Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

I’m not sure if this is about boundaries or just reactions sorry, or maybe that’s the same actually.

I was listening to your podcast episode on boundaries and expectations in relationship.

I’ve actually been questioning my reactions over the past week, and this is just fascinating. At my age I’m amazed that I’ve not learned to look at myself in relationship this way EVER before so this episode is groundbreaking for me!

What is the solution when we recognise one of these behaviours playing out that is not about the other person. Like my anxiousness when my new partner doesn’t text me back for 5 hours, or acts in a way that “makes” me feel anxious?

Instead of responding in a defensive or needy way, I am trying to notice it and not act. But now I hear this, I feel like this is as you say as the other extreme, allowing “someone walk all over me” which is not happening but I’m still allowing something that doesn’t feel ok with me at the moment. 

What do I do with these reactions of mine once I notice them? How do I actually go about healing them? 

What is freedom? Listener question

"When you are inspired… by some great purpose… All of your thoughts, break their bonds… Your mind, transcends limitation… Dormant forces, talents, faculties become alive, and you discover to be a greater person than you ever dreamed to be!" -- Patanjali, 300BC - believed to be the sanskrit author of the yoga sutras 

A friend just shared this and what if the some great purpose is recognizing who we really are as aware, alive, intelligence?

Today I saw why cutting people off was/is such a hobby for me. I wanna cut them firstly and with that dissarm them so they can't leave me.Less painful if I leave them, than to be left by others.Only inteligence is capable to make such a creative defense.It is made from the same media ...conditioning & healing... wow :)

I wonder if the term ‘insanity’, as commonly understood and which you use quite frequently in this clip, isn't helpful to an ‘identified’ person? For someone lost in programming, might not shame be added to their burden when hearing that suffering is indicative of madness, particularly since suffering is the means through which our innate health/wholeness/freedom is remembered?

We could talk and explore the ''THEM'' course for the rest of our lives. 

For me it always opens so much pain, grief, anger, resentment and of course shame.

And the last one goes so perfectly hand in hand with the vulnerability of which you talk about in today's course video.

Each time I faced painful feelings I tried to hide them in front of others, even the closest people in my life. It was and still is unbearable for me to show weakness to be seen weak. I was always the one who took care of others, comforted them, etc. I was in no position to ask others for help and allow myself to receive it.

I guess this is still one of my biggest confusions in friendship relationships.Wanting them and pushing them away at the same moment.

And when things accumulated I cry ... alone ofcourse :) How do you see crying in the role of healing? And also in a role of letting ourselves be or feel vulnerability?

If the trigger from within a relationship is a mirror to us, then is each triggering circumstance we encounter also a mirror?

When we're triggered by a circumstance which does not involve a relationship and which, say, appears to be a recurring circumstance, is the circumstance (similarly to aspects within relationships) mirroring something in us that needs to be fully seen, and thus if we identify and fully feel the physical feeling of the emotional suffering being experienced, the 'charge' is then gone, sanity results and the circumstances must necessarily stop recurring given our vibrational universe?

For example, I seem to experience more than my fair share of 'water events', leaks, road floods, bursting pipes.  A friend encounters nests of various descriptions, birds, wasps, ants repeatedly and another friend is in the wrong place at the wrong time when heated arguments on the street break out.  But even if it's a one-off event, like when I had my phone stolen out of my hand, was even that, single trigger informing me of something going on within me, such that it occurred or even could occur?

What can we do when faced with personal criticism? 

 I know the theme of others not being interested in what I have to say (for example) is present/recurring but I can't find a feeling in my body when I attempt to sit with this.  If I think I about it, really try to bring it to mind and make it matter in the moment, I can cry perhaps, but then it's the feeling of crying.  Does it take practice for a localised sensation to become clear maybe?  

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