Stress is a choice - that means we can choose not to be stressed. And resilience is something too many people are overly proud of when you consider that it often means coping with something with which you shouldn't have ever put up with in the first place!

Yes, our minds play tricks on us - the cruelest of all being the automated choice we make to slowly kill ourselves through curse of everyday low-level background stress - the stress that the WHO says is causing a "pandemic of hypertension".

And, as for resilience... why would you train yourself to put up with something that you shouldn't put up with at all?

You have a secret weapon at your disposal to deal with all of this - but it's only the tricks that your own mind plays on you that keeps it hidden in plain view.