The Authentic Man Podcast with David Chambers: Dating, Relationship, Masculinity & Intimacy Guidance For Men

In this week's episode, I am joined by Ben Owen, men's coach.

Ben was an elite track athlete from the age of 13 and has worked with some of the best coaches in the UK. He has been surrounded by great men and coaches who were significant people in his life.

They were great figureheads and part of how Ben created discipline and structure in a chaotic household. Around 18 years old, in university, he became a personal trainer. Slowly he began working with more and more people and developed into a business called Fast Way To Fitness, helping people transform their bodies by focusing on boot camps, nutrition and mindset. He used to sit for hours on end in the consultation room with clients and they would talk about life, work, families, sex and all sorts of stuff and rarely talked about food and the results they get.

He had an incredible arc of success, but he was not used to all that money coming in, as a person coming from a poor family. By the time he turned 30 he got married and divorced. Things just started to fall apart for him. Ben noticed for the first time that he had to check in because something was not right. He realized his incessant need to work has turned him into a workaholic and he needed to put on the breaks. He went on a mental retreat where for the first time he could really stop and meditate and engage with yoga practices. He realized there was a lot to work on himself which brought him to men's work. This led to the realization that he likes men's work and decided to get back into coaching.

Key topics include:

⭐️ What Creates Self-Sabotage in Ourselves and How We Can Stop the Pattern

⭐️ Self-Sabotage in Dating life, Business, and Other Aspects

⭐️ What is Men's Work and Why Is it Unattractive for Men

⭐️ The Ego and the Part in Us That Opposes Change

⭐️ Procrastination and the Primal Urges That Break the Flow

⭐️ How To Break Free from the Resistance to Change

⭐️ Developing Inner Connectivity & Self-Trust

⭐️ What Is Real Confidence & How to Foster It

⭐️ Self-Awareness Around Impulsive Decision Making

⭐️ Growth Vs Comfort

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

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Connect WithBen Owen:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachbenjaminowen/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theawakenedmanproject/

Website: https://www.awakenedman.org/

In this week's mini-episode, I talk about a question that I pondered for a number of days and how that relates to Russell Brand and his recent Rape Allegations.

Brian Jenkins' work broadly started about five years ago, just after he and his wife had two weddings for both sides of the family. Then Brian found himself really doing a lot, trying to prove himself as a husband. A little before the wedding, he had another ambitious project that he was putting a lot of effort into, and after coming back from his honeymoon, he felt really exhausted and burned out. That spiralled into depression, self-loathing and pushed him straight into survival mode. Brian recognised that he was in bad shape. There were very few moments where he felt happy. Everything felt like a struggle for him. That was the part where he knew something had to change.

That sent him off on a journey to self-discovery. After getting into his first men's space, he found a coach and mentor. He had to face a lot of things and reconcile different visions he had about his life - Career, Financial, Personal, and Relational. But the thing that rocked his world and vision of becoming a father was when he received the news that he and his wife couldn't have kids.

Key topics include:

⭐️ Communication Issues & How to Deal with Conflicts

⭐️ Preventing Growth By Holding On to Our Partner's Image From the Beginning of the Relationship

⭐️ Being Present With Our Partner Throughout the Relationship

⭐️ Expressing Our Authentic & Current Needs Without Seeking Wrongness In Our Partner

⭐️ What to Do In a Relationship When Our Partner is Not Doing the Work

⭐️ Understanding Our Triggers In a Relationship

⭐️ Recognizing If We Are in Love With the Partner Or In an Image We Want Them To Be

⭐️ How To Move Out Of the Space of Continuous Rupture In a Relationship

⭐️ Holding Space For Multiple Truths

⭐️ Why Do We Struggle With Empathy & Seeing Our Partner's Point of View

⭐️ Why Men Struggle With Women's Intense Expression of Emotions

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe

Connect With Brian Jenkins:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/brianchristianjenkins/

In this week's episode, what I see as what makes a 'strong man' by exploring the different components of strength.

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

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Ahmad Jooma is a curious observer of human behaviour, focusing on life fulfilment as an artist and coach.

Over a decade of personal growth, he's identified his superpower—emotional resilience—forged through self-exploration and experiences.

Ahmad enables children and men in accessing and expressing their emotions, guiding them past obstacles.

By authentically sharing his vulnerabilities and drawing from his background as a care director, he empowers others to develop their authenticity, vulnerability, and emotional resilience.

Ahmad Jooma and I were doing this podcast together back in the days when it was called The Authentic Dating. Since he stepped away he went on to explore the concept of fear and how we interact with fear. The concept that he came up with is a character called Shook Man. It's a name and a face behind that little voice in our head that tells us what we can and can't do, telling us a million different things that are going to go wrong.

Key topics include:

⭐️ The Many Shades of Fear & How It Can Show Up in Our Lives

⭐️ Seeking Validation Outside of Ourselves & The Need to Outgrow This Phase

⭐️ The Fear of Initiation and The Call to Continually Step Into the Unknown

⭐️ The Fear of Commitment, Fear of Rejection, Fear of Failure

⭐️ Visualizing the Potential Future of Staying In Our Comfort Zones

⭐️ The Sense of Safety and Playing Small

⭐️ The Importance of Cultivating Joy As an Antidote to Our Fears

⭐️ Self Acceptance - The Biggest Challenge of Feeling Joy

⭐️ How To Connect to Ourselves & Face Our Inner Shook Man

⭐️ Creating a Structure That Will Support Us On The Journey Through Fear

⭐️ The Inevitability of Pain & Optionality of Suffering

⭐️ Working with Kids on Fears and Developing Emotional Awareness

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe

Connect With Ahmad Jooma:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/ahmad.jooma/ && https://www.instagram.com/shook.man/

Website: https://www.shookman.com/

Alex Mischka is an embodied men's work facilitator. He is also doing intimacy relationship and sexuality coaching. He loves helping people return to their hearts, understand their blueprints, their true nature, and how they operate as beings in intimacy and relationships.

From an early age, the archetype of the lover from Jungian psychology was strongly expressed in his personality. He had this kind of pulse, and it took him a long time to go through his rite of passage. As a man who has lost his father at quite an early age, he was quite lost. His 20s were the lost years, a lot of drug addiction, confusion, debt and wrecked relationships. This led Alex to his dark night of the soul, where he realized the need to fix all that was happening, which marked the beginning of his healing work.

Initially, the lens of dating, social connection and especially how to really connect with women was the driver of this work. Then he discovered David Deida, things like shadow work, Carl Young, the archetypal realm and the inner child. So he began training in a number of modalities, and here he is today, about five years down the line, doing the incredible work that he does.

Key topics include:

⭐️ The Men's Experience with Sexuality & the Lost Touch with the Essence of Feeling

⭐️ Jungian Archetypes - The Lover, The Warrior, The King

⭐️ The Noble Art of Seduction, a Co-Creative Dance

⭐️ Relationships, Conscious Communication and Healthy Relating

⭐️ Masculine Conditioning, Waiting to the Last Moment Before Seeking Help

⭐️ Sexual Leadership, Active Listening, & Letting Go the Need to Fix Things

⭐️ The 3 Stages of Needs - Selfish Needs, Couple's Needs, The Needs of the Present Moment

⭐️ Dark and Light Masculine & Feminine Energy

⭐️ Surrendering to the Experience of the Submissive Role

⭐️ The Beauty of Erotic Energy, Eros, Erotic Blueprints & Understanding Sexual Needs

⭐️ Periods & Menstrual Cycles

⭐️ Shadow Work

✅ I have just opened up registration for the upcoming September 2023 cohort of my 12-week programme "Being An Authentic Masculine Man", AKA B.A.A.M.M. Register interest here: https://forms.gle/rb4MJfo6XdHVXEG49

🔥What other men said after being on the programme:

👉🏽 "I'm not the same person I was before I entered it. This program has completely changed me"

👉🏽 "The programme helped me to distil and strengthen learnings I had but wasn't yet able to use effectively. It unlocked a core of self-belief and positive energy I hadn't tapped into before"

👉🏽 "I feel ready to create the life that I want for myself"

👉🏽 "It's been one of the most valuable, enriching and life-affirming experiences of my life"

👉🏽 "I think this was one of the most profound learnings I have had about the type of life I want."

The registration link: https://forms.gle/rb4MJfo6XdHVXEG49

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe

Connect With Alex Mischka:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/alex_mischka/

Website - www.alexmischka.com

3 month mens Programme - https://alexmischka.com/mens-coaching

3 month women's programme - https://alexmischka.com/womens-coaching

3 month couples programme - https://alexmischka.com/couples-coaching

I am also offering a 50% discount on access to the self study of the EBBC - Erotic Blueprints Breakthrough Course - enquiries via DM.

In this week's episode, I am doing something a little different. I take two critical moments from Arsenal's draw with Fulham and use them as examples of how we react and act in our dating lives and relationships, especially in the face of rejection, fear of making mistakes, fear of failure and how we respond to things not going our way.

✅ 1 week to register for my upcoming September 2023 cohort of my 12-week programme "Being An Authentic Masculine Man", AKA B.A.A.M.M. Register interest here: https://forms.gle/rb4MJfo6XdHVXEG49

🔥What other men said after being on the programme:

👉🏽 "I'm not the same person I was before I entered it. This program has completely changed me"

👉🏽 "The programme helped me to distil and strengthen learnings I had but wasn't yet able to use effectively. It unlocked a core of self-belief and positive energy I hadn't tapped into before"

👉🏽 "I feel ready to create the life that I want for myself"

👉🏽 "It's been one of the most valuable, enriching and life-affirming experiences of my life"

👉🏽 "I think this was one of the most profound learnings I have had about the type of life I want."

The registration link: https://forms.gle/rb4MJfo6XdHVXEG49

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe

This week's is am joined by two wonderful women and former guests. And we dive into the delicate topic of loving and making love to women that have experienced sexual trauma. This is something that I don't feel is talked about enough.

Amy is the founder of the Temple Of The Feminine, her titles change from time to time but essentially her expertise is in female sexuality from a holistic space. That includes embodiment trauma, understanding anatomy, pleasure and the esoteric as well.

As for Amelia, For the last three years she has been working as a sexual healer in London. Her passion is creating safe and sacred spaces for people to come home to their body, their pleasure and their sexuality. She is currently transitioning into a facilitation role - facilitating group experiences. She has really been to the depths of the darkness with her clients who have been navigating the quagmire of hell that is sexual trauma, and when it's causing challenges and discomfort in their life. Her approach is leaning towards more spiritual than physiological, and she has seen amazing results from that.

Key topics include:

⭐️ Understanding Women Who Have Experienced Sexual Trauma.

⭐️ How Men Can Spot The Signs of Sexually Traumatized Women & Help Create More Connection, Depth & Safety

⭐️ The Difficulty For Men That Are In a Relationship With a Women Who Have Experienced Sexual Trauma

⭐️ What Is Sexual Trauma and How It Shows Up In Our Relationships

⭐️ What is Safety and How to Find It In Our Own Body

⭐️ Ways to Release Trauma From The Body

⭐️ Communication Structures To Understand a Traumatized Partner

⭐️ The Importance of Consent and How It Can be Made Sexy and Fun

⭐️ The Negative Aspects of Our Desire For Spontaneity In Sex

⭐️ The Rushing To Penetration & Not Being Present During Sex

✅1 week left to register for the upcoming September 2023 cohort of my 12-week programme "Being An Authentic Masculine Man", AKA B.A.A.M.M. Register interest here: https://forms.gle/rb4MJfo6XdHVXEG49

🔥What other men said after being on the programme:

👉🏽 "I'm not the same person I was before I entered it. This program has completely changed me"

👉🏽 "The programme helped me to distil and strengthen learnings I had but wasn't yet able to use effectively. It unlocked a core of self-belief and positive energy I hadn't tapped into before"

👉🏽 "I feel ready to create the life that I want for myself"

👉🏽 "It's been one of the most valuable, enriching and life-affirming experiences of my life"

👉🏽 "I think this was one of the most profound learnings I have had about the type of life I want."

The registration link: https://forms.gle/rb4MJfo6XdHVXEG49

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe

Connect With Amy White:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/templeofthefeminine

Website: https://www.templeofthefeminine.com/

Connect With Amelia Griffiths:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alchemywithamelia/ & https://www.instagram.com/templeandwand/

In this week's mini-episode, I talk about an area that I see that men are hugely underdeveloped in, and that hurts dating lives and relationships. And that is self and emotional expression. As If you struggle to express what you feel and you struggle with expressing who you are, creating a deep connection and a loving and harmonious relationship is pretty much impossible.

✅ 1 week to register for my upcoming September 2023 cohort of my 12-week programme "Being An Authentic Masculine Man", AKA B.A.A.M.M. Register interest here: https://forms.gle/rb4MJfo6XdHVXEG49

🔥What other men said after being on the programme:

👉🏽 "I'm not the same person I was before I entered it. This program has completely changed me"

👉🏽 "The programme helped me to distil and strengthen learnings I had but wasn't yet able to use effectively. It unlocked a core of self-belief and positive energy I hadn't tapped into before"

👉🏽 "I feel ready to create the life that I want for myself"

👉🏽 "It's been one of the most valuable, enriching and life-affirming experiences of my life"

👉🏽 "I think this was one of the most profound learnings I have had about the type of life I want."

The registration link: https://forms.gle/rb4MJfo6XdHVXEG49

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe

In this week's episode, I am joined by Daniel, otherwise known as Nice-ish Psychologist, as we dive deep into what makes us Us and how trauma and masculinity shape how we view ourselves and the world around us.

Daniel is a qualified clinical and forensic psychologist. Currently works within Secure Care under the NHS' mental health system and His Majesty's Prison and Probation Service. He works primarily with men and women who we would consider at a higher risk of reoffending, particularly the ones that fall under the banner of having what we would ordinarily call a personality disorder. The goal of his work is to develop a good comprehensive understanding on a personal level and better target their individual intervention needs.

Key topics include:

⭐️ Character, Personality Traits, View of the Self & the World

⭐️ Helping People Who Have Committed Crimes to Develop Skills & Rehabilitate

⭐️ Murder, Sexual Assault and Sexual Crimes Against Children

⭐️ Generational Trauma and Life Journeys that Lead to Committing Serious Crimes

⭐ The Importance of Meaning, Perspective, Empathy, Compassion & Accountability.

⭐️ Types of Personality Disorders, Narcissism

⭐️ How Masculinity Shape everything a man does and Thinks

⭐️ Expanding the Perspective on How We See Criminals

⭐️ Developing an Awareness of Cause and Effect of Our Choices

⭐️ Reestablishing Faith in Humanity

⭐️ Holding People in Unconditional Positive Regard

⭐️ Addressing The High Crime Rate Among the Male Part of Society

✅ I have just opened up registration for the upcoming September 2023 cohort of my 12-week programme "Being An Authentic Masculine Man", AKA B.A.A.M.M. Register interest here: https://forms.gle/rb4MJfo6XdHVXEG49

🔥What other men said after being on the programme:

👉🏽 "I'm not the same person I was before I entered it. This program has completely changed me"

👉🏽 "The programme helped me to distil and strengthen learnings I had but wasn't yet able to use effectively. It unlocked a core of self-belief and positive energy I hadn't tapped into before"

👉🏽 "I feel ready to create the life that I want for myself"

👉🏽 "It's been one of the most valuable, enriching and life-affirming experiences of my life"

👉🏽 "I think this was one of the most profound learnings I have had about the type of life I want."

The registration link: https://forms.gle/rb4MJfo6XdHVXEG49

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe

Connect With nice-ish Psychologist:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_nice_ish_psychologist/

Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/55sMzvNUv0uNnyRWaloZKX?si=8607d1422eaa4e6e

Blog: https://theniceishpsychologist.substack.com/