In this podcast episode, I explore the concept of cognitive dissonance in relationships. Cognitive dissonance arises when we hold opposing beliefs about a situation, causing a struggle to find resolution. Using the example of Jane, who justified her partner's infidelity and hurtful comments, I illustrate how trauma bonded relationships often lead us to rationalize harmful behavior.

I delve into the biological aspect of cognitive dissonance, where the bonding hormone oxytocin becomes associated with stress instead of affection. This cycle perpetuates justifying our partner's actions while experiencing heightened stress levels.

I emphasize the importance of self-awareness in recognizing cognitive dissonance and its impact on decision-making. It is crucial to take a step back, evaluate conflicting beliefs, and prioritize our long-term well-being. Setting boundaries is an act of self-love and self-respect, not rejection.

Furthermore, I urge listeners to reflect on how tolerating disrespect sabotages personal growth and self-worth. It is essential to prioritize our own development and seek healthier relationships.

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Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships.

Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on:

✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency
✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a
✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy
✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth
✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion

Whether you're recovering from betrayal, navigating codependency, or simply ready to break free from the past, this podcast gives you the clarity, strength, and strategy to move forward

We hope you got massive value from this episode for your own healing and relationship progress.