Dan and Stephanie take a look at the parable of the sower or the parable of the 4 soils found in Matthew 13:1-23 & Mark 4:1-20.

While we understand in context this parable is about the seed being the Word of the Lord, we talk about the soil of your heart being open to change and transformation to the Holy Spirit and call for an examination of what condition the soil of your heart concerning your marriage? How "plowable" and soft are you to learning new things? Trying new things? Giving up old habits?
Dan has spoken in his groups that husband comes from the word farmer in many languages. What kind of farmer are you? Are you caring for your garden and your helping the ground stay soft, or are you throwing salt on the soil or abandoning the field?

Wives, are you open when your husband makes necessary changes and is willing to rebuild trust and safety to forgive? Are you open to new ways of communicating as well?