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We're back to another installment of "What's Missing?" In this episode we look at the fine art of argument- the ability to state your own feelings, position, wants, and needs, while hearing that of another's without becoming defensive or shut off. This ability is critical in healthy differentiated relationships.

We're back to another installment of "What's Missing?" In this episode we look at the fine art of argument- the ability to state your own feelings, position, wants, and needs, while hearing that of another's without becoming defensive or shut off. This ability is critical in healthy differentiated relationships.

There are many ways to get around working a rigorously honest recovery program and keeping recovery just on the edge. We explore the concept of forcing a helpful choice as it relates to healing from addiction.

Jackie and Jon explore the concept of "going through the front door" in recovery. This is a follow up to the series on being a functional adult where we further explore exactly what it looks like to be a functional adult in your day-to-day life.

Balance is ever-elusive for most of us. Functional adults have the ability to come from a centered place rather than the extremes. Jon and Jackie touch on some of the key moments in the growth of their therapy practice and learning to recognize what keeps them coming from the center.

The prompt for this episode is packed with many meaningful things to look at and to consciously work on. It has to do with taking responsibility for what you need and want and being able to responsibly fulfill your needs and wants. Jackie and Jon focus on the skill of asking for help and discuss anti-dependence vs. codependency.

Pia Mellody talks about funcional adults being able to own their own reality and to share it politically. In this episode- we dive into what exactly that means and why it is such a critical skill for emotional health. Jackie makes the distinction between reality and truth as we discuss how it feels to be grounded in our own reality while recognizing that reality may not be shared by others.

Jon and Jackie continue to discuss Pia Melody's concept of the functional adult. In this episode we explore the ability to set boundaries which limit external reality and which protect others from our internal reality when it can be harmful to them. This episode further develops what we talked about in our recent two part series on boundaries.

Jon and Jackie draw on ideas originally presented by Pia Mellody (http://www.piamellody.com/) in a lecture she gave about shame. This episode focuses on the ability that functional adults have to experience appropriate levels of self-esteem and to affirm themselves from within. We look at some of the basic ways that esteem develops- in adulthood and childhood, as well as how to use affirmation that goes beyond what Stuart Smalley taught us in the 1980's

Interestingly, Al Frankin- who played Stuart Smalley- got the idea for the character from attending Al-Anon Meetings for himself.

Jackie and Jon continue the exploration of boundaries with a focus on emotional boundaries. We also dive into some tips for starting to identify your boundaries.