The Power of Us by Jay Van Bavel and Dominic J Packer 

Being is totally whole just being. And it is alive and fleshy and sexy and juicy and immediately this; it’s not some concept about ‘there’s no-one here’. It’s not some concept about ‘there’s nowhere to go’. It’s the Aliveness that’s in that body right now. There is pure beingness, pure aliveness.

Tony Parsons

You say all words, actions and perceptions are results of the programme. Then you speak about intelligence meeting everything that arises. Is the programme playing when we only see the separate self and the intelligence when that dissolves or is it the same thing. Is the intelligence always meeting what arises but is veiled/limited by the program running? I would love to hear your thoughts on this. 

I'm rewatching another video of the two of us speaking and my 'mind body system' is just talking and talking and talking

how do you listen so intently, is that you're focusing on the aliveness expressing and not the content?

I notice that much thoughts have some layers. The first layer is a negative self image. On top of that are thoughts that want to do something about this. To top it of there are thoughts like “I’ll never get over this etc”.

This morning I just sat with it. The first two layers dissolved until the negatieve self image. I continued to sit with it. Listened to it. There came thoughts like “I just feel so sad”. And then I felt all the sensations in the body (and cried). There was no urge to manage something or make the feelings go away. I feel lighter now. 

Is this what you mean with getting real? Or is this an perfect example of someone who is totally lost in the woods of his own thinking? 

Reason for asking this is a confusion about “it is just thought”. Because this very often used sentence implies that a negative self image is just thought and that someone don’t have to feel it / look at it / be bothered. On the other hand that feels like spiritual bypassing to me. Because the negative self image looks very real to me. 

I have been listening to your podcast lately. I  worked with a coach hoping for change around habits of overeating. And I have seen so many changes in many areas of my life but not in the area I was hoping for. 

I read on your website that you make subliminal recordings. It sounds so interesting. Is this something that could help me with this habit? I can see that there are so many layers to this habit. Using food to numb feelings I do not like, and the vicious circle of thought that repeats day after day. 

How do the recordings work? Is it a meditation? Do you keep listening to the recording until there is a change?

Hi Clare.I would really like to talk about meaning and why this planet exists at all. We come with nothing and we leave with nothing and in between it is our “purpose” to know who/what we are and then what? Madeleine Albright (just an example) died not long ago - what was her purpose? Did anything she accomplished matter at all? Creating a new world, but what should that look like then and does it even matter? Is this world simply to unveil us? 

Act like a leader, think like a leader by Herminia Ibarra. Sunday Book 

If you were an all-powerful, all-knowing consciousness, you could never know sadness, loss, anxiety, surprise, or the excitement of not knowing what will happen next. An all-knowing consciousness could not enjoy jokes or cry at tragedies. By playing the game, consciousness delights in every experience possible, and the only way to do that is for it to lose itself in us.


In the same way that a glass of water is exponentially more satisfying after a five-mile hike in the desert, the experience of feeling the interconnectedness of everything is more fulfilling after the illusion of separation. This is the fun of the game. This is the fun of waking up.

I made a quite funny and interesting observation about the change of your spreaking rhythm over time.

I listen backwards to your podcast while driving from the day on I found it, and I also listen to the daily actual one. So now I am in Oktober 2020. I listened to the new one and immediately after I took the old one on where I left it and there I heard how your speaking rhythm has immensily changed. 

In the old on you had a lot more abruptness and acceleration, like rushing and doing sudden changes, and in the actual one there is a lot more evenness and decceleration, like there is more relaxation and more indulging in time. 

It was beautiful to notice the development. I hope this doesn't offend you, for me it was so revealing how change can be seen.