Overparenting (aka “helicopter parenting”) might not be exactly what you think. It’s much more common now, in our high-pressure society, than ever before. You may be doing it and not even realize. Afterall, you’re an involved and supportive parent, what’s wrong with that?

Join me as I tell you:

·       how science draws the line between supportive parent and helicopter parent,

·       why we “hover” over our teens, 

·       what effect it has on our teens as they move into adulthood, 

·       how to stop, and

·       what to do instead

Download my Free Guide, "You Might Be A Helicopter Parent If..."

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Am I the only mom who didn’t realize many of my son’s emotional outbursts were symptoms of his ADHD? The doctors and psychiatrists don’t talk about it and “emotional dysregulation” isn’t even listed as a symptom of ADHD in the DSM-5. 

We focus so much on the way ADHD impacts their academic performance, but emotional dysregulation takes an enormous toll on every facet of their life. So, it’s crucial that we address this issue and help them learn how to become more aware of and how to regulate these overwhelming emotions.

In this episode I’ll discuss:

·       the role emotional dysregulation plays in your ADHD teen’s world,

·       other issues that tag along with ADHD that can add to their emotional dysregulation,

·       the problems emotional dysregulation (and other ADHD symptoms) can cause for your teen, and

·       what the research says you can do to help them with their emotions and the fallout from them.

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NOTE: If you haven’t listened to episode #11, it’s not completely necessary but does provide an excellent foundation for today’s episode.

Many parents struggle with how to best handle alcohol use in their teenagers. It’s hard not to feel that drinking alcohol is simply inevitable at their age. This mindset leads some parents to attempt to teach their kids “responsible drinking” at home (See episode #11).

In fact, a large number of parents decide to turn a blind eye when alcohol is present at their teens’ parties on their property. Some are happy to provide the alcohol themselves. Generally, these decisions are made to try and provide a safer environment for teenagers who they feel are going to drink anyway.

In today’s episode #12, I’ll discuss the scientific research and the law surrounding this issue. Should you let your teen have a party at your house…with alcohol? Listen and decide for yourself.

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

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The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

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In Western societies it seems teenagers are almost expected to drink at some point. While most parents don’t approve, some do feel it’s best if they’re the one to introduce alcohol to their kid rather than leaving it to someone else. What do you think?
 
Don’t jump to any conclusions. Join me as I review the science and then you can decide for yourself.

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

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You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!

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The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

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Our son struggled with anxiety and major depression during his teen years and began self-medicating and acting out in ways that literally put his life in danger. His behavior completely baffled us. We just couldn’t understand what was happening or how to help him change course.

Whether you have a child who’s exploding with negative emotion, having a difficult time with their mental health, misusing drugs, or alcohol, or is simply difficult to communicate with, this episode’s for you.

When we were in the middle of trying to figure out how to help our son, I constantly searched the internet for stories of transformation that would give me just a little hope. At the time, there was just not much out there.

I want you to know….there’s so much hope! We worked hard and found our happy ending and so can you.

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

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You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!

Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

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Adolescent mental health has been in steady decline for years and we all know the pandemic was the cherry on top. Schools are in a prime position to help improve our teens’ mental health by integrating the right programs and services and eliminating harmful policies.  

• Schools need more mental health professionals on staff
• Gaps should be filled by teachers educated in mental health issues and techniques to improve emotional regulation in their students
• Students should receive social and emotional training in addition to mental health education
• Schools should consider mental health days off for students that need it
• “Zero tolerance policies” and exclusionary discipline practices should be banished 
• “Restorative practices” should be adopted to replace antiquated discipline practices that fill the school to prison pipeline 

We should rethink school resource officers who tend to turn regular disciplinary, and behavior matters into criminal offenses

Learn what studies and surveys say about these issues and how you can change things at your teen’s middle or high school and help all students increase their chances of better mental wellbeing.

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Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

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Studies show that our level of emotional intelligence (“EQ”) directly affects our parenting skills and our relationship with our children and teenagers. The greater our EQ, the better our relationship is with them, the better adapted they are and the better their emotional development, mental health, and wellbeing. And foundational to EQ is emotional awareness and emotional regulation. 

Listen as I explain:

·       emotional intelligence

·       emotional awareness and regulation

·       EQ’s connection to parenting teens

·       the emotional experience 

·       factors that determine our emotions and our responses

·       a few “awareness-raising” facts about our emotions

·       how thoughts, emotions, and behavior are interrelated 

·       how to determine your general level of emotional awareness

·       2 important strategies for becoming more emotionally aware (plus many more in the download in the show notes)

Thankfully, studies show it’s never too late to start working to improve your emotional intelligence. So, what are you waiting for?

Download my Free Guide, "Emotional Awareness Strategies"

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

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Whether you’re currently in panic mode about your teen or tween who’s spiraling out of control or just seeing the first glimpses that they may require more than weekly counseling, this episode is for you. Understanding the different levels of mental health and/or substance abuse care for your child and how to navigate that world is not something you want to learn on the fly. Just becoming familiar with the options and the terms can give you a potentially life-changing advantage.

Listen in as I explain

• Factors involved in the decision to seek a higher level of care for your child
• How insurance may impact your decision
• Which level of care do they require?
  • Psychiatric hospitalization
  • Residential Treatment Centers (“RTC”)
  • Partial Hospitalization Programs (“PHP”)
  • Intensive Outpatient Programs/Treatment (“IOP/IOT”)

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show. 

If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!

Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. 

You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!

Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

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We know that because of their changing brain, teens and tweens are much more likely than adults or children to succumb to their unpleasant (“negative”) emotions like frustration, anger, nervousness, and gloominess. 

For the same reason, they’re much more likely to engage in risky behaviors like substance use, reckless driving, posting inappropriately online and sex. 

The part of the brain that helps make good decisions and use self-control is much weaker than those emotional and risk-taking parts! So, how can we help? 

We can help them strengthen this weaker part of the brain by modeling and by coaching them through emotional moments. This helps develop their emotional awareness and emotional regulation skills, two important elements of emotional intelligence. Increasing emotional intelligence is critical in helping our kids respond appropriately in emotional and/or risky situations. 

Listen as I explain emotional intelligence, the ways it helps teens succeed and most importantly, how you can help your teen increase theirs.

Download my Free Guide, "Emotion Coaching" to help you practice what I discussed in the episode.

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show. 

If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!

Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. 

You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions

Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

Check out the podcast on YouTube!

Email Ann at [email protected] 

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Unfortunately, when you have kids (especially teens or tweens), getting through the divorce is merely the beginning. Studies show that what happens after the divorce can have a more negative impact on your kids than any conflict they witnessed during the marriage. Learn how to manage life after divorce keeping your teen's best interest in mind. 

I’ll discuss 6 specific areas where many parents miss the mark and how you can make sure your kid doesn’t suffer needlessly:

1.     The details shared with your teen about the divorce 

2.     How you discuss the other parent with your teen

3.     Visitation

4.     Communication with your ex-spouse

5.     Rules and consequences between households 

6.     Dating after the divorce

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. 

You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!

Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

Check out the podcast on YouTube!

Email Ann at [email protected] 

Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram  

Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack   

Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)

See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen