Connection Codes

Stop Wearing the Hat They Gave You(160)


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What if the story you’ve been telling yourself… isn’t even yours? In this deeply validating and insight-rich episode of the Connection Codes podcast, Tera Wages joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to explore how childhood messages, cultural labels, and relationship dynamics shape—and often limit—our identity. Through personal stories, including leaving church, navigating marriage intimacy, and feeling misunderstood by family, the hosts unpack what it means to "wear a hat" that no longer fits.

Listeners will be challenged to ask: Who put this label on me? Why am I still wearing it? With raw emotional depth and practical wisdom, the episode empowers you to identify the inner “judge,” rewire internal narratives, and intentionally reclaim who you want to become.

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Chapters:

  • 00:00:00 – Identity Isn’t Just a Concept—It’s Personal
  • 00:02:26 – When You Realize You’ve Been Wearing the Wrong Hat
  • 00:05:53 – Do I Even Matter… to Me?
  • 00:09:23 – The Labels We Live By (And How to Let Them Go)
  • 00:13:26 – How External Voices Shape Internal Battles
  • 00:25:56 – Old Messages, New Awareness: What Are You Still Carrying?
  • 00:27:19 – Step Into the Judge’s Chamber—You Might Be Surprised Who’s Inside
  • 00:28:14 – The Dishwasher Story: It Was Never About the Dishes
  • 00:29:28 – Tearing Off the Labels That Keep Us Small
  • 00:32:46 – Speak Life: The Words That Shape Who You Become
  • 00:42:00 – Feel It to Heal It: A Real Look at the Core Emotion Wheel
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