Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

Can you say more about the self-parenting idea with this understanding?

I've been in and out of various forms of therapy since I was a teenager and self parenting has involved saying things like "I love you" to the system or to the idea of various ages of a younger "me". I had stopped doing this out of the impression that this practice is a form of separate self-concept reinforcement. 

Yet observing the system speaking aloud, to this memory of a small child created in this moment, and feeling the sadness or anxiety fluctuate to warmth and comfort - I'm wondering if that's presence?

Is the self, I, me,  just a habit I've (we've) fallen into?  I find, when I'm conscious/aware/brave enough, that I can momentarily switch off the dialogue and drop into (best way I can describe it) silence and nothingness.  It's blissful, but always very short-lived.  It's like flicking the pause button, but very soon worry and guilt bring the noise back.

Hi Clare. Hope you're well?  Just finished reading Well, and loved it. Thanks!  I've had a year out from reading 3P you're books but now seem to have got a taste for it again.  I'm now reading HOME and finding it pretty all-engrossing. Loving the humoured too😀. I have a question for you about universal mind/ consciousness. How do we know it's something universal rather than just a phenomenon of the brain that all brain owners have? I think about the space which is the gap between thoughts. It's a space of peace and ease. Is it universal though? Or just what my brain does when it's not doing its usual busy work? It's this spiritual 'universality' which I struggle with.

One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular.” 

― C.G. Jung

So powerful and clear explanations are coming from your videos of the THEM course.

Thank you very much for all your wisdom you're sharing with us.

Listening to Day 28 the words struck me where you're explaining how relationships can be held when we don't need anything from the other person, especially words: ''They don't even have to stay alive''.

A question came up: '' What would grieving look and feel from this sane place?''

Remembering my grieving over loss of a close friends and later after loss of my father due to cancer. It was a lot about me and not so much about them really. It was more about how their death will affect me, what will I be lacking after they're gone etc.

Would love to hear your thoughts on that :)

I’ve just listened to todays message and have a quick question perhaps you might be able to clarify. If we are feeling all feelings without resistance aren’t we feeling our conditioning rather than reality? When, for example, I feel anxious, it’s coming from thinking, not actual reality..??

You recently said that everything that’s happened to us had to happen.

Why?

what’s real about the patriarchy- about the systemic oppression of women, particularly women of color? Or flipped- the systemic prioritization of money and power controlled by white guys?  It doesn’t appear to be a particularly nourishing system on a global scale for anyone. 

In this conversation, it feels like we are focusing on our individual mind/body systems, that getting into them helps access what’s real, AND it does feel to me like there is some level of “real” collective trauma looking to be revealed and healed- versus “personal” trauma… 

Hi lovely Clare,

Can you say more about what is happening when the ego's needs for validation, approval, being liked, etc. *do* seem to be met? What is that? 

Sometimes it seems like a temporary respite, like giving a piece of candy to a child who is tantruming. Other times it seems like presence/connection emerges and there's simply life unfolding and then the mind labels it as "belonging" or "being seen/heard/validated". 

Can you share more about that please?

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