Kayla Lords hosts this week’s episode, and it’s her longest solo show to date. She spends nearly 20 minutes discussing her tasks as a submissive in a D/s relationship.
While there are no “correct” tasks that Dominants should assign to any submissive, it’s good to understand that whatever task a submissive has may serve multiple purposes – even if that purpose is simply to please a Dominant partner.
From the show:
* Follow Kayla on Twitter (@KaylaLords) and stalk John Brownstone at this site (Southern Sirs Place)
* This week’s episode inspired by a task John Brownstone set for himself, thanks to friend and listener, Lizzy.
* All tasks Dominants give to their submissives are unique but most can be classified in multiple ways.
* Kayla’s tasks are categorized into the tasks that serve him, the tasks that serve her, the tasks that push boundaries, and the sexy, kinky tasks.
* Some tasks are temporary while others are on-going.
* Many tasks can be done in public or around children because they aren’t sexual.
* Most of the tasks that serve his needs are domestic: making lunch, preparing coffee, etc.
* The tasks that serve her needs are good for her health and well-being: exercise, healthy eating, not working too much.
* The tasks that push boundaries have actually made her freak out: Submission Can Be Hard or He Pushed My Boundaries and I Freaked Out
* The sexy tasks have inspired quite a few posts over time:
* When She Kneels For Me (John Brownstone added a recording at the end, too!)
* My Mind Swirls While My Body Remembers (a post about punching – not as scary as it sounds)
* What happens when tasks aren’t completed correctly – a freakout by Kayla and (sometimes) a punishment to fit the “crime”
* The key to changing, adding, removing, or requesting new tasks is always communication.
* Dominants need to let submissives know their plans and listen to what their submissive thinks
* Submissives have a responsibility to let their Dominants know if there’s a problem that is interfering with tasks. Don’t be a superhero and power through if it’s bad for your health but also don’t feel like a failure if something doesn’t get done the way you think it should.
* The episode ends with John Brownstone completing his own special task – a song for the listeners, requested by Lizzy.
For those who can’t listen to the podcast for any particular reason, scroll down to read the full transcript.
Full Transcript
You’re listening to Loving BDSM podcast: episode 7. Today, let’s talk about the tasks that submissives do for their Dominants – and they are as varied as you can imagine. Hey, everybody. Kayla Lords here. Welcome to the Loving BDSM podcast. If this is your first time listening, welcome! We don’t bite, unless you’re into that sort of thing. If you’re back for another week, welcome back! So glad we didn’t scare you away. Loving BDSM is produced every Friday for your kinky pleasure and education and show notes are found at kaylalords.com. Come back often and feel free to add the podcast to your favorite RSS feed or iTunes. If you love what you hear, we’d love a good review on iTunes to help other kinksters find us! You can follow me on Twitter @KaylaLords. And stalk John Brownstone at southernsirsplace.