Have you ever had a big project deadline that you knew was important, only to find yourself watching an entire marathon of the Bachelorette instead? Or you worked hard for weeks trying to lose that 5 pounds and decided the best way to reward yourself would be with an entire tub of ice cream. Or maybe you were in a relationship that was going great, but you just kept picking fights?
These are the ways we self-sabotage. At one point or another, we’ve all done something that undermines our best interests and intentions. Even the most successful people get in their own way—often without realizing it.
Today we’re talking to Dr. Judy Ho - an Award-winning clinical psychologist, tenured professor and TV personality. We’ll be looking at self-sabotage to help us answer two vital questions: Why do we do it? How do we stop?
She’s gonna give us some therapeutically proven strategies and practical tools to teaches you how to identify your triggers, modify your thoughts and behaviors, find your true motivation, and unlock your willpower so we can stop the cycle.
Today we will learn:

Why humans are predisposed to self-sabotage

What factors cause your self-sabotage behaviors (it may not be what you think)!

Quick little busters you can use in under 5 minutes to stop self-sabotage


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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "Why does this always happen to me? Am I attracting dogs or is this just the state of the market?” At some point, it starts to feel like the right person is an illusion.
If you’ve found yourself in a cycle of the same relationship issues over and over again, it often means that you’re caught in a belief system that is subconsciously shaping your reality.
If you don't confront these patterns, decouple from them, and cultivate new ones, you could be sentencing yourself to a life of rinse and repeat.
So maybe, it’s time to ask the hard questions, and that’s what this episode is about. How to raise your standards, set intentions, and find your person.
Our guest is Matthew Hussey. He is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and coach specializing in confidence and relational intelligence. His YouTube channel is number one in the world for love life advice, with over half a billion views. He also writes a weekly newsletter and is the host of the podcast “Love Life With Matthew Hussey.”
Today he will teach us his proven approach to finding love but also how to feel confident and in control of our own happiness regardless of relationship status. 
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How to distinguish between what's habitual and what's transformative

How adding your unique signature to age-old rituals can transform your life's most important moments

Why the tiniest rituals could make the biggest difference in your love life


Have you ever noticed how some moments feel extra special, while others just blend into the background of your life?
Things like the school bell ringing at the end of the day, blowing out birthday candles, or a even something as simple as a handshake after a deal - These are rituals, little traditions that mark important moments in our lives.
If we ignore the power of rituals, we might lose touch with who we are. They reflect our choices and remind us of who we are and who we want to be. They're like a compass pointing us in the right direction.
However, rituals can also become a burden if we're too rigid about them. The key is to find a balance - create your own unique mix of routines and spontaneous moments that tell your story.
Every little ritual, even the ones we barely notice, shapes who we are.
We're about to explore the power of rituals with expert Mike Norton. We'll learn how these everyday practices can bring us clarity, strength, and connection. Even the most ordinary moments can be magical if we embrace them. So get ready to discover the transformative power of your daily rituals.
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Powerful two-word mantra to help you approach difficult decisions

The liberating question that could realign your life's path with true happiness.

Powerful rituals that can guide you to personal closure, even when others leave the story unresolved.


How often have you mistaken persistence for passion or comfort for contentment?
The problem is, most of us don’t just fear change, but we have a whole narrative around quitting, as though it’s some form of failure. And these lies can keep us stuck in rooms we’ve long outgrown.
So, how do we turn down the noise to turn up our own inner nudges? And how can we move more quickly toward our own new doorways of possibility? That’s what we’re talking about today.
Our guest is Emily Freeman. She is the Wall Street Journal bestselling author of five books, including "How to Walk into a Room" and "The Next Right Thing." She is also a spiritual director, workshop leader, and host of The Next Right Thing podcast, and her most important work is to help create soul space and offer spiritual companionship and discernment for anyone struggling with decision fatigue.
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How ‘doing nothing’ can radically transform your health and clarity

How to find which body element type that dominates your life, and why it matters

The colors of foods that best suit your element type


Historically, healers tapped into intricate body connections, like reflexology and chakras, along with herbal medicine, aromatherapy, cupping therapy, and the study of body element types… all without the help of X-rays, MRIs, and computers.
Today, we’re diving into the world of body element types, and it’s like unlocking a secret map to our own health. Think of it as the ancient version of a personalized health quiz. In traditions like Traditional Chinese Medicine, they talk about elements like Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, and Water. Each of us fits into one of these categories, and it's not just for fun – it tells us a ton about what our bodies and minds crave for balance.
Understanding whether you're more Fire than Water, or more Earth than Metal, can change the game. It's like having insider knowledge on how to eat, move, and chill in ways that actually feel right to you.
So today we’re going to learn the secrets of your element type, plus a whole lot of other holistic health practices.
Our guest is the TikTok famous Dr. Anis Khalaf, aka @acupuncturefit on socials. He is a medically trained Acupuncture Physician who helps top performers get their health back through an ancient technique called Element Typing. He is the founder and CEO of Acupuncture Fit and VirtualTCM.com. He creates custom Traditional Chinese Medicine health plans for people who suffer from pain, infertility, addiction, gut and hormone imbalance, skin conditions, and severe, terminal, and rare cases.

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How to rethink happiness and relearn presence for deeper connections

How to craft a legacy through a bucket list

The four essential habits that are key to emotional intelligence


It’s not a secret that we humans are starting to suck at connection. The days of deep listening, intimate sharing, and simply being together in the same space are becoming fewer and further between.
Instead, a quick DM or text has become our go-to, avoiding phone calls and, heaven forbid, unannounced visits. But here's the crucial part: while our methods of communication have shifted dramatically, the human need for physical connection hasn't.
So how do we get back to that deep connection that we know through mountains of research that humans thrive on?
Today we’re going to learn how to connect with one another deeply and consciously through the LOVE system.
Our guest is Talia Fox. She has become a visionary for leadership and legacy building. Her extensive background in psychology and education enables her to help people to be more present, more engaged, and more attuned to the intricacies of our interconnected world. She’s also the author of “The Power of Conscious Connection: 4 Habits to Transform How You Live and Lead.” 
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