Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

When I was growing up my father was absent and my mother had mental health issues and problems with alcohol. We never had anyone over to the house and at school I was bullied and found it very hard to even talk to others let alone make friends. Now that I am an adult I am on good terms with people I work with but I don’t have a partner or any friends. I am lonely but I don’t know how to go about creating good relationships. 

Thank you so much for all your wonderful courses. I know I'm not active in your groups but I listen to you every day and I'm loving the content.  Life is better but without really being able to pinpoint why or what's changed. I feel lighter, relationships are more content, and generally life seems to flow better. So thank you. 

I'm wondering if you can speak more about 'no separation'.  At first I totally didn't get this concept because to the eye everything looks separate- and I assume we can all agree that there is an apparent reality of separate bodies and objects.  Moving deeper in however, I'm beginning to understand the concept as in: nothing can exist outside of my perception- so moment to moment, life, and everything that happens, is being created from within me, and the life that this body-mind system is living is a playing out of its internal conditioning. Does that encapsulate it? 

Thank you 

PS. I know there's no 'I'.  It's just so cumbersome writing 'body-mind system' all the time- and is it necessary?!! x

If you can speak to why experience shifts so radically from day to day in this exploration as ....it's perplexing. Yesterday was nearly a full day of in and out of suicide ideation, intense heat/pain/anguish and a deep desire to die. Then today somehow all of that was gone. I read an email a student sent that yesterday felt super attacking and led to a spiral of shame... to today it seeming more like information about what I could have done differently as an instructor to provide clarity. What's happening? Why is this so inconsistent? What happened from yesterday to today that the same content is not having the same level of intense reactivity? 

Can you talk about how when it is reputation that is at stake this isn't physical harm?

For example if someone posts complaints about you on multiple sites in an attempt to attack your character, is this only identity when it is also has effects in the apparent form?

The Power of Us by Jay Van Bavel and Dominic J Packer 

Being is totally whole just being. And it is alive and fleshy and sexy and juicy and immediately this; it’s not some concept about ‘there’s no-one here’. It’s not some concept about ‘there’s nowhere to go’. It’s the Aliveness that’s in that body right now. There is pure beingness, pure aliveness.

Tony Parsons

You say all words, actions and perceptions are results of the programme. Then you speak about intelligence meeting everything that arises. Is the programme playing when we only see the separate self and the intelligence when that dissolves or is it the same thing. Is the intelligence always meeting what arises but is veiled/limited by the program running? I would love to hear your thoughts on this. 

I'm rewatching another video of the two of us speaking and my 'mind body system' is just talking and talking and talking

how do you listen so intently, is that you're focusing on the aliveness expressing and not the content?

I notice that much thoughts have some layers. The first layer is a negative self image. On top of that are thoughts that want to do something about this. To top it of there are thoughts like “I’ll never get over this etc”.

This morning I just sat with it. The first two layers dissolved until the negatieve self image. I continued to sit with it. Listened to it. There came thoughts like “I just feel so sad”. And then I felt all the sensations in the body (and cried). There was no urge to manage something or make the feelings go away. I feel lighter now. 

Is this what you mean with getting real? Or is this an perfect example of someone who is totally lost in the woods of his own thinking? 

Reason for asking this is a confusion about “it is just thought”. Because this very often used sentence implies that a negative self image is just thought and that someone don’t have to feel it / look at it / be bothered. On the other hand that feels like spiritual bypassing to me. Because the negative self image looks very real to me. 

I have been listening to your podcast lately. I  worked with a coach hoping for change around habits of overeating. And I have seen so many changes in many areas of my life but not in the area I was hoping for. 

I read on your website that you make subliminal recordings. It sounds so interesting. Is this something that could help me with this habit? I can see that there are so many layers to this habit. Using food to numb feelings I do not like, and the vicious circle of thought that repeats day after day. 

How do the recordings work? Is it a meditation? Do you keep listening to the recording until there is a change?