In this episode, Jackie is joined by friend and colleague Rachel Allen to talk about the process of spiritual deconstruction.  We are seeing higher numbers of clients bring their process of deconstruction into the therapy sessions, and there is little to no training for therapists to learn how to support clients during this process.  

In this episode, Jackie talks about disengaged family systems.  Disengaged family systems have a way of powerful shame around emotional needs our need for love and connection.  This family system has a powerful impact on the children raised in them and continues into adulthood until the wounds have been faced and the beliefs that stem from this family system are challenged.    

In this episode, Jackie talks about enmeshed family systems. Jackie talks in more detail about what enmeshed families are, what they look like, and what they feel like.  The short-term and long-term problems associated with enmeshed families and how to begin the healing journey.  

In this episode, Jackie talks about structural family therapy concepts and the types of families identified by Salvador Mnuchin:  healthy/adaptive, disengaged, enmeshed.  This episode is an overview of the types of families and structural family therapy concepts. 

In this podcast episode, Jackie talks about attachment styles, what they are, how they form and how they can impact us in our adult relationships.  This episode is another lens to view ourselves and our relationship patterns in a way that can help us understand and change what needs to change for us to heal our attachment wounds and form secure and healthy relationships. 

In this episode, Jackie talks about the often hidden and unknown condition of childhood emotional neglect.  Our parents may understand the importance of providing for our physical needs as children, but when our emotional needs are neglected and not attuned to, we grow up feeling off.  We may question our feelings and our needs, we might struggle with self-esteem, and are unable to take appropriate risks.  And we may feel disconnected and empty and not understood.

In this final episode in the series on developing a solid sense of self, Jackie talks about how we develop a solid sense of self.  Jackie looks at what researchers in neuroscience are saying about how a self is developed and what trauma research tells us about healing in order to develop a solid sense of self.  

In this episode Jackie talks about self-care and how to approach caring for the self in a way that supports building a "self" and reinforcing the value and worth of who we are.  Self-care can be misunderstood or substituted as a hobby or a bubble bath or golfing.  Those may be things we enjoy and like to do, but is that self-care?

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In this episode, Jackie continues talking about developing the self.  The need to find the lapse in our story caused by adversity or trauma and finishing what is left unfinished in us.  Jackie borrows from great thinkers, writers, and psychoanalysts, and what they have discovered and written about this process. 

In this episode, Jackie takes a lot of writings from Dr. Gabor Mate to help us understand ourselves from the perspectives we don't typically look at ourselves or our stories from.