That crushing moment when your child says, “I’m stupid” or “Nobody likes me” can leave you feeling helpless. You’ve tried everything — reassurance, distraction, even giving in — but the negative thought loops just won’t quit.

In this episode of the Sustainable Parenting podcast, we dive into one of the most common parenting challenges: those Automatic Negative Thoughts (what brain psychologist Daniel Amen calls ANTs) that sneak into our children’s minds. These thoughts not only affect their mood but can chip away at their confidence and cooperation.

The best part? These tools don’t just help with negative thoughts in childhood— they are a key tools for raising confident adults, giving the tools for lifelong resilience and self-confidence. Bonus - these are great tools for US to use, too (as parents). When we model these ways to decrease our own shame and blame, we help our kids to see that they can do it, also.

So if you’re ready to trade helplessness for hope, tune in. 

By the time you finish listening you will know:

✨Positive parenting strategies you can start using today.

✨Four simple, science-backed tools to help your child recognize and reframe negative thinking. 

You’ll discover how adding a tiny word like “yet” can shift their whole outlook, why swapping out extreme words like “always” and “never” can calm their big feelings, and how a simple butternut squash story completely changed the way I approach these moments with my own kids.

Together, we’ll explore sustainable parenting solutions that balance kindness and firmness — so your child can grow in confidence, and you can finally feel more calm, connected, and confident in your parenting.

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Ever feel like nothing works when your child lashes out—no matter how calm you try to be or how many consequences you give?

Friend, you’re not alone. And you’re not doing it wrong. This weekly podcast episode is for every parent who’s felt worn down by rude words, angry outbursts, or aggressive behavior—and is craving a better way. A way that actually works and feels good in your heart.

In this short episode, we’re digging into three common mistakes that loving parents often make (through no fault of their own) when trying to manage tough behavior in kids aged 5–12. We’ll shift the lens from “my child is being mean” to “my child is missing a skill or struggling with a need”—and that shift changes everything for parent-child connection.

You’ll hear how one simple principle—all feelings are allowed, but not all actions are—became a total game-changer for one mom I worked with. We’ll explore gentle discipline strategies that hold firm boundaries without shame or yelling, and instead respond with tools that build your child’s emotional regulation and confidence.

You’ll also learn about a favorite tool called “Bugs and Wishes,” which helps kids say what’s bothering them without name-calling, aggression, or defiance. And we’ll talk about how to stop power struggles with kids and break free from the exhausting “cuckoo cycle” of commands and consequences, stepping into calm, confident parenting that lasts.

These are Positive Parenting Strategies and calm parenting tips that help you raise confident kids, improve parent-child connection, and bring more cooperation into your home. 

This is Sustainable Parenting—where you can practice kind and firm parenting, embrace parenting without yelling, and finally feel more joy and ease in everyday life.

If you’re ready for practical parenting tips & tools that actually work—and want to know how to get kids to listen while keeping your cool—press play and let’s walk this path together.

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✨ Schedule a FREE 20 min clarity call with Sustainable Parenting, so we can answer any questions you may have. Together, we'll make a plan for your best next steps to have more calm & confidence in parenting - while having kids that listen!:)

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✨ Sign up for an upcoming LIVE ONLINE workshop with Flora, or purchase a past replay: https://sustainableparenting.com/workshop where you get 30 min. of learning and 30 min. of LIVE Q & A time, with replays sent afterwards.

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Do you ever lie awake at night feeling like you're failing your children?

You’re not alone. Research shows a staggering 78% of mothers believe they aren’t doing enough for their kids.

But what if everything we’ve been told about perfect parenting is wrong?

This short episode of our weekly podcast delivers a truth that might just set you free: According to Circle of Security research spanning decades and thousands of families, you only need to “get it right” about 30% of the time for your child to develop secure attachment.

That’s right—30% is an A+ in the world of positive parenting strategies, calm parenting tips, and kind and firm parenting. When I first learned this as a mother years ago, I literally wept with relief. After all the books, courses, and well-meaning advice about everything parents should do perfectly, discovering this 30% threshold felt like someone had finally released the pressure valve on impossible expectations.

Even more fascinating, research from psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott on “the good enough mother” shows that our imperfections actually benefit our kids. Just as trees grown without wind eventually topple because they never develop strong roots, children need the “wind” of manageable disappointments to build what I call their “struggle muscles.” These challenges—whether it’s a meltdown, resistance, or a burst of anxiety & emotions—are how they develop resilience and confidence.

Your child’s frustration tolerance grows precisely because you aren’t perfect. As Dr. Jane Nelsen, co-founder of Positive Discipline, once told me: “The one thing parents need to do differently is stop trying to be perfect.”

If you’ve been craving real talk, parenting tips & tools, and science-backed insight on gentle parenting, this episode of the Sustainable Parenting podcast is for YOU. Subscribe for more on how to get kids to listen, how to stop tantrums, and stop power struggles with kids—all while building stronger parent-child connection, raising confident kids, and practicing parenting without yelling.

Ready for calm, confident parenting that feels lighter? Click the link in the episode notes to schedule a one-on-one session with me or one of my trained parenting coaches. Let’s make parenting easier—together.

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Why do kids seem to save their biggest meltdowns for home?

You watch them stay polite and calm at school or during a family gathering—but the moment they’re back with you, it’s like a switch flips. Suddenly, there’s whining, power struggles, or a full-blown tantrum. If you’ve ever wondered why they hold it together for others but fall apart with you, this short episode of the Sustainable Parenting Weekly Podcast offers clarity, compassion, and parenting tips & tools that really work.

In this episode, we unpack what’s going on beneath your child’s after-school meltdowns and explore how anxiety & emotions often build up until they feel safe enough to release them—right when they’re back with you.

You’ll walk away knowing:

• Why your child’s toughest behaviors often show up with the person they feel safest with—and how that connects to parent-child connection
• What might be missing in your expectations (are they too high… or too low?) and how this impacts power struggles, especially with toddlers
• Three practical and gentle parenting strategies to reduce tantrums, stop power struggles with kids, and make transitions easier

We’ll also touch on tools from past episodes that are especially helpful if you’re raising a neurodivergent child or want more support with gentle discipline:

🌟 Episode 42: Why Typical Strategies Don’t Work with Neurodivergent Kids
🌟 Episode 115: Why Yelling Works—and What to Do Instead

If you’re looking for positive parenting strategies that help you get kids to listen, bring more calm confident parenting into your evenings, and truly enjoy your family time, this episode was made for you.

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✨ Schedule a FREE 20 min clarity call with Sustainable Parenting, so we can answer any questions you may have. Together, we'll make a plan for your best next steps to have more calm & confidence in parenting - while having kids that listen!:)

✨ Download the FREE pdf. on getting kids to listen, for strategies that take you out of the "gentle mom - monster mom" cycle, with effective positive parenting strategies.

✨ Sign up for an upcoming LIVE ONLINE workshop with Flora, or purchase a past replay: https://sustainableparenting.com/workshop where you get 30 min. of learning and 30 min. of LIVE Q & A time, with replays sent afterwards.

✨ Buy a 3 session Coaching Bundle (saving you $100) - for THREE 30-min sessions 1:1 with ME, where we get right to the heart of your challenges, and give you small, powerful shifts that make a huge difference fast.

Have you found yourself yelling at your child—and then feeling waves of regret?

You’re not alone. Many loving parents think the solution is simply “having more patience.” But in this short episode of our weekly podcast, you’ll discover why patience isn’t the answer—and how three powerful P-words can help you bring more calm confident parenting into your home.

The truth is, anger often comes from what I call “time travel”—mentally jumping backward into regrets or forward into fears about your child’s future. This emotional time travel magnifies anxiety & emotions, turning small frustrations into major blowups. But there’s a better way—one that doesn’t require superhuman patience or endless guilt.

In this episode, you’ll learn three practical parenting tips & tools to break free from the yelling cycle:

• Plan: Create clear agreements for recurring challenges like bedtime or tech use (a game-changer to stop power struggles with kids).
• Pause: Use the “Whoa, Low, Slow” technique to stop reacting automatically and respond with gentle discipline and kind and firm parenting.
• Practice: Give yourself grace as you try these new strategies, focusing on progress—not perfection.

These positive parenting strategies have helped countless families reduce yelling and even raise confident kids—all while strengthening parent-child connection.

If you’re ready for calm parenting tips that work in real life—and want to know how to get kids to listen without shame or yelling—press play now. And don’t forget to download your free “Whoa, Low, Slow” template in the episode notes to help you start today.

This is Sustainable Parenting—where you can be both kind and firm at the same time while enjoying more peace and connection at home.

💚 Download your free “Whoa, Low, Slow” template here:
 https://sustainable-parenting.myflodesk.com/zapec71w5c
(Magnet coming soon!)

🎧 And join us next week as we explore why kids often have angry outbursts at home—but not in public. You might be surprised how close you are to more peace and connection.

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✨ Schedule a FREE 20 min clarity call with Sustainable Parenting, so we can answer any questions you may have. Together, we'll make a plan for your best next steps to have more calm & confidence in parenting - while having kids that listen!:)

✨ Download the FREE pdf. on getting kids to listen, for strategies that take you out of the "gentle mom - monster mom" cycle, with effective positive parenting strategies.

✨ Sign up for an upcoming LIVE ONLINE workshop with Flora, or purchase a past replay: https://sustainableparenting.com/workshop where you get 30 min. of learning and 30 min. of LIVE Q & A time, with replays sent afterwards.

✨ Buy a 3 session Coaching Bundle (saving you $100) - for THREE 30-min sessions 1:1 with ME, where we get right to the heart of your challenges, and give you small, powerful shifts that make a huge difference fast.

If you’ve ever wondered why yelling seems to “work” in the moment but leaves you feeling disconnected from your child, this episode is for you. We’re exploring how to create a stronger parent-child connection by balancing kindness and firmness—so you can practice calm confident parenting without the guilt or frustration.

In this short episode of our weekly podcast, you’ll discover:

• Why kids push boundaries and what they’re really asking for
• How to get kids to listen without yelling or shaming
• Why being overly gentle often backfires—and how kind and firm parenting creates lasting change
• A simple CEO approach that blends gentle discipline with positive parenting strategies
• Practical parenting tips & tools to stop power struggles with kids

If you’re ready for parenting without yelling and want to replace frustration with connection, tune in and learn gentle parenting strategies for raising confident kids while building sustainable parenting habits.

🎧 Want more parenting tips & tools?

Check out Episode 71: 3 Steps That Get Kids to Listen—a great intro to the CEO method: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/71-3-steps-that-get-kids-to-listen/id1682538739?i=1000665256022. 

And don’t miss next week’s episode, where we’ll talk about how to control your anger as a parent—without raising your voice.

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✨ Schedule a FREE 20 min clarity call with Sustainable Parenting, so we can answer any questions you may have. Together, we'll make a plan for your best next steps to have more calm & confidence in parenting - while having kids that listen!:)

✨ Download the FREE pdf. on getting kids to listen, for strategies that take you out of the "gentle mom - monster mom" cycle, with effective positive parenting strategies.

✨ Sign up for an upcoming LIVE ONLINE workshop with Flora, or purchase a past replay: https://sustainableparenting.com/workshop where you get 30 min. of learning and 30 min. of LIVE Q & A time, with replays sent afterwards.

✨ Buy a 3 session Coaching Bundle (saving you $100) - for THREE 30-min sessions 1:1 with ME, where we get right to the heart of your challenges, and give you small, powerful shifts that make a huge difference fast.

Ever felt like the consequences you’re using just aren’t working? 

Maybe you’ve taken away screen time, treats, or even big events—only to see the same behavior again. It’s frustrating and confusing when nothing seems to make a difference.

In this short episode of our weekly podcast, we’ll explore gentle parenting strategies that actually work—without yelling, shaming, or losing connection. Through Sean’s story, you’ll see how shifting from big punishments to calm, step-by-step guidance can strengthen the parent-child connection while improving behavior.

You’ll walk away with:

• Three common mistakes that make consequences fall flat (and how to avoid them)
• Parenting tips & tools for using gentle discipline that truly helps kids learn
• Simple, kind and firm parenting strategies to stop power struggles with kids while keeping limits clear
• Calm parenting tips for guiding behavior in a way that builds confidence and connection

This episode unpacks how positive parenting strategies can replace frustration with understanding—helping you in raising confident kids.

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✨ Schedule a FREE 20 min clarity call with Sustainable Parenting, so we can answer any questions you may have. Together, we'll make a plan for your best next steps to have more calm & confidence in parenting - while having kids that listen!:)

✨ Download the FREE pdf. on getting kids to listen, for strategies that take you out of the "gentle mom - monster mom" cycle, with effective positive parenting strategies.

✨ Sign up for an upcoming LIVE ONLINE workshop with Flora, or purchase a past replay: https://sustainableparenting.com/workshop where you get 30 min. of learning and 30 min. of LIVE Q & A time, with replays sent afterwards.

✨ Buy a 3 session Coaching Bundle (saving you $100) - for THREE 30-min sessions 1:1 with ME, where we get right to the heart of your challenges, and give you small, powerful shifts that make a huge difference fast.

We’re diving into how to stop power struggles with kids and solve transition battles in a way that builds parent-child connection and makes moving from one activity to the next easier and more joyful.

By the time you finish listening to this short episode of our weekly podcast, you’ll know how to replace the “coo-coo cycle” of commands and consequences with a powerful approach rooted in gentle parenting and kind and firm parenting strategies—C.E.O. (Connection, Encourage Cooperation, Ownership).

Here’s the 4-step gentle parenting approach we’ll explore:

1. Connection First
   Come alongside your child and notice what they’ve been enjoying, or name it. For example:
   “Wow, you’ve been having so much fun building that sandcastle!”
   This builds parent-child connection and helps calm anxiety & emotions for smoother cooperation. 
2. The “Last Thing” Cue
   Like in Daniel Tiger, give a gentle 2–5 minute heads-up and let your child choose their “last thing.” This gives them a sense of control and supports kids with big anxiety & emotions.
3. Empowering Choices
   Use playful, clear choices to make cooperation more fun. Instead of “We have to go,” try:
   “Do you want to hop or gallop to the car?”
   These simple parenting strategies keep your tone kind while keeping limits clear. (From the "Empowering statements" handout) 
4. Two Roads
   If resistance continues, offer two clear options with natural outcomes:
   “You can walk to the car or I can help your body get there. You choose.”
   This tool, inspired by the What Should Danny Do? books, keeps things positive while holding boundaries.

This episode is full of parenting tips & tools that work beautifully with children who find transitions tough. It’s not about being strict—it’s about gentle discipline that helps kids feel seen, safe, and supported.

✨ Looking for more strategies? Check out Episode 111 and Episode 112 for more summer parenting tools.
🎧 And join us next week as we talk about how to

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Friend, if you’re tired of constant tech battles with your kids—especially with summer approaching—this short episode of our weekly podcast is packed with gentle parenting tips & tools to help you create more peace around screens. You’ll learn how to reduce screen dependency, strengthen your parent-child connection, and encourage creative alternatives that keep kids engaged (without constant fights).

By the time you finish listening, you’ll know:

• 3 key habits to stop and 3 key habits to start
• How to grow your child’s boredom “struggle muscles” to build resilience and reduce anxiety & emotions tied to screen time
• Calm parenting tips to regulate tech time and set limits using kind and firm parenting strategies
• How to strategically use tech time to your advantage—linking desired behaviors with technology rewards
• Ways to provide age-appropriate freedoms that satisfy kids’ need for independence and excitement outside of screens

These positive parenting strategies will help you stop power struggles with kids, practice gentle discipline, and create a calmer, more connected home this summer.

For more detailed guidance on creating technology agreements with your children, check out Episode 111: Summer Survival.

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✨ Schedule a FREE 20 min clarity call with Sustainable Parenting, so we can answer any questions you may have. Together, we'll make a plan for your best next steps to have more calm & confidence in parenting - while having kids that listen!:)

✨ Download the FREE pdf. on getting kids to listen, for strategies that take you out of the "gentle mom - monster mom" cycle, with effective positive parenting strategies.

✨ Sign up for an upcoming LIVE ONLINE workshop with Flora, or purchase a past replay: https://sustainableparenting.com/workshop where you get 30 min. of learning and 30 min. of LIVE Q & A time, with replays sent afterwards.

✨ Buy a 3 session Coaching Bundle (saving you $100) - for THREE 30-min sessions 1:1 with ME, where we get right to the heart of your challenges, and give you small, powerful shifts that make a huge difference fast.

Do you ever look ahead to summer and feel a mix of excitement and dread—wondering if the constant battles will leave you counting down the days until school starts again? 

In this short episode of our weekly podcast, we’ll explore gentle parenting strategies that make summer smoother and more joyful, even when challenges arise.

By the time you finish listening, you’ll know:

• What to do when you reach the end of your rope so you can respond with calm confident parenting instead of frustration
• How to solve the five most common summer trouble spots—toys, technology, treats, morning routines, and evening routines—with positive parenting strategies
• The single most important phrase to stop saying if you want to reduce tension and strengthen your parent-child connection
• The best-kept secret to creating more ease in your days—a simple mindset shift that will help you stop power struggles with kids

These calm parenting tips will help you set limits with kind and firm parenting, ease anxiety & emotions, and create a home environment where raising confident kids feels more possible—even in the chaos of summer.

✨ Want even more parenting tips & tools? Join us for a live workshop on June 11th, 12–1pm MST, with 30 minutes of teaching and 30 minutes of Q&A. Register here to save your spot: https://sustainableparenting.com/workshop-4/ 

✨Want more?

✨ Schedule a FREE 20 min clarity call with Sustainable Parenting, so we can answer any questions you may have. Together, we'll make a plan for your best next steps to have more calm & confidence in parenting - while having kids that listen!:)

✨ Download the FREE pdf. on getting kids to listen, for strategies that take you out of the "gentle mom - monster mom" cycle, with effective positive parenting strategies.

✨ Sign up for an upcoming LIVE ONLINE workshop with Flora, or purchase a past replay: https://sustainableparenting.com/workshop where you get 30 min. of learning and 30 min. of LIVE Q & A time, with replays sent afterwards.

✨ Buy a 3 session Coaching Bundle (saving you $100) - for THREE 30-min sessions 1:1 with ME, where we get right to the heart of your challenges, and give you small, powerful shifts that make a huge difference fast.