The Aware Show

 Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed or depressed? Did you know if you feel overwhelmed, you may have an underlying need for clarity? Would you like to be a better communicator and able to express and understand these needs? To further explain the concept of “needs-based” communication, Lisa continues her conversation today with Communications Specialist and Expert Coach Bill Stierle. Bill explains the importance of generating empathy before immediately offering ideas and solutions. 

He also discusses the ideas of trauma, mourning, and celebration. He believes that trauma prevents us from mourning. If we cannot fully mourn, then we also cannot eventually celebrate. He asks us to examine these feelings. Bill is also an expert Parenting Coach and invites us to find out why children may say, “No” as a response to what you are asking. By being empathetic and compassionate first, this will help you determine their missing needs.  

Bill Stierle has been working with individuals, couples, and families for more than 30 years. He has coached thousands of people and has taught numerous workshops locally and nationally on topics that address personal and professional effectiveness, relationships, and parenting. The material Bill presents is designed for people who want to create more ease and effectiveness within their relationships, both at home and work. His latest book is “The Emotional Sobriety Solution: Have More Joy in Your Life in Less Than 30 Days.” This is Part 2 of the interview. Info: BillStierle.com. 

Can healing affirmations actually work? Absolutely! And Louise Hay, author of the international mega-bestseller “You Can Heal Your Life,” will share more of her wisdom as Lisa continues the conversation today. Louise is a metaphysical lecturer and teacher with more than 50 million books sold worldwide. For more than 30 years, she has helped people throughout the world discover and implement the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth and self-healing. She has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show and many other TV and radio programs both in the U.S. and abroad. She is also the founder of Hay House Publishing, specializing in personal growth and development media. Today she talks about positive affirmations toward money, healing, self-worth, and so much more. She believes that more people than ever are searching for answers and ways they can take control of their lives and their thinking. Positive affirmations work! This is Part 2 of the conversation. Info: HayHouse.com and LouiseHay.com

Did you know that the #1 reason couples break up is because of lack of communication? Did you know miscommunication happens very frequently in the workplace too? Would you like to be a better communicator all around? Our guest today is Communications Specialist and Expert Coach Bill Stierle, who talks deeply about the subject of “needs-based” communication. Bill has a groundbreaking way of understanding language and coaches people to communicate in healthy, compassionate, and productive ways.  

Today Bill talks about thinking, learning, and communication styles based on the “Herrmann Brain Dominance Model” and the “Needs-Based Communication” technique. He helps us with our ability to develop communication and compassion. He and Lisa discuss various types of communication including parenting skills and how to effectively communicate with children and other family members. 

Bill advises us to be empathic first, especially before starting to make suggestions and offer solutions. He says to “guess” what the person may be feeling, and what they may be missing. He suggests repeating what the person says for clearer understanding. 

Bill also suggests using the word “torn” several times a day and asking someone, “Could you be feeling ‘torn’?” For example, that can be a source of miscommunication. Maybe you want to go out and have fun, but you know you have work to do first. This leads to a feeling of being “torn.” 

They also discuss how division in this country appears to be at an all-time high. And each side believes their needs are most important. We tend to “manage” feelings rather than addressing them. Through needs-based communication, you try to find the word for the feeling that’s arising. Bill explains that feelings are only indicators. They are neither positive nor negative. They indicate what emotion is happening. He offers tips for observation to help determine what the need may be.  

Basic needs include the need for Choice. You can practice by clarifying the choice. Ask someone, for example, if they would prefer to go see a movie, or would they rather stay home and order dinner? Or are they torn? Consideration, trust, truth, respect, creativity, and acknowledgement are all very common needs.  

Bill Stierle has been working with individuals, couples, and families for more than 30 years. He has coached thousands of people and has taught numerous workshops locally and nationally on topics that address personal and professional effectiveness, relationships, and parenting. The material Bill presents is designed for people who want to create more ease and effectiveness within their relationships, both at home and work. His latest book is “The Emotional Sobriety Solution: Have More Joy in Your Life in Less Than 30 Days.” This is Part 1 of the interview. Info: https://www.billstierle.com/

 Do you believe that your mind plays a role in healing? Are you familiar with the power of positive affirmations? Today’s guest fully believes in the power of the mind and what an incredible honor it is to have on the show mega-bestselling author of “You Can Heal Your Life” Louise Hay. She is also the founder of the world’s largest self-help publishing company, Hay House.  Today she’s talking with Lisa about the movie “You Can Heal Your Life” which contains hours of footage and plenty of positive affirmations that you, too, can use to heal your life. 

Louise discusses her journey with cancer and how she took a positive approach to turn toward optimal health. She made the decision that she would heal her life and life brought her people who were all able to help including nutritionists, teachers, and others. After six months, the medical community declared her cancer-free. Her diet and affirmations were so important, but most importantly Louise says she learned to forgive. After a very challenging childhood filled with abuse, she knew she was carrying resentment and knew she needed to release it. She looked into the childhoods of her parents and realized they both came from very difficult places and passed along what they learned. This was the key to forgiving them both. She talks about affirmations which heal including, “All is well”; “Only good will come of this”; “Everything is working out for my highest good”;  and “I am safe.” This is Part 1 of the conversation, and we air this in her honor. Louise Hay made her transition on Aug 31, 2017, at the age of 90. Info: HayHouse.com and LouiseHay.com

Do you often feel stressed? Does worry affect your sleep? Did you know stress can also influence the health of our brain? Today’s guest, Dr. Nancy Lonsdorf, explains the importance of getting good nighttime rest as a way to strengthen our brains and immune systems.  Dr Lonsdorf is an integrative physician and Ayurvedic practitioner who specializes in Women’s Health & Executive Wellness. 

She was named “one of the nation’s most prominent Ayurvedic doctors” by the Chicago Tribune and received her medical degree from the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine and residency training in psychiatry at Stanford University.  

Today she explains how if we have chronic, repetitive stress it can damage our brain's hippocampus. The more chronic the stress, the less time the brain has to heal. We are programmed to heal. You can have a good memory and sharp mind even at an older age. Yet, sleep may become much more fragmented as we get older. This is our most restorative time and it’s important for the cleansing, circulation system in our brain to flush and build our immune system. As an author, speaker, and educator she shares her knowledge today in women’s health, brain health, and executive wellness so we can have optimal brain energy and clarity. 

Dr. Lonsdorf is the bestselling author of four groundbreaking books on integrative health and wellness, including: “The Healthy Brain Solution for Women Over 40,” “The Ageless Woman,” and co-author of “A Woman’s Best Medicine” and “Your Mind-Brain Reboot.”  

She offers free self-care quizzes to determine your Ayurvedic stress type and digestive type, along with personalized weekly tips to set you on the path to greater health and well-being, naturally. Info: www.drlonsdorf.com

Wouldn’t we all like to have more fun? Can you imagine having fun at your workplace as well?  Lisa continues her conversation today with Clinton Swaine, founder of Frontier Trainings.   Clinton talks about how he incorporates play and games into the corporate world to help build cohesive teams for business success.  Clinton Swaine is the founder, owner, and lead trainer of Frontier Trainings, the world’s leader in experiential business trainings.  Along with running and operating his training company for the past decade, Clinton has shared the stage with many world-renowned speakers, and with more than 200 unique games, exercises, and processes which teach a vast range of business, personal development, and speaking skills, he is widely recognized as the leader in his field.  Info: FrontierTrainings.com

 It’s “Back to School” time for the vast majority of students, but what if your children are stressed or afraid to be in a classroom again? How do you handle their fears as a parent? According to parenting expert Susan Stiffelman, your children may actually be your greatest teacher.  The very behaviors that push every parent’s buttons, can actually be used to help them build awareness and shed old patterns, allowing them to raise their children with ease and enjoyment. Listen today as Susan shares practical advice and exercises from her book, “Parenting with Presence.” Susan Stiffelman, MFT, is an internationally respected parent educator, therapist, author, and parenting expert. She is the Huffington Post’s weekly parenting advice columnist (Parent Coach) and the author of “Parenting Without Power Struggles.” Her latest book is “Parenting with Presence: Practices for Raising Conscious, Confident, Caring Kids.” Info: SusanStiffelman.com

Would you like to bring more fun into your life? How about into your workplace? Some believe that you “can learn more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.”  And that’s certainly true in Clinton Swaine’s experience in his company, Frontier Trainings.  Join Lisa today as she talks with Clinton about how he incorporates play and games into the corporate world to help build cohesive teams for business success.  Clinton Swaine is the founder, owner, and lead trainer of Frontier Trainings, the world’s leader in experiential business trainings.  Along with running and operating his training company for the past decade, Clinton has shared the stage with many world-renowned speakers, and with more than 200 unique games, exercises, and processes which teach a vast range of business, personal development, and speaking skills, he is widely recognized as the leader in his field.  Info: FrontierTrainings.com. 

It’s “Back to School” time for the vast majority of students, but what if your children are stressed or afraid to be in a classroom again? How do you handle their fears as a parent? According to parenting expert Susan Stiffelman, your children may actually be your greatest teacher.  The very behaviors that push every parent’s buttons, can actually be used to help them build awareness and shed old patterns, allowing them to raise their children with ease and enjoyment. Listen today as Susan shares practical advice and exercises from her book, “Parenting with Presence.” Susan Stiffelman, MFT, is an internationally respected parent educator, therapist, author, and parenting expert. She is the Huffington Post’s weekly parenting advice columnist (Parent Coach) and the author of “Parenting Without Power Struggles.” Her latest book is “Parenting with Presence: Practices for Raising Conscious, Confident, Caring Kids.” Info: SusanStiffelman.com. 

Do you know you can easily switch your emotions? What if you are feeling angry or really upset? You can change those feelings right away, according to our guest today, New York Times bestselling author Peggy McColl. She is an internationally recognized expert in the area of goal achievement and explains how we have the option to choose. She talks about her latest book “Your Destiny Switch,” and shares ways that you can grasp the power of your emotions.  She teaches us that we CAN choose our emotions – but it takes some training.  She offers ideas and tips to try to reduce stress and change our emotions. 

Peggy is an expert in helping experts create best-selling products. With her goal achievement seminars, speaking engagements, and books, she has been inspiring individuals, professional athletes, and organizations to realize their goals and reach their maximum potential for the past several decades. She guides people to move toward a powerful, fulfilling destiny. Her purpose is to make a positive contribution to the lives of millions!  Info: PeggyMcColl.com.