 2022, this podcast might not exist.

Danny has been through many colourful, life altering experiences. In this episode Danny shares

her deepest fears,
her experiences as a children's television presenter,
growing up in culturally diverse family, (Jewish + Zulu)
and how she considered ending her own life.
The international symbol for Mental Health Awareness is a green ribbon. Reason being that green signifies new life, new growth, and new beginnings, so I thought I would drop an "Easter Egg" in this episode. A green heart.

Please share a 💚 green heart emoticon in an Instagram story and tag me, Sean Loots in it. You don’t need to say anything else. It’ll be our thing.

You can help me continue telling stories of vulnerability with messy, perfectly weird little humans just like me, by giving the podcast a 5 star review on your favourite listening platform. Oh and, if you are looking for ways to incrementally build a healthier life, subscribe to the podcast companion newsletter, Something Shifted for free. Danny Painter on Instagram · Listen to Something Shifted: The Soundtrack on Spotify
29 min
May 11, 2023 Motherhood: Expectations vs Reality
New format. Same great storytelling.

Early in our marriage we spoke about having more than one child. And from time to time we revisit that conversation - each time with a refreshed perspective.
I've never asked Ruenda what it is like being a mom or if she has always wanted to mother a child. So that is what I did in this episode.

Long time listeners of this podcast know that our daughter has a complicated medical history. Expect raw responses to questions like "How do you prefer to tell strangers about Zoe?" and "How has your concept of motherhood changed?"

We also unpack;

a word to describe each year with Zoe,
the aspect of being a mom Rue would like more of,
and her thoughts on how can we best support moms everywhere.
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29 min
April 06, 2023 Tragedy to triumph. The epic comeback of Rachel Goh
Rachel Goh is a clinical psychologist and former Australian swimmer.
In this episode we look back at Rachel's dream to swim at the 2012 London Summer Olympic Games and the effort it would take to make the Australian National team.

Rachel talks us through how it felt to not achieve her childhood dream and the difficulty of accepting that something you have aspired to is not achievable.
But this is not the only disappointment of 2012. In fact, things get much worse when Rachel sustains a concussion, followed by a brain bruise and a fractured skull followed by Bell's Palsy.

Rachel's recovery is a remarkable story of grit and determination as she regains her physical strength. Leaning on her background in psychology, Rachel shares how her occupation has helped her deal with her injury and guide others on their path towards mental health.

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30 min