According to SPARC, stalking is a pattern of behavior directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to fear for their safety or the safety of others, or suffer substantial emotional distress. In this episode, we sit down with stalking survivor and advocate Nicole Bialko to name what stalking really looks like and why it so often gets romanticized or minimized. Using Nicole's personal experience as a backdrop, we walk through warning signs, documentation, and what it takes to keep pushing for safety when the system feels hard to navigate.

We also get practical about respecting our own intuition and about what matters most when you’re trying to stay safe: understanding stalking as a pattern of behavior that causes fear or substantial emotional distress, and building documentation that clearly shows that pattern. Nicole shares tips for creating a simple timeline, saving texts and emails, capturing time-stamped photos or video, and gathering witnesses when possible. We also talk about the reality of reporting stalking, including moments of support from law enforcement and the frustration that can hit once a case moves into the court system, where communication gaps and plea deals can leave survivors feeling minimized.