No-self Accountability - words of the week 

Today’s ‘how should I listen’ podcast finds me excited. 

Excited enough to return to exploring what is true. 

Yet what does that truly mean?

The Work of Byron Katie starts with questioning ‘is it true?’ 

I get that. It’s crystal clear. 

Please can you dive deep into what exactly you mean by “Just listening to see what’s true. That’s all.”

…And how exactly do I/we do this? 

Thank you. 💎🙏🏼💙

'YOU need to change YOUR thinking!' 
This is something we hear and read quite often. What is true in it, if anything? 

Can you clarify the difference in terminology between the 3 principles and nonduality/advaita, by use of a metaphor (for example the ocean and the waves, or the movie and the screen)?

I am on my second round of Home and really getting something from it slowly and surely. It’s like so many little YES moments. Little snippets of truth that i recognise as such. But … I’m having traditional therapy for the first time and really enjoying it. Is there benefit, alongside this, for the ‘I’ to examine the avator self to examine the conditioning to bring it into the light ? I find it interesting to see the links my brain has made and why but does this drag me more into the brambles and less into seeing that it’s all made up? 

Would appreciate your view ! 

You asked me what was driving the need to understand - for the mind to understand what you were sharing. It stopped me in my tracks because up until this point I had understood that the tension I perceived was being created from the mind trying to grasp something it can never grasp, was the indicator to let go. What you pointed to was that it was no problem that the mind wanted to understand but it was the underlying reason for needing to understand.

And it came to me this morning. I need to understand because of what's on offer that I don't already (perceive) that I have. Ultimate peace, relaxation, sleep, trust, unconditional love. In everything you share there is the perceived message that once the mind is no longer identified life will be amazing. So obviously I want that and therefore have the need to understand.

Intellectually I know what you are pointing to - that we are that already. But right now, where I am, it doesn't feel like that and hence the minds desire to understand!

Does that make sense? I don't know what the question is except how does seeing what the need to understand is about, help?

Think Again by Adam Grant. The Sunday Book 

'Trojan Horse' words of the week

I have a question about conditioning.  If I understand correctly, we are all like robots acting according to whatever programs were learned along the way until we come to learn more about who we really are.   Then gradually (or all at once those lucky ducks!) the navigation system shifts out of this programming and more and more life is lived as LIfe, Love or the space of awareness etc.  My question is that when the conditioning is seen, but doesn't fall away and is not serving the body mind, is it because there's still some belief in it being true, or that it's very persistent and takes time to do so?  Maybe focusing on the conditioning is the wrong direction to look?  I feel like I'm stuck with this robot and this is my life. 

I understand that the concept of good and bad are just that, and the identity is fixed in place, through this process.  

So, if I was in this scenario, and purposely change the words with no reference to "you're good", who is taking control there?

Who makes the change?  Is it is something to do with prior conditioning or does the identity have some ability to affect change?

As you have said before to try and answer our own questions....

So, what came up is - Is it the identity trying not to do something wrong, or to correct itself, which I guess would come from some conditioning? Is the identity and conditioning the same thing, I think maybe? However, I may be seeing conditioning and identity as separate, in a way that "I have conditioning".  I think that change happens from new thinking but can't see it in this situation. I am getting a bit lost there.