Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

I have been incredibly emotional lately. I cry a lot, actually so much that I am wondering if that is still normal. Also I was very irritated in some situations at work and afterwards I felt like it was really unprofessional to lose my temper.

I think I have always been a very emotional person and my feelings are always very intense. I only let myself have them at home and with very few people I trust a lot. In all the other situations it feels too dangerous and I kind of make sure to always keep my emotions out of everything because I don't want to scare people away or lose control over what I say. It feels like something did break open and that there is something very important and powerful in this, and I wonder where to go with this.

Sometimes I feel like a child that hasn't learned yet how to regulate their emotions, and now that I am writing this I wonder if I actually really haven't learned this yet.

Writing this E Mail also seems kind of inappropriate because I learned that I should't be like this, so I have many thoughts about what anyone reading this would think about me.

As always I wonder if any of what I just wrote makes sense, and would be very happy if you could share your thoughts on this.

I’ve been doing some exercises around the ‘headless way’ which involves noticing that there isn’t really a person looking ‘out’ at experience, there is just an expansive nothingness. Through the exercises ‘I’ have seen this, but the nagging question keeps coming back…

How can it be true that there isn’t a centre to experience when what ‘I’ experience is also unique to this body, these eyeballs etc.? If I was blind or deaf, I would experience the world entirely differently. Does this not imply that there is an ‘experiencer’ with unique qualities which then inform their experience? How can this be reconciled with the idea that there is only ‘pure’ awareness or experience?

Hi Clare I was brought up by a mum who was very anxious about what people thought of her. She would often over commit to helping others and end up exhausted. I can see the same tendency’s and lack of boundaries in myself and so I try to say no but then I hear you talking about unconditional love and I get confused. Does it mean always saying yes to people?

A relative of mine was recently sectioned and diagnosed with psychosis. I understand psychosis to be a condition in which contact is lost with external reality. I spoke to them just before they went into hospital and I could see that what they were saying did not relate to my understanding of reality. But aren’t we saying in the conversation that there is no external reality any way. If that is the case then aren’t we all psychotic if we believe there is? How come there can be degrees of reality? 

I hear a lot in social media about gas lighting. I haven’t experienced it myself I don’t think but every time I hear it mentioned I wonder how can there be such a thing as gas lighting if there is as you say no objective reality. Can you help with this please? 

I’m a member and fan of your subliminals. Great to see how the mind is kept out, and the body still reacts on the hidden messages.

I used to be a hypnotherapist and would like to know your opinion on the use of plain Hypnosis (a different technique, as you know, from subliminals). With hypnosis, the brain is not kept out, you actually hear the spoken words. It works as a program on top of another program and I’ve seen with clients that sometimes the ‘old’ unwanted program returns.

I wonder whether hypnosis could help people remember who they really are. That it is safe to allow every feeling, every sensation in the body. Even the unwanted ones and the resistance are welcome.”  

As I see how much your teachings and my training as a 3 Principles facilitator helped me, I would like to combine this with plain hypnosis to help other people who are desperate for relief.

Since you are also a trained hypnotherapist, I would like to hear your opinion.

Thank you so much Clare for your dedicated and loving teachings.

I just watched the mental health webinar und I heard something I never heard before. You said: 'All conscious experience is a healing place for us' and you also said that the physical is healed here, too.  Can you say more about that? 

It's funny because it feels like I never heard this before AND I don't know what you mean, apart from seeing the conditioning, but is this healing? Doesn't feel like. I am sure you have spoken a milllion times about that. 

Do you think identification squelches our unique desires? 

Example: if I am with a friend and they are talking with enthusiasm and excitement about going on a backpacking trip. Prior to this conversation I didn't have much desire to go on a backpacking trip. Or they want to watch musicals, or they want to try a dance class....etc. Now there's a sudden "I want to to do this!" impulse or urge showing up. 

Is that a genuine desire? 

A form of conditioned patterning of a desire that's a form of comparison (they're cool I want to be cool, or they're excited, I want that excitement - must be from the backpacking)? 

Is this a latent desire that emerges when someone else speaks it? 

It seems like identification hides desires or puts false ones in place in an attempt to obtain a specific emotional state,

thank you!

“Relationships are not meant to be fun”

What? Why?

How can you say that so confidently?!?

When I left my first marriage, I could have said exactly what the listener said in your podcast.

I know I did not do my work then as it was all about him and why I couldn’t continue to be in the relationship because of how he was.

However we have 3 children and so have stayed in touch and actually have a lovely relationship even though he has not changed in any way that I can see.

So I can honestly say I love him, but would not consider living together again.

So my question is….

If relationships are not meant to be fun, why would one ever consider being in a committed one?

Why not just do your ‘work’ with all the relationships in your life and then have a partner just for fun?

As usual looking forward to and dreading your answer.

Book  recommendations from Tia: 


The Body Remembers Volumes 1 and 2 by Babette Rothschild, these really helped me understand the power of adaptation and that even behaviors we judge as "bad" had some type of intelligence for survival, even if they are no longer useful. These are written for therapists/practitioners so some chapters people might skip, however I find the case studies relatable and helpful in understanding why therapists make some of the choices they do.

Call of the Wild: How We Heal Trauma, Awaken Our Own Power and Use it For Good by Kimberly Ann Johnson - This gives a clear explanation of nervous system function, somatics and its varied applications. 

Bodyfulness: by Christine Caldwell - This gives an overview of core concepts with multiple practices to try at the end of each chapter. It's a bit more heady 

I have a bookshop affiliate page if that's helpful: https://bookshop.org/shop/findingmindfulnow

Somatic organizations I recommend in the US:

-Lumous Transforms

-Strozzi Institute

-Generative Somatics

-The Embody Lab (they have students from across the globe) - people can look at the list of practitioners from the Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy Certification for other directions.