TRIGGER WARNING: Some reference to physical violence, domestic violence, aggression, and death.
In this episode, the host is joined by John (alias), a former frontline police officer with experience in dealing with domestic violence cases. They discuss why people stay in abusive relationships from a police perspective, exploring both the legal and emotional aspects of the issue. John shares insights based on his years of handling domestic incidents, emphasizing the importance of separating the parties involved to gather unbiased information. He acknowledges the frustration that arises when vulnerable individuals subjected to abuse withdraw their complaints, making it difficult to hold perpetrators accountable. The conversation delves into the complexities of the dynamics, including the cycle of abuse, fear, financial dependency, and the normalization of violence. They also touch upon the psychological impact on both the abused and the abuser, examining the loss of self-worth and the power dynamics at play. The discussion highlights the generational aspect of abuse and how individuals may perpetuate patterns witnessed in their own upbringing. They address the challenges faced by vulnerable individuals in seeking help and the efforts being made by domestic violence units to provide better support and guidance throughout the legal process. The episode concludes with a reminder that support is available and that progress is being made in breaking down barriers and improving training for law enforcement, ultimately fostering a safer environment for people to come forward.

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Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships.

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